Do you believe that love can keep a relationship together?

Question

Good times, bad times, you know we've had our share of problems in a relationship. But through all that life throws at you, have you been able to- or think you can - hold it all together when you need to?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Only if both partners truly love each other and choose each other , All relationships are formed, by 2 people choosing each other and both being on the same page with a lot of things , it won’t always be perfect because no one is perfect , if a relationship turns one sided , that relationship more than likely will not last , the only way love grows between 2 people , is if both people are choosing each other , over everyone else in this world. Accepting each other’s flaws and standing by each other side side , no matter what. Because the truth is , just because you love someone , it doesn’t mean you have to be with that someone , you have to choose that someone, the same way you want Them to choose you , if not , then you are wasting your time being with that someone that truly doesn’t love you back the same. We can’t force anyone to love us , all we can do is love someone the same way we want to be loved in return it won’t always be easy but if you choose
Them the same way they choose you than you both have a better chance at having a long lasting relationship , but if one of you chooses to walk away they truly never loved you, because they wouldn’t be walking away from you period , they would fight for you, the same way they want you to fight for them , . So If they aren’t choosing you , it isn’t going to work period , you will just be considered an option to them , not a priority , never stay with someone, that doesn’t make you their top priority , it won’t always be perfect , but when you choose them they should be choosing you the same way , that’s where love continues to grow between the both of you. like I always tell people on here, Learn to remove selfishness from within yourself , we all have selfishness inside of ourselves , if you can’t remove your selfishness for your so called partner, don’t expect them to remove it for you , Relationships only survive when 2 people choose each other and remove selfishness for each other , and resisting temptations for each other. Which sadly to say , a lot of couples have a hard time doing this for each other. Why so much cheating and affairs occur , because of selfish mindsets. We can all go and cheat and be selfish easily , but you will never experience true love with someone if you can’t remove that selfishness for your partner. Always remember what you can do to your partner , your partner can do to you as well. Without trust and respect and honesty and communication you will have nothing in that relationship, because you only think about what is best for yourself , relationships will not last, if you don’t know how to do these things for your partner , you will sadly keep continuing having failed relationships , if you can never admit that you are wrong at times , because nobody is always right. If you get into a relationship acting like you are still single , don’t be surprised when your partner acts like they are single as well. Make each other your top priority and I guarantee you , your relationship will more than likely last the long haul not the short haul and that’s where love grows between 2 people

glennos89 · Accepted Answer

I completely crashed mentally after the breakup of my first relationship that lasted 6 years in total. It absolutely destroyed me mentally in a way I never could have imagined before. It totally crumbled me into a severe depression that lasted at least 2 full years after breaking up.

The pain felt like I lost someone was close to me but passed away. I have never been the same person after that. It changed me forever and I'm very scared that it might happen again sometime in the future. I became totally self destructive because of the pain I felt inside me

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

I have always told myself as I got to mature that love isn't just feelings, it's also action. Love is a verb. You do things for your partner to make it easier for them. You COMMIT to being with them through not just the good times, but the bad as well. Anyone can commit when it's easy, but when it's not, watch what they do. That will tell you IF you got a good one by how they treat you. A man can say all they want that they love you/care about you, but if they hurt you that is definitely not love, especially if they do it purposefully. Your relationship should reach a point where if you're hurting, THEY are hurting to. That's really what a successful deep love and care is about.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

Only love? No. Proper communication with a lot of love? For sure.

AviatorTom · Answer

Toni Tenille said so... what other proof do we need?

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

No. Relationships are a team that not only has to compromise but live with each other. For years and years! Learning each others quirks and fallacies, let alone the temptations of the internet over this "new" millennium is a difficult challenge that most fail to overcome by love alone.

TheSpider · Answer

From experiences of being with my wife 34 years (and I'm told that's rare) I'd say love has held us together for sure. And we had hard hard times. Homeless for a year.. unemployed for three.. that was only ten years ago. But WE came back TOGETHER.
Love held us together.

NormalBoringGuy · Answer

Love usually means risk. I'd rather organize my pasta - there's a 10 different shapes of pasta, but when you're a kid no one tells you that. What if a bit of elbow macaroni were to sneak inside the penne container? My day would be ruined. And you talk of of love.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yes, real love can.. Love that's beyond feelings.. Because Love encompasses all of the other stuff people mention like trust, commitment, etc..

Elena_Stewart · Answer

It depends on the people in the relationship, there is no fixed rule to that. Some people will be good with love only, some need more than that.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Depends on what those bad times are. You got on a heavy bender and go to aruba with your girlfriends every month and have a train ran on you? No "love is all we need" doesn't work there.

NathanDavis · Answer

worth the try...

boggboss · Answer

Nope or more so it can but not a working relationship

guywholikestoeatout · Answer

Love itself definitely can’t hold a relationship together.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Having love/an emotional bond rarely hurts the situation

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yes. Because it’s a choice to be in love. And if you don’t make that daily choice, than nothing will work.

Likes2drive · Answer

Really depends on the type of person like if it’s true soulmate, then it probably will work

Juxtapose · Answer

No, you must be willing to endure hardship and without that you cannot have a relationship last.

CozyCoffin · Answer

It takes more than love. You can love each other, but still break up.

SunnyRS · Answer

No, I don't think it can on its own. It is important but along with it trust and belief in each other is also necessary.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

In my experience, it can.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

For a man it can. Women demand more than love.

exitseven · Answer

I am a big believer in this.

Iron_Man · Answer

Of course it can  Happy Groundhog Day

CubaPirate · Answer

30 plus years says yes

OtterMan68 · Answer

love also needs trust and stability

msc545 · Answer

No of course not.

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