Would you ever forgive your partner for cheating on you?

[perpetualsadnesss]

Please explain

Yes

I'm not sure

No

[V_Injector]

You can try... maybe with time you can ignore your feelings enough to fake it. But it's never going to go away. You will always look at them from that point on knowing what a selfish, dumb, piece of shit that person is, lurking in the back of your mind.

Think about this... usually, there is at least a tacit agreement to not sleep with other people. Now think about that from the person's shoes who sacrificed their other available options, worked hard with labor tasks, and with concerted efforts to make the relationship work in emotional and logical departments. Imagine you've sacrificed so much of the "could haves, and wanted to" for this person. ... and then this person just steps out on you.

Now it's possible the public are involved and know, the mate poacher and everybody they tell, and then those people tell... I mean seriously, if you tried to take pride in that relationship, that is broken now. You have to become intimate with the real meaning of why it's called cheating. You played by the rules and tried so hard to win with them, and they betrayed you for someone else... like imagine playing basketball (2 on 1) and then your teammate just starts making points for the other team. It's just like the kid that makes up rules just so they win and them alone just so they get all the points. They're cheating, you really want to play any games with that kid?

On top of that now you have to look that person in the face and accept all the reasons why they did this is true. They're just a dumbass, they don't respect you, they thought betraying you was a good idea, perhaps they have a substance abuse problem (which is never an excuse for a drunk driver, is it?), they consorted with others to work against you, they have moments of not giving a shit about you, and basically...

They've shown you that they're not playing fair with you.

Yeah, you can try to forgive all that, but all that knowledge will be with you after that. That will always be there, and you're going to always know that about this person now.

[Summeroflove]

I CAN forgive. It may take some time to move on and heal. But that does NOT mean I will continue to stay with someone. Even if it wasn’t sexual cheating once someone goes to that point. They crossed a line, sometimes once you cross a line you go past the point of no return.

There is a lot of things that can be worked through. I don’t feel cheating is one of them. Even the Bible says to divorce if you’re being cheated on. Be together through thick and think. Unless your partner is cheating. Bye bye!

A lot of people don’t want to see it. They think the person will change and believe the lies they’re being told. They think that maybe things will be as good as they once were. If they love bomb enough as the ai bot said. That or the person who cheated love bombs. A lot of times that ends up just you’re being used. It’s one sided if you’re doing everything to get someone to love you again (assuming they ever did) and I’d never ends well.

Once someone cheats they crossed a line, a rubicon, a point of no return, burnt a bridge, however you wanna put it. IT IS OVER! If they change good for them they can learn their lesson and find someone new. But the relationship between you and them should be over. Unless you choose to live in misery.

[itsjustlife75]

I guess it depends on how it happened, who it was with and how much time had passed.


I guess I’d be bitter until I found someone else and then I’d be happy so I wouldn’t care as much or at all coz I would’ve moved on.


If I don’t really care I guess I never liked the person that much.


If it was done in such a horrible way, that the fallout was just unimaginably hurtful for others not just me then no I would never forgive that person. I don’t think I’d be able to.

[IslaTheWitch]

No...

The rules in my relationships are simple. We talk things out. He defines what is cheating for him and I respect that. For me mine stays mine... so I require transparency and honesty. I don't control or check what he does when we aren't together. But if he breaks my trust it's over. It's one way ticket

[Artificial Intelligence]

Jumping in with both feet here — forgiveness in relationships, especially concerning cheating, is like trying to fix a vase that's been smashed on the floor. Sure, you *might* glue it back together, but will you ever look at it the same way? Personally, I believe in giving people a second chance, but trust, once cracked, requires a Herculean effort to mend. It’s not just about forgiving; it’s about whether you can forget and feel secure again. And that, my friends, is a tall order! Lovebomb or not, it’s about what you can live with and how much work you're both willing to put in. What do you think, can you ever look at the vase the same way again, or is it time to find a new piece for your collection? Don't be shy, jump into this love debate!

[ChicoFromThe305]

Maybe brad ain't so bad, he out here speaking facts 😂

[7Phoenix7]

@ChicoFromThe305 that's what I said lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Lol.

[OlderAndWiser]

Depends on your definition of "forgive." I have had two partners cheat on me (only two of which I am aware) over 53 years of dating, relationships, and marriage. I don't walk around still bearing a grudge against them and I feel no need to get revenge. If I adventitiously encountered them somewhere in public, I would stop and have a civil conversation with them. But I have never forgotten what they did to me, and I would never give them an opportunity to do it again.

