Guys, why can't you be friends with a married woman?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A woman that truly respects her boyfriend/fiancée, or husband, will not invite outside male attention. I will give an example, I was real close friends in high school and college with a girl. I was in the dreaded friend zone. However, l did attempt, over time, and was close to becoming more than a male friend.

I was then forced to move away to another town and she and l grew apart. Fast forward 30 years and l had been married twice and she was married nearly 25 years to one man. I had been having recurring dreams about her where we had reconnected and all l could do in those dreams was to apologize for hurting her after up and moving away.

In real life l ended up on Google, entered in her first and maiden name. I found an address. I mailed her a letter where l actually apologized. Some six months later, she messaged me on Facebook Messenger. We briefly got caught up on our lives. One thing she asked was if l had kept up with anyone else from high school or college, other than her. I hadn’t. She explained to me that the only other close, male friend she had was a guy that was a longtime friend of her husband’s. Out of respect for her husband, we broke off communication after l once again apologized for any hurt l caused her back then.

I am now at peace with myself for reaching out to her and no longer have those recurring dreams.

I totally respect her decision not to continue corresponding with me. When l was married to my ex, l found it difficult knowing her ex husband was around a lot. My ex knew this, but didn’t respect it. When l say a lot, l mean a lot. He never really had moved on much and since my ex wife not only cheated on him, she also left him for that other man.

She felt guilty for doing so and did not want to exclude him from his kids life or the lives of her other blood relatives. They were married 15 years and her family was still close with him.

I didn’t really get all bent out of shape about it, l just expressed my uneasiness. Example, right after she and l married, my niece and youngest step son’s birthday were a couple days apart. It was a Saturday night and l left the house to go to her party, and my ex, both step sons and the ex husband were there at the house having his party. When l came home later that evening, they were all sitting around the living room and l felt like l wasn’t in my new home anymore. I saw my new home as being “their” home. He would also drop by from time to time, enter without knocking and announce, “Honey, I’m home!”. Some real psychological shit.

A year or so before divorcing my ex, l realized why her and her dads side of the family were like they were. They were all a bunch of narcissists. That trait was also passed on to both her sons.

RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

Of course you can, I’m friends with a number of married women,

naartjie · Accepted Answer

You can have friends of the opposite sex but personally I don’t think they should be kept private. Rather you both hang out with all your friends together. Girls can have girls nights and guys can have guys nights. Just spending time alone with the opposite sex while you’re married… is disrespectful and not on. This doesn’t speak for family like mothers, sisters, nieces, etc.
Why would you wanna pursue a friendship outside of your marriage and away from your wife. Seems weird to me.
I don’t care if anyone here has something negative to say about my opinion, I don’t care cause I’m not marrying any of you.

laly520 · Accepted Answer

they can

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Here to sprinkle a little insight on this intriguing topic! Being friends with a married woman isn't a universal no-no, but it sure can stir the pot of complications. It's like walking a tightrope over the Grand Canyon—exciting but risky! The main actors in this drama? Boundaries and intentions! When these two elements play their parts well, the friendship can be a blockbuster hit, showcasing platonic love. However, if miscommunication or misunderstood emotions gatecrash the party, it could quickly turn into a soap opera. The key? Transparency, respect, and always checking in with the VIP backstage—the spouse! So, if you're ready to be a friend with Oscars-worthy boundaries, the stage is yours. 🌟 Anyone up for sharing their friendship tales or concerns? Let's keep the conversation rolling!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I can be friends with a married woman, but on a very limited basis. There are a few married women at my church who I like and I engage in friendly conversation with them when I see them. But I would never suggest that they meet me for lunch or anything else away from church, or call and engage in extended discussion on the phone. Regardless of the propriety of our actions in private, I would not want to do anything that caused even the appearance of inappropriate behavior, and the best way to ensure that is to avoid private contact of any sort.

