Do you think love alone is enough to make a relationship last, or does it take something more?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

No, It takes more than just love for a relationship to last. Love is a choice , just because you love someone , it doesn’t mean that someone loves you the same , or just because you love someone , that doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship with them either , you can love someone even if they are no longer with you. So love between 2 people only comes when both people choose each other , no matter what , through the good times and the bad times , someone that has your back the same way you have theirs’ , that’s where love starts to grow between the both of you. For a relationship to survive , both partners’ need to make each other their top priority and choose each other over everyone else. Removing selfishness for each other is important, if you want love to continue to grow between the both of you , sadly most relationships end because selfishness comes into play. If you can’t remove selfishness for your partner? Don’t expect them to remove it for you. Your partner should always be your number 1 priority and you should always be theirs as well. It won’t always be perfect because no relationship is perfect , but the both of you should always choose each other . The only way you should walk away from a relationship is if you are being mentally and physically abused , or you are being cheated on , otherwise fix your relationship if it’s broken before running to someone else , thinking that someone else is going to save you , they aren’t saving shit , they are just infatuated with you and before you know it , that infatuation will run it’s course and back to square one you go. Why it’s best to water the grass you are already standing on , instead of assuming grass is greener on the other side , Only selfish people think grass is greener on the other side.

Salaciousrouge · Accepted Answer

Love is like both wheels on a motorcycle (I 'love' vehicle analogies). Without them, the relationship will stagnate though it may look good and retain some value. With only one, you can get about, though it will be awkward, then soon tiresome and likely ending in disaster. With both solidly on the ground, even if other parts fail you can still push, coast, and navigate seeking repairs or fuel.

If we are talking about a classic, love-based relationship then...

If the love is mutual and reciprocated, I believe it is enough and that all the other requirements or elements will be kept within it. Bumps, disagreements, joy, freedom, respect, tolerance, acceptance, care, trust, distrust, suspicion, reliance, dependency, will all be along for the journey, wrapped nicely in love's cocoon. Love is the binder, holding it all together.

Let's be clear, relationships can survive without love. Many cultures (and families) of the world still engage in pre-arranged relationships for reasons of practicality or affluence and which can last a lifetime and work well. These, I think, are more akin to a business than a classic love-centric and romantic (dare I say 'western') relationship to which I assume the OP was referring.

It is only most recently in the history of the globe that societies and couples can afford the luxury or a love-based relationship. These arrangements are new to societies and we are still working out the details. If you really think about it, I opine most laws and cultural norms are still based on something other than a union originating from love. These 'rules' are slowly coming around to recognizing this.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Absolutely it takes more than love.

The one guy who I know loved me more that his very own pearly whites was just not right for me. The ROI would have totally been on his end and I would have been miserable. As it is now, though I divorced I’ve had a full life and he, as expected, followed his bohemian path to BabyDaddy land and a big old mess… just like he’d always wanted. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Relationships take mindfulness on both sides. If only one side is being mindful there no point…. But he has other qualities (loving, protective, funny, smart)… he was just… not my guy. He comes knocking every once in a blue moon, but the check-ins are less and less frequent now that he realizes why he missed the boat with me.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would describe love as a tent cloth, it is useless for camping trips unless you use poles and tent pegs to hold the tent cloth in place so that it can actually shelter and protect the people from rain or snow at night.

Some people love, but they love without boundaries, without action, without honesty, without humbleness, without respect, without honour, without self-control, without attention, and their love ends up becoming just as abusive and sinister as hate.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question of love versus reality! Love is like that delicious frosting on the cake, but a lasting relationship also needs a solid cake base of trust, communication, and shared values. Without those, you're just one ghosting incident away from a meltdown. So, wrap it all up with understanding, respect, and a sprinkle of humor, and you might just keep those love sparks flying! 💖✨

ohsheeT · Answer

For ne it takes a lot more. First of all you have to love yourselves that way you understand the meaning of respect.
. you have to be best friends..

You have to compromise, you have to be able to become one. And you have to be able to communicate we change every day and we have to change with this. You have to grow together

HawkPerception · Answer

I personally believe it's enough. If you  TRULY  love each other, you can get through everything together. As long as you are willing to communicate openly and honestly about everything, are willing to stick with each other through thick and thin, and consistently want to put in effort for each other, there's nothing that can break you apart.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

A lasting and satisfying long-term relationship requires mutual lust, love, trust, and respect. No, love alone is not enough.

Simslover92 · Answer

It's not and I am both a product of that and an example.

AviatorTom · Answer

Relationships take work. Love is a good start.

RavVid · Answer

A lot more.

First it needs both of a couple to value the relationship highly and be determined to preserve it.

Secondly realize there are three people in a relationship:- you me and us. The us needs to be most important but the you and me need to get some of what they want want. It helps if the couple have a shared vision and shared morals.

Undoubtedly relationships change with time and it ceases to be as exciting, so there needs to be tolerance for the other being less exciting over time. Sex is going to be more comfortable than exciting.

A lot more as well but I think those the most significant

MrOracle · Answer

No, love is not enough That's romance novel fantasy. In the real world, maintaining a relationship takes time and effort and communication and compromises. Hard times and stressful situations will happen, and love alone won't fix it.

