Loneliness, what a b*tch?

[Anonymous]

For the first time in my life, I can admit that I am indeed lonely, it’s a sinking feeling. I do think about going on a date but I just feel like I’m just wasting my time because my priority at this point is my family (im a breadwinner).

During weekends when I’m not at work, I do things that would cheer me up and I end up feeling I guess, a bit happy about it? But then the night comes and I just find myself crying, and feeling.. just Empty.

So I’m just really out here to ask for some advice or any ideas how to lessen my pain, and loneliness and if you ever went through this before, what things did you do/try to not feel it deeply?

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Maybe you can find some friends? I think dating just to fulfill a general kind of loneliness is a very risky idea. But seeking good friends and a community you can hang out with in your spare time here and there can fix the loneliness.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

* I think dating just to [try to correct] a general kind of loneliness is a very risky idea.

[Asker]

You’re right. I only have 2 friends and they’re kind of.. occupied right now because they already have a family. I really feel left out

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It might help to make some new ones at a social event of sorts or find some sort of social club you can join. Also I strangely recommend against trying to find dates in bars but they aren't always such bad places to find friends, especially the less rowdy ones. Every stranger is a potential lifelong friend as I see it. If you live by that philosophy and put yourself out there, it's hard to stay lonely.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

[*] Also I [strongly, sorry, I'm making lots of goofs today] recommend against trying to find dates in bars [...]

[Asker]

I don’t really go to bars but I do socialize with people in cafe’s and whenever I take my dog for a walk. 😁 thank you for the advice I appreciate it and I realized that I really do have to find new friends lol.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Cheers and hope you find them! 🤝 Also if you do want to find love at some point, I recommend not doing it while you're feeling so lonely. Fix the loneliness first, be happy with just your friends and overall life, and then look for love interests. Every single person I've ever known closely who looked for love while feeling very lonely (including but not limited to me, my sister, closest friends, etc) all tended to find the worst partners that way, maybe because we aren't very selective of who we date and stay with when we're very lonely. Whatever the reason, being very happy with your life is often the first step to finding the right partner.

[NathanDavis]

go out with friends...

meet people and make them friends, acquaintances

and then, you might end up dating one of them, eventually

focus on something genuine... rather than idealizing and being fatalistic

[bananathunder]

Not sure what the first step is... You can chat if you are bored

[Jennz6]

I’m never lonely

[Asker]

Good for you, I hope it always stays that way for you.

[Jennz6]

@boredgal thank you 💕

[IloveWinters]

Do you have any active hobbies? Or even passive hobbies help to feel happiness over time...

[laly520]

try to make more friends