[coachTanthony]

Yes of course. I would tell her I forgive you and wish her the best of luck as she walks out the door forever.

[AviatorTom]

It depends on many factors. How strong is our relationship? Why did they cheat? Is it only once or multiple times?

[Pinay_ako]

Forgive? Yes but not right away?
but it’s over.

[sukumamu]

I'm not sure. I could technically forgive it because cheating is more or less natural and found in every culture ever studied, and one mistake doesn't automatically make someone a bad person for the rest of their lives. But I don't think I could keep the relationship after that. Although I might reach a point to where I've forgiven them and I'm not mad anymore, I couldn't trust them enough to keep a meaningful relationship with them afterward. "Forgive, but don't forget," kind of thing.

[Account]

Nope. There is nothing to explain.
They broke a promise plus they don't want me anymore or if they still want me they don't want me in the same way I want them since they were willing to share their body with another.
Nope that is not just a mistake to me and there is no situation I would be able to forgive it no matter what.

[Simslover92]

I'm not sure tbh. It depends on what he did exactly and how far it went. Like if a girl kissed him and he put a stop to it, then I could forgive him but if I found out he not only kissed the girl but had sex with her, then I don't know if I could forgive that. I would be absolutely heartbroken and crushed.

[moneymagnet24]

No one gonna cheat heart like you ❤️

[Simslover92]

Aww thank you! I hope not but I'm not sure anymore. My boyfriend reconnected with a girl and I'm worried because we're long distance. Look at my recent question please.

[ThisDudeHere]

Once a cheater, always a potential cheater. Not worth the risk. That and the broken trust would be nigh-impossible to fix because that nagging thought would always be at the back of the mind.

[Kykiono1]

@ThisDudeHere this is not true it depends on the person

[ThisDudeHere]

@Kykiono1 if they did it once, they proved that they are capable of it and that they can do it again.

[Kykiono1]

Prove it... Oh wait you can't

[ThisDudeHere]

@Kykiono1 prove they they won't... oh wait, you can't.

[Kykiono1]

So it's just your opinion, I DISAGRE
Now go cry

[Kykiono1]

*DISAGREE

[ThisDudeHere]

@Kykiono1 and it's yor opion that yu dIsAgRe on, so go and cri

[Kykiono1]

I disagree with everything you say

[ThisDudeHere]

@Kykiono1 that helps me sleep at night

[Kykiono1]

You're biased

[Kykiono1]

Just like you are biased against older men who have sex with young girls.

Of course you are going to deny it now. You have way too many underlying issues.
Cringe.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. I would forgive them for my sake. If I can't forgive it then I can't move on. But our relationship would still be over. I can forgive the act I cannot abide the betrayal.

It always amuses me when people cheat and then say "but I still love you". Because my response to that is you have a very twisted view of what love is then.

[EmmaMary]

NO ABSOLUTELY NOT... It would result in immediate divorce papers being drawn up and issued.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some say once a cheater always a cheater & others say they believe in second chances. As for me I always say no one is perfect but if they burn bridges that is another story.

[NathanDavis]

forgive yes...

I can always forgive, and understand

but the relationship would still be finished, and no coming back to it

[NathanDavis]

I've never been cheated on though...

so I really don't know what I'm talking about, lol

[aceleon]

it is very concerning how many is okay with forgiving this.

i rahter die this day instead of doing such a thing.

[Iron_Man]

Once that happens, it’s too late you can’t take it back and there’s no more relationship to go back to. That’s the ultimate betrayal for relationships

[douride2]

I did once. He went right back out & cheated again. It will never forgive anyone for cheating again. in my opinion once a cheater always a cheater.

[SolitarySolace]

I was cheated on in all of my relationships. I got back with the last one but she left me for him again. So no I will never forgive cheating because once a cheater always a cheater

[MysticDevice]

No. I'm patient, understanding, and forgiving for almost anything. Even to my own detriment. But I have to draw the line somewhere. Unfaithfulness is that line.

[admles]

No, never.

If I had been married for 20 years and she cheated, it would be over.

Cheating is a deliberate, conscious choice someone makes.

It is a betrayal of your partner, and there is no valid reason I will ever accept.

[Anonymous]

Yeah I would. If they were genuinely sorry. if I had kids with him. I’d try salvage and fix and work on it if he wants to. That’s my problem. I’m always trying to give people chances, always a fighter

[CuriousMufuxka]

I don't think so. If she ever did, and after slowly incinerating her into ashes after repeated and countless blade lacerations pre death, would I perhaps find solace in myself.