That doesn't mean that love isn't an important, vital component, but by itself it's not enough. Flour is a vital component for making a cake, but you can't make a cake with only flour.

Tracy2025 · Answer

Love is definitely important, but no — it’s not enough on its own. A lasting relationship also needs trust, communication, respect, and shared effort.

You can love someone deeply but still struggle if you’re not on the same page about values, goals, or how to handle conflict. Love might start the relationship, but what keeps it going is how you treat each other day by day.

LiftingFencer · Answer

It takes religious convictions WITH a work ethic to stay loyal and committed and sympathetic to your mate. A desire to please God will help, and thats an understatement.

I got cheated on by a 4.9 at best when I was at least an 8 by any metric. I was loyal. Then I have never been faithful since not to my mates not to God. I never used to judge so much by looks, its the woman I chose so I stuck to my convictions even when 8s would flirt with me (try to).

The world is a cold place, make sure you get with someone who is dead set on committing to you, or it could ruin you.

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

It takes a lot more. It also takes trust, communication, faithfulness, openness, honesty, mutual respect, etc.
I mean, if you fall in love with someone who then ends up becoming a deadbeat asshole who has no desire to better themselves, would you stay with them?

Purpleronnie · Answer

Maybe if you live in a Disney movie or a fairy tail novel.

Familial love doesn’t keep families together so how could romantic love be all that’s required to keep every couple together.

Pesonally I find it naive that anyone would think it’s always enough and against human nature

OneViewpoint · Answer

Where does "love" come from? Is it just a spontaneous thing that happens for no reason? Or does it come from respect, admiration, gratitude, an impressive mind, a solid personality, a sense of style, good hygiene, someone who has your back over and over again, effort, quality?

jazzy34 · Answer

Love isn't a feeling. It's a choice. Love is when you know the good, the bad and the ugly about a person, but still choosing to love him or her. Everyone can't do that. That's why infatuation and love are sometimes confused. As a result, the relationship doesn't last very long.

molonski2 · Answer

Love or so called " love " is certainly not enough to make a scenario work , love alone would NEVER be close to enough , you need lust , commitment, sacrifice, understanding , forgiveness, and a plethora more...

Stevepro68 · Answer

You need more than love you have to be willing to communicate your hopes dreams and needs to your partner. Listen and give them their needs as well. Love makes you not roommates communication is what keeps you together.

TrimmedTip · Answer

Love is important, but it’s not enough by itself. It also takes trust, respect, and effort from both people. Without those, love can fade over time.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Love can bring two people together, but if your core values or long-term goals are fundamentally different, it will never work in the long-term.

CorneliaUSA · Answer

Love is NOT enough. I've seen it in my own relationships and many other couples. Many. Several factors need to be present to make a relationship work. Love does not = happiness.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Yes, love alone is enough  but only  behind the holy walls of a castle built by the heavenly romantic Jesus.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

No. A lasting relationship takes work, requires communication, and must include forgiveness and empathy. Love is certainly a binding aspect but two people can love each other and still break up or drift apart.

exitseven · Answer

It can be enough. You can deal with a lot if you have somebody that loves you

WhitneySnow · Answer

I think it’s enough because if you love each other you can develop the skills together to work through your problems

Anonymous · Answer

lol love alone will not do anything when troubling times come up. sure, it doesn't hurt, but it does NOT solve things. you need trust, communication, acceptance, compromise, honesty...

FreyaRed · Answer

Love comes and goes addictions remain lifelong.

avery58 · Answer

Commitment and maturity are the most important thingd

itsannalee · Answer

Of course not, you can’t clapping with only 1 hand.

HelenaHandbasket · Answer

Love is a heightened form of devotion, but most people think it is a heightened form of lust.  the first one will last longer than the second.

SotiCoto · Answer

Love isn't even necessary. Simply having practical goals is enough, and the silly feelings will handle themselves.

RHK36 · Answer

I guess depends on your definition of love. Usually it takes more than just a feeling unless you have a different definition of love.

glennos89 · Answer

I believe its takes hard work and dedication aswell

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

It takes genuine dedication and work put into relationships with a healthy balance of loving fun

Yannae · Answer

No, it's just a base requirement to get things started.

Anonymous · Answer

No, but it might be the most important pillar.

HeartShapedHaze · Answer

I think so, but have never been in a serious relationship so lol

lorenzomichael · Answer

it takes a lot more than love to make a relationship last that’s for sure.

Anonymous · Answer

Compatibility , same background financially , culturally , same level of looks

MOUTHWASHING · Answer

Love is the key to relationship and what makes it different from business style relations

mysteriousN · Answer

Adele"s songs imply - nope Chocolate instead is love 😂🥳

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

It takes a whole lot more than just love

Abbycado · Answer

It takes many things.

beenherebefore · Answer

It takes way more than just love.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

For a lot of men, yes. For women, no.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Prayer is probably also necessary.

nl171 · Answer

No I don’t believe so. It takes a lot of work too

noohair · Answer

No, love is not enough.

Pterodon · Answer

Yes I like to think love will find a way

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Trust. and mutual respect for just afew!!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, sometimes, not always though.

Anonymous · Answer

I naively believe so it is completely enough.

Anonymous · Answer

Balance

Anonymous · Answer

Nope.

nojdug76 · Answer

Yes I think so

Anonymous · Answer

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