And yes its bad to go back to both but for the sake of the poll just choose one.

Well my ex was both, but I didn't get back with her so not sure how to answer the poll.

I went back after my partner cheated and he is both a cheater and an abuser so I couldn't really say which is worse as I'm in both situations

a cheater you can forgive them but still look at them differently, but an abuser will scar you for live and can't be forgiven

Grrrr I read that wrong. It’s actually worse to back to an abuser.

A cheater could potentially change if they truly, truly, truly know they f-k'd up and back it up, especially if you know this person does not have a history of cheating on other women. An abuser can most likely do it again in my opinion.

Cheating is a form of emotional abuse. Abuse can be physical, verbal mental/emotional, financial, cultural etc.

It's obviously worse to go back to an abuser. But you shouldn't go back to a cheater, either.

It's worse to have such mindset and put yourself in same situations

Both, they’re both very bad character flaws.

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Anonymous
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Well my ex was both, but I didn't get back with her so not sure how to answer the poll.

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A cheater is an abuser

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- coachTanthony
  
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  Cheating is disrespectful but I don't see it as abusive.
  
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- jahaims
  
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  Then, you don't know what the definition of abuse is. Feelings and / or lack of knowledge do not change the meaning of words.
  
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- coachTanthony
  
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  Cheating is not abusive... hitting her in the face that is abusive. Yelling and screaming at her is abusive. Let's not get so woke that we now call cheating abusive. It seriously takes away from real abuse lol
  
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I went back after my partner cheated and he is both a cheater and an abuser so I couldn't really say which is worse as I'm in both situations

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a cheater you can forgive them but still look at them differently, but an abuser will scar you for live and can't be forgiven

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Anonymous
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Grrrr I read that wrong. It’s actually worse to back to an abuser.

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Anonymous
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A cheater could potentially change if they truly, truly, truly know they f-k'd up and back it up, especially if you know this person does not have a history of cheating on other women. An abuser can most likely do it again in my opinion.

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Cheating is a form of emotional abuse. Abuse can be physical, verbal mental/emotional, financial, cultural etc.

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It's obviously worse to go back to an abuser.
But you shouldn't go back to a cheater, either.

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  This
  
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  @anon1903 Thanks!
  
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It's worse to have such mindset and put yourself in same situations

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KittygosMeoWW Follow
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Both, they’re both very bad character flaws.

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Both are bad, but an abuser is worse to me

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A cheater IS an abuser, maybe not physically, but psychologically.

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Some people like abuse, some like being cheated on,

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Its both the cheater is abusing your mental health.

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Mado108 Follow
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A cheater is also an abuser

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Wouldn't go back to either for any reason!

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Anonymous
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You're pretty stupid if you do either. I mean this is the "giant douche"/ "turd sandwich" debate.

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Carly2005 Follow
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Abuser cause physically and mental though I think cheating is abuse to.

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Cheaters have a sex addiction problem. And abusers beat you, boss you around, and threaten to kill you.

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I think cheating is abuse you could bring back something to primary partner.

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In reality both, but if I had to pick one, abuser.

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I wouldn't go back to either of them.

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Anonymous
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I say abuser, but both are pretty close yo being equal.

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Yea. These situations don't end well.

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No difference really.

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Cheaters aren't hurting you.

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Don't go back to either yikes

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I think someone that cheats is an abuser.

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Anonymous
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Both are abuse

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Texaskid1 Follow
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Both are equally shitty.

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Abuser, although I would hard pass on both.

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dray995 Follow
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I would say just about equally bad.

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Keith469 Follow
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They're the same. A cheater IS an abuser!

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Abbielh93 Follow
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They are the same thing to me

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JayBones Follow
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They are the same thing though.

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They’re both abusers

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Of course abuser

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Abuser obviously

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Cheating is a form of abuse. lol

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None Lol

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Anonymous
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I've had both. The cheater is way worse...

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Both are abusive

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Abuser !

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boobliker Follow
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pass on both

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DreamLife7 Follow
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Both

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equal

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Nothing

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Yes perfect

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None!

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But it's ill advised

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None of them!

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