Would you ever forgive your partner for cheating on you?

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V_Injector · Accepted Answer

You can try... maybe with time you can ignore your feelings enough to fake it. But it's never going to go away. You will always look at them from that point on knowing what a selfish, dumb, piece of shit that person is, lurking in the back of your mind.

Think about this... usually, there is at least a tacit agreement to not sleep with other people. Now think about that from the person's shoes who sacrificed their other available options, worked hard with labor tasks, and with concerted efforts to make the relationship work in emotional and logical departments. Imagine you've sacrificed so much of the "could haves, and wanted to" for this person. ... and then this person just steps out on you.

Now it's possible the public are involved and know, the mate poacher and everybody they tell, and then those people tell... I mean seriously, if you tried to take pride in that relationship, that is broken now. You have to become intimate with the real meaning of why it's called cheating. You played by the rules and tried so hard to win with them, and they betrayed you for someone else... like imagine playing basketball (2 on 1) and then your teammate just starts making points for the other team. It's just like the kid that makes up rules just so they win and them alone just so they get all the points. They're cheating, you really want to play any games with that kid?

On top of that now you have to look that person in the face and accept all the reasons why they did this is true. They're just a dumbass, they don't respect you, they thought betraying you was a good idea, perhaps they have a substance abuse problem (which is never an excuse for a drunk driver, is it?), they consorted with others to work against you, they have moments of not giving a shit about you, and basically...

They've shown you that they're not playing fair with you.

Yeah, you can try to forgive all that, but all that knowledge will be with you after that. That will always be there, and you're going to always know that about this person now.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

I CAN forgive. It may take some time to move on and heal. But that does NOT mean I will continue to stay with someone. Even if it wasn’t sexual cheating once someone goes to that point. They crossed a line, sometimes once you cross a line you go past the point of no return.

There is a lot of things that can be worked through. I don’t feel cheating is one of them. Even the Bible says to divorce if you’re being cheated on. Be together through thick and think. Unless your partner is cheating. Bye bye!

A lot of people don’t want to see it. They think the person will change and believe the lies they’re being told. They think that maybe things will be as good as they once were. If they love bomb enough as the ai bot said. That or the person who cheated love bombs. A lot of times that ends up just you’re being used. It’s one sided if you’re doing everything to get someone to love you again (assuming they ever did) and I’d never ends well.

Once someone cheats they crossed a line, a rubicon, a point of no return, burnt a bridge, however you wanna put it. IT IS OVER! If they change good for them they can learn their lesson and find someone new. But the relationship between you and them should be over. Unless you choose to live in misery.

itsjustlife75 · Accepted Answer

I guess it depends on how it happened, who it was with and how much time had passed.

I guess I’d be bitter until I found someone else and then I’d be happy so I wouldn’t care as much or at all coz I would’ve moved on.

If I don’t really care I guess I never liked the person that much.

If it was done in such a horrible way, that the fallout was just unimaginably hurtful for others not just me then no I would never forgive that person. I don’t think I’d be able to.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

No...

The rules in my relationships are simple. We talk things out. He defines what is cheating for him and I respect that. For me mine stays mine... so I require transparency and honesty. I don't control or check what he does when we aren't together. But if he breaks my trust it's over. It's one way ticket

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Jumping in with both feet here — forgiveness in relationships, especially concerning cheating, is like trying to fix a vase that's been smashed on the floor. Sure, you *might* glue it back together, but will you ever look at it the same way? Personally, I believe in giving people a second chance, but trust, once cracked, requires a Herculean effort to mend. It’s not just about forgiving; it’s about whether you can forget and feel secure again. And that, my friends, is a tall order! Lovebomb or not, it’s about what you can live with and how much work you're both willing to put in. What do you think, can you ever look at the vase the same way again, or is it time to find a new piece for your collection? Don't be shy, jump into this love debate!

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

Depends on your definition of "forgive." I have had two partners cheat on me (only two of which I am aware) over 53 years of dating, relationships, and marriage. I don't walk around still bearing a grudge against them and I feel no need to get revenge. If I adventitiously encountered them somewhere in public, I would stop and have a civil conversation with them. But I have never forgotten what they did to me, and I would never give them an opportunity to do it again.

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes of course. I would tell her I forgive you and wish her the best of luck as she walks out the door forever.

AviatorTom · Answer

It depends on many factors. How strong is our relationship? Why did they cheat? Is it only once or multiple times?

