My little brother and my boyfriend makes me worry?

[Anonymous]

my little brother is 14 years old, me F (20) and my boyfriend M (22)

whenever my boyfriend comes over my little brother would cling onto him, sit on his lap, cuddle with him on couch, my little brother changes the way he behaves around him and becomes so touchy

is it normal or I am overthinking

[Summeroflove]

If you have a bad gut feeling, it may turn out to be nothing. But if you have a bad feeling. Do something. Say something to someone and even try to talk to your brother.


Could it be innocent enough? It could. But he’s 14 years old. If he was five that would be one thing. Speak with your parents and his. Speak with the authorities as well. And just see if anything comes up. Also talk with your boyfriend. Ask him questions. See how he reacts

[Drew-1990]

That seems weird actually. Not the cling with him in general part. Lots of younger brothers will like a boyfriend because it's like a brother especially if he only has sisters. But the sitting on his lap and wanting to cuddle with him seems weird To me.

[Asker]

he has a big brother

[Drew-1990]

Then it just got weird unless do they get along?

[Asker]

they do

[Drew-1990]

Yea then it's weird, be one thing if he has no brother or he didn't get along with the brother he had. And like I said, it's not the fact that he clings to him. It's what he does. That's weird to me.

[Daniela1982]

Sounds weird to me. Is he gay but maybe not know it? Sounds like what a horny girl might do. 😯

[Asker]

so far of what I know, he is not gay
he used to date a girl and never seen him before go for any boy

[Daniela1982]

There is always a first time.

[WindAtMyBack]

If he was 5, I wouldn't think much of it. But at 14 it's weird as hell. It's also weird that your boyfriend allows it.

I'd talk to both of them and tell them to knock it off. If they try to throw it back at you and make you think it's your problem - no. It's not your problem, it's their problem. Don't let them convince you otherwise.

[BCRanger10]

For a 14-year-old? That is not normal.

[Asker]

I knew it isn't

[BCRanger10]

I am curious though. Does he have some kind of mental disability?

[Asker]

no
he is mentally ok

[exitseven]

That is pretty weird. I get that he is sort of a role model. I had an older cousin that I idolized as a kid but I never sat on his lap

[Asker]

its making me think of very bad possibilities

[exitseven]

Yes, it does sound like there is something going in. How long have you kthis guy, guy,?

[Asker]

been with him for 5 years now

[Alex-Snow]

That is kinda weird for a 14 yr old to do that. Is there a father figure in his life? If so maybe mention it to him or just say something to ur brother and tell him that he is getting too old to cuddle with ur boyfriend.

[Staximus]

I could understand if your brother was a little kid but he's a teenager, so yeah it's not cool

[Asker]

its concerning

[jahaims]

Your brother is into dudes and your boyfriend is a pedo

[Asker]

worst nightmare

[DextroShade]

14 is way too old to be sitting on another guy's lap, you are right to be weirded out by this.

[Anonymous]

That is really suspicious; maybe nothing, but I would bet money on it being something untoward.

[spartan55]

Has anyone else noticed this?

[Asker]

not really

[spartan55]

Is that because it doesn't happen around other people? Surely someone else would notice your brother sitting on your boyfriend's lap...

[Asker]

he doesn't do it around my parents

[spartan55]

That says he knows what he is doing is not normal. I agree with the opinion that is not normal. But what bothers me more is your boyfriend not shutting that down like yesterday? If it were me, I would have a talk with your brother and put a stop to it. Like the first time it happen. Your boyfriend's apathy towards it is quite unsettling.

[Asker]

my boyfriend is indifferent to it
he doesn't react as if it's abnormal or wrong
he is accepting it as it is

[spartan55]

Yeah, I get that. You don't think that itself is very weird?

[ChicoFromThe305]

The behavior is most def off

[Asker]

its driving me crazy

[ChicoFromThe305]

Have you tried talking to his and asking him?

[Asker]

my little brother or boyfriend?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Little brother, your boyfriend im sure has his discomfort with it, he seems young enough to not feel the need to lie for anything yet so maybe you can get an answer out of him.

[Asker]

I asked him and he said he likes to spend time with him

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe he still doesn't realize he's gay or maybe we are stretching it here and he's just very touchy with people he is comfortable around, maybe he feels more comfortable around another guy or something

[Asker]

he is not usually touchy with anyone, especially not with other guys
this is first time I see him behave like that

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's odd then, I don't know any other logical explanation tbh

[Whitewulf]

How does your boyfriend react or act and is your dad in the picture?

[Asker]

my boyfriend seems to act indifferent and my little brother doesn't do it when my dad is around

[Emanon25]

That’s not good

[Asker]

I knew something was wrong

[noohair]

I am not a psychiatrist.

[Jmmmfi4]

VERY NOT NORMAL

[Anonymous]

Not normal and weird.

[Dongie]

Uh-oh...

[riverrat3]

He may be gay

[Asker]

so far of what I know, he is not gay
he used to date a girl and never seen him before go for any boy

[riverrat3]

The girl could have been a decoy, or he might be bi, your boyfriend could also be bi

[Asker]

my boyfriend is straight, always been

[riverrat3]

I am not judging either of them

[ab2shifty]

Ayoooo