What do guys want their gfs to do if she hurt them with her words and accusations?

[Radiate143]

Should she stay silent back?

Reach out?

What is the best thing to do?

[dynamicyandere]

Definitely don’t just stay silent if you said hurtful things — otherwise it’ll seem like you really meant it.


You can apologize for saying hurtful things and just apologize for any behavior that you would deem unfit for a good girlfriend to do. (e. g. If you cussed at him or acted disrespectful or gave him a bad attitude, or just said some really mean things for example, a good girlfriend would do none of those things.)


Guys tend to be fixers. So if you’re apologizing, they will also want the issue to be ‘fixed’ so it’s important to also let them know a solution you have as well.


A way you could apologize is following something like: I’m sorry for [what you did to hurt them]. I really didn’t mean to hurt you. I’ll try to [explain how you are going to do things differently moving forward].


They have to sense sincerity in your words, in your tone, in your voice.


Most guys will accept a sincere apology, as long as it’s done correctly (e. g. You need to be specific about what you’re apologizing for, because it’s how a guy knows that you understand what you did that hurt them. Otherwise, you could hurt them again if you didn’t know what you did. Which is also why it’s good to let them know a solution.)

[dynamicyandere]

If it’s through text or a voice message, and they don’t respond right away. That’s fine. Give them time. They’ll respond when they’re ready. But it’s best to apologize sooner rather than later. And make sure that your sincerity comes through and is felt.

[Radiate143]

So say your boyfriend is short or grumpy still reads your texts and answers if you call him but isn't really reaching out what is going on in all probability.

[dynamicyandere]

@Radiate143 If he’s still being distant after you’ve sincerely apologized, then he’s still trying to cool off. Not responding immediately can be a good sign because if he’s really angry it could be him wanting to make sure he doesn’t say anything hurtful he doesn’t mean while he’s still angry. If he wants cool off some more before responding, just allow him that space. It’s good to get that apology out though — just so that he knows and so that things don’t get worse. When he comes around, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to apologize again as well, since he’ll be able to receive it better once his head has cleared.

[dynamicyandere]

When things cool off, it would be could to make sure things are fully resolved as well, so the issue doesn’t resurface in the future, it it wasn’t completely addressed.

With my S/O and I, we make sure that everything on my end and on her end is fully resolved before completely moving on.

Because I know from personal experience how unresolved issues and slowly deteriorate a relationship if just swept under the rug.

[dynamicyandere]

@radiate143 You can say something along the lines of, “I’m really sorry for what happened. I hope you feel better soon. You seem like you want so space right now, so I want to respect that and give you some space. Please let me know when you’re ready to talk again. I’m here for you. Just let me know, okay?”

So a fusion between apology and letting him know you’re there for him and letting him come to you when he’s ready.

[dynamicyandere]

want some space*

[NathanDavis]

what kind of accusations? which kind of words?

the "best thing to do" or to approach these things should be based on the context and the actual circumstances...

what if her accusations are about something I actually did wrong...

what if her accusations are about something I didn't do and she was wrong...

these two could have very different approaches...

[love_conquers_lust]

Depends on intent. If it’s constructive, I’d want to hear the truth.

If it’s destructive, sometimes I’d lash back at that behavior in that moment or callous up in a stoic way. I’d be especially irritated if it’s a truth I’ve already heard before and can’t do anything about. I despise malevolent lies.

I try to take constructive criticism, but I also don’t need a second voice in my ears telling me to not forget to hold my dick when I take a piss, or open my mouth when I yawn, or expand my chest when I take my breath. I don’t need a micromanager.

So, abide by the golden rule and hopefully you chose a good partner that appreciates the way you treat yourself. Then they should trust in you treating them the same way. If you don’t feel good about what you said or did, make it right.

[Radiate143]

me to not forget to hold my dick when I take a piss

I think you've got that under control 🫣😅🤣

[Jennz6]

Say you are so sorry and give him a Blowjob 💯💃

[dynamicyandere]

Lol, this could work if a cheeky response is appropriate.

But, if she did something seriously f*cked up, this won’t cut it.

Unless they’re with the kind of guy that will ignore everything as long as the sex is good.

[Jennz6]

@dynamicyandere it works for me

[dynamicyandere]

Then you haven’t made a mistake that an apology and blowjob can’t fix, which is good.

If you ever made a mistake that an apology and blowjob truly couldn’t fix, then that would be one hell of a mistake, haha.

[Jennz6]

@dynamicyandere you’re not the same as everyone

[RedInnocent68]

@jennz6 you’re not wrong. 🤔😉😂

[WhiteBoyChill]

We’re guys. For us its very simple.

Just a hug and a kiss, an “I’m sorry” and “I appreciate you more than you could ever know” is enough

[Radiate143]

And if he ignores her after that...

[WhiteBoyChill]

Then move on

[Raaj4you]

Gfs must apologize, give kisses, hugs, cuddle 🤗 and give BJs to their boyfriend until he accepts your apology.

[dudeinohio]

Reach out. Communicate.

[Radiate143]

Then why not respond when she does

[dudeinohio]

Well... true.

[RedInnocent68]

What @jennz6 said… 😂