I'll often say one thing, then the next day feel an entirely new way. I react and rest in different moods and it's always unpredictable. Usually I suite an environment based on a common personality to that environment but it's not a given. I act the way the group acts, I go off of others. But when there's people I'm comfortable around or it's one on one I can change in any way. By myself it's even worse, I often feel like a new person.
I used to think it was cool when I was a kid, I felt like a chameleon because I could figure out things I related to in different groups and was so go with the flow. Master of code switching. I thought it made sense to write characters in books based on their personality and character, to keep it consistent as they would realistically be... I thought the reason I wasn't consistent in myself was because I was only 10 but I'm in my 20s now and it's no different; probably worse.
I wonder too if that's why I can never understand manipulation. If I could use it I would, on innocent things even just to get my sister to let me borrow her jeans or something silly lol. But I view others as being equally inconsistent to I (I'm not sure if it's true) and so it's like a chess board where there's thousands of moves to one reaction; and most are equally as likely as others.
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Sounds like maybe you have a hard time with your identity or maybe you are just a people pleaser that may have some insecurities in how others would view you. Also you could have bipolar? If it’s starting to bother you maybe reach out to someone 🖤 I think if you start to act and feel the way YOU want regardless of how others act- you may see how cool you are. And difference is a good thing sometimes!
Not at all a people pleaser lol.
borderline personality disorder.
https://sarahmyles.net/2013/07/22/borderline-personality-disorder-and-the-chameleon-effect/
Nah. I know people with BPD and that's not it 💀 they're all too capable of being manipulative
doesn't always have to be manipulative.
Adaptability is a strength, in my opinion.
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