My boyfriend says other women beautiful. He also says he would like to go to strip club with me. But it disturbs me, why he even wants to go there when he has me? He never says I'm beautiful, only that I'm beautiful from inside. I guess, because I have gained weight and I'm not as beautiful as before. But why? He should find me attractive, but he doesn't.
Hey, I understand why that would make you feel upset and insecure. No one wants to hear their man gushing over other women! Here's what I think:
Just because he says other girls are beautiful, doesn't mean he doesn't find YOU beautiful too. Men are visual, they notice looks, but that doesn't mean your relationship is any less deep.
As for the strip club, that's disrespectful of your boundaries. You're allowed to say no to anything that makes you uncomfortable. A good boyfriend would understand that.
Plus, inner beauty is the most important thing and lasts forever! Don't doubt yourself just because the number on the scale changed - you're so much more than that.
Have you told him how his words make you feel? Use "I feel" statements to avoid blaming. Like "when you compliment other girls, it hurts my feelings." A caring guy will want to reassure you.
Hold your head high, sis! You deserve someone who cherishes you inside and out. If he keeps dismissing your needs after an honest talk, maybe it's time to find someone who cherishes ALL of you. You've got this!
Shortly after I started seeing my future ex-fiance, I told her that looking at other women was like going to a museum and looking at great works of art. They may be gorgeous and sexy but, I'm not even window shopping, they are just great works of art to me; nice to look at for the few seconds I'll get the chance to but I'm not looking for someone else, I don't WANT anybody else!! I have YOU and I'm madly in love with YOU!!
Too bad she didn't feel the same way about me!! 10 years later, the little mini-bitch started cheating on me!!
The question is not why he does this. The question is why do you endure that toxic crap?
If a guy I was in a relationship with told me I am only beautiful on the inside and told he wants to frequent strip clubs while attempting to wound my self-esteem, I would leave.
But then again I would much rather be on my own rather than settle for someone that harms me.
Do you truly believe only your effort will save that relationship?
You can't keep pouring water on a bucket with holes. And if you keep doing so, for how long?
Get that narcissist off of your back.
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We soe d a lot of our time training our brains to notice and be excited by (or suppress being excited by) beautiful women. We can't simply unlearn all of that the instant we get into a relationship.
That said, if we are serious we should know that we'll have to wean ourselves off such thoughts. It sounds like he isn't quite ready to take you seriously - that doesn't mean far from ready only that he has a bit of growing to do, first.
Your insecurity is amusing.
But really, if you want him to call you beautiful, just threaten to break up with him. He'll go into damage control mode and lavish attention on you... at least until he believes you're not in immediate danger of dumping him.
Of course I will not hold any responsibility for the consequences of this sort of tactic. It is exceedingly manipulative... Definitely bad girl behaviour.
Works though. Usually.
You acknowledged that you gained weight but he's supposed to act like you're just as hot as before? No that's not how reality works.
Admiring beauty is normal.
Going to strip clubs or not being attracted to your spouse is not.
Find a guy who actually finds you attractive and isn't going to cheat.
Why is he still with you? Why are you still with him?
Obviously other people are attractive. You just said you let yourself go. You answered your own question.
He is narcissist. get away from him.
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