Why do some people get upset when their ex moves quickly on after the breakup?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It can be an indication that the other person had long ago “mentally” broke up with you and/or already had someone else lined up. Makes the other person feel like they were likely being used/cheated on.

I notice a lot of women line up new partners while they are still in a relationship. Yet they don’t cut the rope right away with their current partner out of insecurity/fear of regret. I know I was used as a “placeholder” once while the girl was looking for a better option. It was a very sleezy thing to do. Shows that the person isn’t moral/trustworthy.

Also men typically have a delayed reaction after break ups. We are usually caught off guard more. We also aren’t allowed to express our negative emotions right after a heart break the same way women can. Instead we internalize it. So some us get really worked up later when we find out our ex moved on quickly or worse jumped in a relationship with someone else. Not saying that’s healthy or “okay”.

But many guys never really get over a heartbreak if we really loved the woman. Especially if she did something really unfair/harmful at the end. We just get better at managing the negative feeling as time goes on.

JHAYES317 · Accepted Answer

Because they feel like they should have taken time to themselves to reflect on what went wrong…jumping immediately into a new relationship makes it seem like the previous relationship meant nothing…

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Leftover feelings, maybe the love & relationship isn’t as meaningful with how quick they started anew with someone else, or it could also be petty seeing they moved on before them

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Because most people think they are more important than what they actually are.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ahh, the classic tale of post-breakup blues meets a dash of jealousy! It's like watching your favorite ice cream melt before you even get a taste. 🍦💔 When an ex moves on faster than a speeding bullet, it feels personal. It's as if they're saying, "Our time together? Just a blip on my romantic radar." Ouch, right? This fast-forward on their part can make us question the depth of what we had, stir up insecurities, and tickle those not-so-fun feelings of being replaceable. It's a cocktail of emotions, with a pinch of salt in the wound. But hey, it's also a reminder that moving on is part of the journey. Your ex's new chapter doesn't diminish your worth or the story you shared. 🚀 What's your take? Ever felt like you've been in a race to move on? Let's chat!

sukumamu · Answer

For most people it's difficult not to compare themselves to/feel inferior to whomever their ex is dating now. That's a very natural reaction. For more insecure individuals, the emotional reaction to this can be pretty intense. The self-talk would probably be something like "Look, I knew I was an awful person, look how much better they're doing without me, and so quickly!" or "I'm never gonna be who they're dating now, look at that guy/girl! How am I supposed to compete with that! I'm such a loser. Just looking at my ex now makes me feel so small, I can't handle this." And if it's just a case of their ex adjusting to single life well shortly after the break-up, the insecure individuals might be like "Dang, they're so happy without me even alone. I must've been awful."

Tl;dr because people be insecure, fam.

Anonymous · Answer

I have never had a ex (because I choose not to date), but my guess is because they care more about the former relationship than their ex and are shocked/hurt that the other person doesn't feel the same way. I am guessing one or more of the following questions come to mind in some form or another: Did their ex truly care about me? Is something wrong with me? Is my ability to judge another person's character flawed (how else could they move-on so quickly from me)? Did I waste my time dating this person?

pandaking2p12 · Answer

Still care or feel like tneh ment nothing. My friend has had a new boyfriend for 10 months now but is always tlaking about her ex boyfriend. My ex girlfriend moved in the Day after we break up tried forcing me to get married I argeed and still picked the need guy

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

No idea. It's their problem not mine.. I fight tooth and nail to save a relationship that is worth saving. The time to worry about them getting upset with regards to a break up is THEN.. Once it is broken, it is too late!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

because they don't... they are still stuck in a non-existent relationship and would prefer their partner feel the same...

_justimagineit_ · Answer

because they don't... they are still stuck in a non-existent relationship and would prefer their partner feel the same...

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I feel u!. Once a girlfriend broke up w/me, before we even got'2 go out! My reply,"Oh well, I really liked'd'ju Alicia.. But, oh well-you're replaceable-jus like a pair'uh socks". And she was mad''.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They feel as if they put more in the relationship than their ex, as if the ex never cared.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

It show the level of love of that person, that they love thme less or even didn't care

sheikalana · Answer

They still have hopes to get back together with their ex.

Still-alive · Answer

They aren't over them and there's a very good chance they're just dating them as a rebound too.

Xia1994 · Answer

They feel hurt because the wounds are still fresh.

desidoll · Answer

Because they obviously not over them yet.

Slim57 · Answer

Because it shows they truly never loved or cared about you

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because they haven’t moved on

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Cause they still love them

laly520 · Answer

cuz they still didn't move on fully yet

jahaims · Answer

Because they are still emotionally invested

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

OtterMan68 · Answer

ego and immaturity

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