Pinay_ako · Answer

Forgive? Yes but not right away?  but it’s over.

sukumamu · Answer

I'm not sure. I could technically forgive it because cheating is more or less natural and found in every culture ever studied, and one mistake doesn't automatically make someone a bad person for the rest of their lives. But I don't think I could keep the relationship after that. Although I might reach a point to where I've forgiven them and I'm not mad anymore, I couldn't trust them enough to keep a meaningful relationship with them afterward. "Forgive, but don't forget," kind of thing.

Account · Answer

Nope. There is nothing to explain.
They broke a promise plus they don't want me anymore or if they still want me they don't want me in the same way I want them since they were willing to share their body with another.
Nope that is not just a mistake to me and there is no situation I would be able to forgive it no matter what.

Simslover92 · Answer

I'm not sure tbh. It depends on what he did exactly and how far it went. Like if a girl kissed him and he put a stop to it, then I could forgive him but if I found out he not only kissed the girl but had sex with her, then I don't know if I could forgive that. I would be absolutely heartbroken and crushed.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

Once a cheater, always a potential cheater. Not worth the risk. That and the broken trust would be nigh-impossible to fix because that nagging thought would always be at the back of the mind.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. I would forgive them for my sake. If I can't forgive it then I can't move on. But our relationship would still be over. I can forgive the act I cannot abide the betrayal.

It always amuses me when people cheat and then say "but I still love you". Because my response to that is you have a very twisted view of what love is then.

EmmaMary · Answer

NO ABSOLUTELY NOT ... It would result in immediate divorce papers being drawn up and issued.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Some say once a cheater always a cheater & others say they believe in second chances. As for me I always say no one is perfect but if they burn bridges that is another story.

NathanDavis · Answer

forgive yes... I can always forgive, and understand but the relationship would still be finished, and no coming back to it

aceleon · Answer

it is very concerning how many is okay with forgiving this. i rahter die this day instead of doing such a thing.

Iron_Man · Answer

Once that happens, it’s too late you can’t take it back and there’s no more relationship to go back to. That’s the ultimate betrayal for relationships

douride2 · Answer

I did once. He went right back out & cheated again. It will never forgive anyone for cheating again. in my opinion once a cheater always a cheater.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I was cheated on in all of my relationships. I got back with the last one but she left me for him again. So no I will never forgive cheating because once a cheater always a cheater

MysticDevice · Answer

No. I'm patient, understanding, and forgiving for almost anything. Even to my own detriment. But I have to draw the line somewhere. Unfaithfulness is that line.

admles · Answer

No, never.

If I had been married for 20 years and she cheated, it would be over.

Cheating is a deliberate, conscious choice someone makes.

It is a betrayal of your partner, and there is no valid reason I will ever accept.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I would. If they were genuinely sorry. if I had kids with him. I’d try salvage and fix and work on it if he wants to. That’s my problem. I’m always trying to give people chances, always a fighter

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I don't think so. If she ever did, and after slowly incinerating her into ashes after repeated and countless blade lacerations pre death, would I perhaps find solace in myself.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I totally love him but that wouldn't be a reason to forgive him if he cheated. Once someone wrongs me that's the end of our connection.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. I'm always willing to forgive someone especially if they ask me for forgiveness but I wouldn't be with her anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

Forgive, yes. Continue the relationship? Absolutely not.

Unit1 · Answer

There are very many ways for me to say "NO" but I'm too lazy to list them.

Staximus · Answer

There's no excuse. If they want to screw other people then they should break up with you.

OtterMan68 · Answer

As a Christian, I must forgive. Forget? No. Forgive. Yes.

msc545 · Answer

I might forgive her, but more importantly, I would never trust her again.

SunnyRS · Answer

Forgive maybe but i won't be getting back with her.

lildkman1010 · Answer

I would because it’s hard being in a relationship with me because of my size.

Eleni1996 · Answer

Heck no not gonna give me an STD.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Highly unlikely

Androktasia · Answer

Of course not.

jahaims · Answer

No, I have self respect

Kelly6 · Answer

@perpetualsadnesss yes i will forgive

Kykiono1 · Answer

Not sure. Depends on relationship and person

Anonymous · Answer

I would make their bodies disappear. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes but there are major Trust issues

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

What brad said lol

laly520 · Answer

would never forgive

12karen · Answer

Maybe,

LavLavLuv · Answer

No, thanks

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