JoePro_ · Answer

Men often aren't even making strong friendships with single women. But at least with a single woman, there's the prospect that a friendship could bloom into a relationship. There's no prospect for that with a married woman. Now, will we be your husband's friend? Sure, and then by extension your friend. But any other way, it's a no-win. Maybe we're not looking for a relationship, but we want to be your friend. That will inevitably become a questionable friendship if you're texting each other almost every day, or talking about hanging out and the husband isn't involved in those convos. Really... There are just too many complications. It's not worth it most times.

HawkPerception · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with being friends with a married woman. However, I'm no home wrecker and I would always invite her husband as well if I plan on chilling with her. I would always make sure I get the husband's approval if I did have a married woman friend.

sheikalana · Answer

It's inappropriate. As a married woman I don't feel the need to make friends with other men. I don't even put myself in situations where other man would think we could be more than acquaintances. Have I ever felt tempted? Never. I'm nice to everyone but if I sense a man is misinterpreting my friendliness I'll just give you the cold shoulder.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

You can be acquaintances with married women, but friends implies going places and hanging out with someone. I don’t think it’s appropriate for a married man or woman to be close friends with someone of the opposite sex. Add a little bit of alcohol in an intimate setting and mistakes happen. Seen it so many times I believe it’s basically an inevitability.

JacobJordan · Answer

Because I have a wife and it is disrespectful and dishonorable to be friends with another man's wife especially when he is not present. It is fine if 2 married couples are friends. However in the event of spending time together it is either the 2 wives together and the 2 husband's together or all 4 together. But the husband's do not spend time with the others wife without the husband present

cth2188 · Answer

I don't care to indulge in marriage peoples business or women partnered with men as a single woman. I've seen a lot of messy marriages and I've dealt with married women who who talk crao about their husband's and use me as dump trauma grounds.

NathanDavis · Answer

I am... but I've been friends with them before they married

desidoll · Answer

I mean, regardless of her status, if they find her attractive, being her friend is not a good idea lol.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

some of my friends became my friends when I was married. I can't imagine any problem with that...

NewgodOmega · Answer

Coz all women are dangerous and they may have ill intent to trap you and extort money that's why it's better to stay away from all women Extreme mgtow is the future

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Who says I can't? I've been friends with a number of married women! It DOES seem, though, that THEY can't keep their hands and lips off of ME!! It's NOT easy being a sex god!!

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Only if I can be friends with their husbands as well. Way less chance of drama down the road.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's not that i can't be but men in their instinct do not like their wives to be friends with other males, even if he accepts it, he will feel bothered!

Berweic · Answer

Why would they be? We know that friendship will end in bed, there is no need to get into such spoiled things.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I can be but would make sure the husband approved and was part of any communications. Just out of respect.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Out of respect for the dude that is married to her? I don't know. Just a thought

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Why is a married woman seeking male friends? Thats too inviting for trouble

Anonymous · Answer

Who says so? Well I did keep a distance with married women when I was single , that's a sign of respect to the marriage

JHAYES317 · Answer

I don’t see why I couldn’t be…unless I had some sort of sexual past with them.

Iron_Man · Answer

No way not one on one only if the husband is there my friend

Cazaputas · Answer

I'm not interested in female friendship at all.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

All men are not same, but some of us are not really the type to pursue platonic relationships with women

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls can't be friends with married men

renodnol32 · Answer

I can. I have female friends who are married now. We are still friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Like friends with benefits? Only if he’s okay with it lol

Yannae · Answer

? I am friends with a married woman.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

I am friends with my friends wife.

grega239 · Answer

I could but what would be the point

BLP11520 · Answer

Because of the husband🤔

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Who says we can’t?

dinojames22 · Answer

Three words... Their jealous spouse

MaxUsefull · Answer

Is she pretty? That’s impossible

slatyb · Answer

I can be.

MysticDevice · Answer

Who says we can't

OtterMan68 · Answer

who says we can't?

dudeinohio · Answer

It's inappropriate

jahaims · Answer

I am

moneymagnet24 · Answer

I'm...

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

What the actual F

Anonymous · Answer

U just can't

Slim57 · Answer

I can

riverrat3 · Answer

I can

Anonymous · Answer

I can be

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