I found my toxic exs nudes online... Do I tell her or not risk it?

[Anonymous]

She def didn't post those herself but she was horrible to me so don't want to unblock her

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+1 y

Sorry but I'm not showing the pics

[wiltingrosepetal]

Unless her face was clearly in them, it'll sound so creepy for you to say 'hey, I recognised this photo as your nude body!' ... best not to go through that conversation.

Plus, the cat's only dead once you open the box. If she has no idea about this, were her nudes really leaked? I say just leave well enough alone. She might figure it out on her own, and if she doesn't, the cat is both alive and dead

[Asker]

Ok that makes sense
Her face is in it but I don't know if she knows they're online

[Account]

A suspicious version of myself would think that you took those and posted them and now you want to find an excuse to talk to her. I hope I am wrong and I hope people aren't this vile and manipulative.

But based on the things that I have noticed over the years I think that is a huge possibility, otherwise you wouldn't pay mind to it.

[Asker]

I understand why people think that and you're not the first who does
It wasn't me who posted them and the pics look like they were taken recently and we haven't been together for 8 years
Never before have I found nudes online of someone I know personally so it stuck with me

[AviatorTom]

She probably already knows about them, and even if she doesn't... Your telling her about them would only raise questions in her mind... what were you doing to find them? Were you stalking her?

[Asker]

Ye that's my main concern that she thinks I was looking for them
I was surprised to see them on a forum and had to do a double take

[BoopBoopBeep]

Or she thinks he posted them.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[OlderAndWiser]

Tell her and then she can accuse you of posting them.

[RavenDarkheart]

I wouldn’t take that chance if I were you. I appreciate the fact you are trying to be a good guy and tell her, but honestly she may try to say you posted them if she’s really that toxic. Unfortunately (for her) once something is out there on the internet it’s there forever. I can see no good outcome for you in telling her.

[wolfcat87]

Send her a screenshot and link to it with a message saying, "Someone did this, and I felt the need to warn you but don't want to be in contact still." Then re-block. Job well done at that point.

[Jamie05rhs]

I personally would advise against that. Because then she'll think that he had something to do with it.

[wolfcat87]

@Jamie05rhs Not really, that's why I said do it that way specifically.

[jaskin777]

Nah don't tell her since she was horrible to u karma a bitch

[Asker]

Ok haha
Ye she was horrible the last years of the relationship but I don't want anyone to be hurt

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... "I don't want anyone to be hurt". Well, some other guy she was banging took and posted those pictures, so don't worry about "hurting anyone".

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... the moral high ground is overrated in such situations.

[sawno]

Up to you if you find it worth it. She'd probably want to know, but at the same time if you don't want the hassle its not your responsibility to contact someone you are on bad terms with.

[Asker]

I haven't talked to her in years
Maybe it wouldn't be too bad to text her but I'm unsure

[Ms_Facesitter]

She probably already knows, and if she doesn't she might blame you. I would let it be. People have to move on from exes.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I would copy and paste her everywhere... I'd make her feel my hate. I'd expose her at any given chance. I'd blank out the naughty bits for regular sights and post it there too. I would have no remorse.

[KrakenAttackin]

@d_bone_steak. Exactly.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

If you tell her she will blame you for posting them Great old saying LEAVE A SLEEPING DOG ALONE

[NamerOfStars]

Is there a third party you're both in contact with? You may be able to get word to her without having to speak to her directly.

[Asker]

That is a good idea
Hope I don't make her best friend feel creeped out if I talk to her
I will think about it!!

[Anonymous]

She's the idiot. Why even send those in the first place?

[Asker]

I don't know why but she never did with me

[Opinion Owner]

Lol. Then how do you know it's her?

[Asker]

Cuz I know what she looks like
She never sent me nudes

[Opinion Owner]

You said she didn't send u nudes.

[Asker]

Ye but I dated her in real life lol
I saw her naked in person

[Opinion Owner]

And she's showing her face?

[Asker]

In the pics I found online you can see her face ye

[Opinion Owner]

Lol she's an idiot. It's not your fault. You didn't tell her to send nudes.

[Asker]

Her body changed a lot so maybe people won't even care about the nudes

[Opinion Owner]

She turned fat?

[Asker]

Ye a little
She looks unhealthy now not cuz of the fat but cuz of her lifestyle

[Opinion Owner]

Same shit

[Staximus]

Do not engage! I repeat, do not engage!

Do you really need her and her problems back in your life?

[RavVid]

I think telling a toxic would be sweet revenge

[JustinTheGreat]

I would tell her. Nobody wants their nudes exposed online, she has the right to know

[YesterdaysChild]

Were you the one who took the pics and placed them online? You certainly knew where to look for them. 🤔

[Asker]

The pics look like they are from years after we broke up
Not that hard to find since they were posted on a forum about the area we live in and I am on that forum too

[loveslongnails]

Unblock her, send her the info, then block her again.

[CallmeTheKnight]

Clearly, she messed with the wrong person. You can tell her if you want, but leave it at that.

[Twalli]

If you don't care about her don't tell her, if you do, tell her.

[lemonsandmelons]

Yes, for your own conscience. Obviously you have a good heart. Take care of it.

[lemonsandmelons]

It's your most valuable possession and it's what will make your life in any relationship great. Just follow what you think is right and have the courage to stand up and defend yourself when you need to. It's not an easy path, but you'll be stronger.

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Why? It's not his fault his retarded ex took nudes. Only morons send nudes.

[Nikki1989]

Why do you care?

[Asker]

I wouldn't want my nudes posted online and not know about it

[jahaims]

U r so desperate to find a way to lie to yourself so you can talk to her again

[Asker]

Lol not really
I have moved on from her years ago and hadn't thought about her until I saw the pics

[Jkgordon]

If she was horrible to you, this is her KARMA~

[rosie95]

Stay away. Someone else will tell her eventually.

[Sparkie460]

She might think you posted them if you told her

[Asker]

That's what I'm afraid of too!! Or that she thinks I was looking for them.

[Sparkie460]

I don't think you should take a chance in telling her.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’d want to know

[Asker]

You are prob not a toxic ex
Maybe I will tell her

[KittygosMeoWW]

I had my toxic moments before I became a mom

[Andres77]

be the better person and tell her.

[Anonymous]

continue on with your life

[HighSky]

You owe her nothing

[Jamie05rhs]

Let the karma play out. No need to interfere.

[OfDeath]

Not your problem

[HateyouxD]

Where are they?

[HateyouxD]

I know who you are

[Asker]

Who am I?

[Asker]

DM me

[HateyouxD]

You dm me

[jjj101010]

Did another ex post them then?

[Asker]

I don't know who posted them it was anonymously
I was surprised I stumbled across them

[jjj101010]

How did u find them? Drop me a message if u prefer

[Asker]

Was on a forum for content creators in the area I live in
Searched for my city and saw pics of her in a big list of non content creators
Bad of me to look for those perhaps but I didn't expect hers there

[KrakenAttackin]

Hell no, download and repost them.

[Fuentes]

Is she hot?

[Asker]

Hottest person you'll never see

[Fuentes]

U never know, i. could've already hit it

[KrakenAttackin]

@Fuentes he needs to post a link...

[Fuentes]

@KrakenAttackin I bet he lying that's why lll

[KrakenAttackin]

@Fuentes 💯.

[Roudyrebel8]

I'd tell her

[riverrat3]

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