There is a woman I am completly and utterly in love with and have been from the second I heard her voice over the phone when we spoke to each other the first time for work.
It didn't take long for us to form a friendship. Almost immediately. And over a short time we became very close emotionally. We were talking to each other several times every day, but never meeting in person. We met once when I drove to her town on her birthday. I was there for something else but if I'm honest, that thing was an excuse to try and see her. She agreed but I think we were both shy, not many words were exchanged and I left feeling soo deflated. Until she phoned me a couple of hours later and asked why I didn't want to stay with her longer. We called each other 8 times that day after meeting in the morning.
She supported me when my Grandad died. She knew something was wrong and called me to find out. I don't know how she knew, there was no way she could, but she did. My Grandad was my favourite person, and she helped me through it.
This relationship has existed for 2 years now. Although we are not as close as we once were. She used to answer every call whether she was available or not. Even in her sleep. Now she goes hours before texting me back, if she texts back at all. Its been worse over the past couple of months. She won't take my calls, and she texts me as an aquantance rather than a friend. I really miss the relationship we had, and I miss her.
My life before her was not good. She tempted me out of my shell in to the big wide world and has inspired me to live my life. I'm doing things now which I never thought I'd ever do. I'm developing and becoming a better man for me, but because of her.
I want to tell her all of this. I want to thank her before I lose her entirely. I don't know what her reaction will be, I think she won't respond at all and that will be the end. But I don't want the regret of not telling her. I have enough of those.
Is sending my text a good idea?
I doubt she even read it, so there's my answer.
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Okay- It is a good idea to do this. Maybe you find out once and for all if there is the possibility of a relationship. However, doing this with a text is not good enough. Find a card that expresses your thoughts. Then put a hand written letter in it. It does not have to be weird. Just explain the whole thing.
Then after you read it over, put a stamp on it and mail it. Either you hear back or you don't. Either way you get your answer
I would like to do this, but I don't know her address. She's moved since I visited her. I know the area, but not the street or house number
Damn, the internet has all kinds of ways to get an address. Get creative. An old person like me usually can find it. You should have no trouble.
If u wanna confess never do it via text it looks insincere
How else can I do it?
She dosent answer my calls and I don't know her address. If I could tell her in person, I'm not sure it would all come out how I want anyway. I'm a much better writer than a speaker.
I have asked why we haven't talked in a while, her response was that she dosent have much to say these days 😕
Lol messaging makes it seem creepy and insincere. Why u love her
Oh. I don't want creepy 😟
It was an isntantantious feeling. I don't know why her. I'd never felt anything like it before. I just did. And over time, as we got closer and learned about each other, the jigsaw came together.
What did u learn about her and yourself
She might have been using you, be careful she doesn't let you down.
I really really hope not. But the thought has crossed my mind a few times. I choose to believe it was genuine. But even if not, I'm fluroishing as a person because of her.
How are u flourishing
@Tharithi I'm standing up for myself. I'm living a life. I'm growing in confidence. I'm exploring the world solo. I'm taking risks. I'm working on myself mentally and physically. I'm moving to the other side of the country to start a new job next week! Before her, life was wake up, work, sleep, repeat. I accepted how life was and didn't think it was possible for any more, so never even considered trying. She inspired and encouraged me.