I would have my own money and pay a lot of the bills because I may be coming into a lot of money. But I just wonder if that would make my boyfriend feel resentful towards me for not working and he will be working still.
u An inheritance is an expectation, not a right, and sometimes people change their wills without telling anyone. You may be in for a horrible surprise down the road.
If you do inherit, you should invest that money now and have a good start on a secure income in retirement.
Yes, most guys woul want a girlfriend to be working and be productive, unless they have children, in which case you should be working and productive at home with the kids.
I agree wholeheartedly. I am just going to take a year off to figure out what it is I really want to do if I so should come into the money to do so. I will also invest in the money and have a savings and CD accounts.
As long as finances allow you to do so. You contribute to doing the chores around the house. Why not? Enjoy life while you are young and healthy. My only question would be. When you said about traveling. Would that be with or without your SO? He might feel left out if you travel alone.
Most of the time with my S/O. But I know he won't always be able to take off so sometimes it will be with my best friend.
@Simslover92. Enjoy! I worked at the same place for 4 decades. Had to pick vacations by seniority and never had weekends off. Was almost impossible to do vacations. Since I retired am trying to make up for it before “Old Age “ sets in! LOL!
Well I'm glad you can make up for it now. If I come into money though I want to get to travel the world while I'm still young which requires taking time away from work. I'm giving myself a year before I head back to work if I come into money.
@Simslover92. Thank you for the MHO!
You're welcome!
@Simslover92 Hope you enjoy your travels!
Thanks!
Please consider getting married first. I don't know if you believe in marriage or not but A stay-at-home wife sounds more secure to me at least that way you're married, and if you have kids you can even be the parent who stays home to raise them you know.
Oh and no matter what you choose please keep having a source of income, keep working! it's good!, that's your back up plan and source of independence right there👍.
If I can find a work from home job, I will certainly not stop working but I am done with the traditional jobs. I will either work for myself or work from home. I plan on using some of the money to go back to school. Maybe get a degree in accounting so that I can work for myself.
And as far as being married first. I do believe in marriage and I guess he doesn't have to live with me until we at least become engaged but I definitely want to move close to where he is so we can have a more traditional relationship. I hate being long distance.
@Simslover92 can i give you some tips? If you're interested consider this.
Men can be very smart creatures, he may not marry you if you live with him because then you'd be acting like a wife already without the ring from him. So consider moving close to him but not moving in with him, and when you talk drop hints about him marrying you. Say things like e. g. " I can't wait to be your wife one day 😊", or " Ohhh I can't wait to see your taste in wedding rings when you propose🤭. but it's no biggie I know know you have good taste" I hope you get my drift here.
The advice I got from a wise elderly woman was to never cook and clean for a man until he marries you so dropping hints about that too would be helpful " I was taught to only ever cook and clean for my man after he marries me, so when you marry me I'm gonna take such good care of you, and I really can't wait". If you want him to help you with chores after marriage mention it now so that he can also pitch in with cooking and cleaning and y'all can decide on how you want to go about it. However, if you are going to be a stay at home wife you may be the one who would have to do most of the cooking and cleaning depends on his views and ya'lls unique preferences. Consider talking to him about the stay at home wife thing so y'all can come to a conclusion together.
With regards to working best of luck with what kind of job you choose I hope it can be a work from home kind of vibe because that seems to be your desire I'm just glad you'll keep working even if you do become a stay at home wife/girlfriend. I hope my pieces of advice will help you get wife-d up I will definitely be applying them myself 😂💯. In the words of the wise elderly women: dating as a woman is for watching him, watch how he acts when he's stressed angry, how he treats you, your family, friends, what he does, how he does it so you watch him and you enjoy the dates, enjoy hanging out with him, talking, hugs kisses, see if you are compatible so girl i hope you get my drift here! anyways goodluck!
That's so true. I may just live near him but I wouldn't move in with him until we're engaged or married. You're right. And thank you so much for your advice. I will definitely take heed from it.
I don’t know… I’d turn crazy to stay home for long.
Maybe every now and then I’d like to be the girlfriend who sends him to work and meets him when he comes back from work but I’d turn crazy if I didn’t work.
I mean I don't intend for it to be a long term thing. I just want to take a year off from work to find something I really would like to do. Maybe go back to school and do accounting. I don't know. The options are endless when you come into a good bit of money. I get how you could become stir crazy though but I would be traveling a bit of the time so I won't always be living in the house.
Aiming to unravel the mysteries of love and partnership, let's dive into your question. Being a stay-at-home girlfriend isn't inherently wrong, especially if you're financially contributing and have clear communication with your boyfriend about your arrangement. It's all about balance and shared expectations. The key ingredient? Talking it out heart-to-heart to ensure you're both on the same wavelength. Will there be a whiff of resentment? Possibly, if the situation isn't transparent or if expectations aren't aligned. Love is a dance, and sometimes, one leads while the other follows, but it's crucial to switch roles and keep the rhythm together. Would love to hear more thoughts on this. Keep the love (and conversation) flowing! 💖
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Ballpark how much money are you expecting? Because reading through some of your other comments where you talking about using it to go back to school but also using it to pay bills, you’re going to need about half a mil.
Also, to answer your question, I don’t think it’s wrong. But I do think you might be looking at this from a preliminary and ideal perspective. I don’t know what kind of guy your boyfriend is but I believe most guys would want to get in on more of the pie here. They’re not going to like living their 9-5 grind while you kick back living life on easy mode. They’ll hit you up for trips, cars, and time off work themselves. And depending on how much money you have, that could go quick. Then it’s back to reality. That’s just how most people operate when they come into money. They blow through it living off of it, and then it’s gone and they have to go back to the grind.
I'm expecting more than 2 million. And my boyfriend isn't like that. He wouldn't want to use me for my money. If anything he wouldn't want to take anything I give him but I would give him something because I always said I would.
Yes it certainly is.
I don't see any issues with that especially since you are still going to be financially contributing
Thanks. I definitely will be contributing a lot.
Not if you are home taking care of things at home. everything while he is at work and you both work as a team , and your bills are paid and living contently
Depends completely on what you did with your spare time. Does that spare time benefit him more than you? Sure, he needs to allow you reasonable rewards for making sure he is happy, comfortable and “satisfied”, especially after his 8 or more hours spent earning that paycheck, that allows you to “spoil” yourself, as well as, you spoiling him.
Don’t be out running up shit loads of debt unless he is getting his “needs” met and doesn’t give a shit about his credit score, and I don’t just mean just sexually either. He is still going to deserve the same freedoms as his income allows.
Basically, don’t be a shellfish whore. Then again, if he is fucking around on you, find a man that respects you. Be very, very discreet. You can then find a lawyer that will get you what you deserve.
Obviously you need to talk to him and your joint life plans are a factor. You should do more than spend your inheritance. Buy a house for example rather than dribbling it away on every day expenses.
In general I don't think there is anything wrong with your plans per se. I would get annoyed if you expected me to do half the housework when you are at home all day. Different if you are a stay at home mom.
I think you should expect to be expected to do more than retire at 32 :)
Yes that's true and I'm not just going to be doing nothing with the money but dribble away on everyday expenses. I would be making investments and putting some in a CD. I would also buy a house once we settle on where we want to live.
Not at all, in my opinion, especially if you're also paying some of the bills, which I'd politely ask you not to do if you were my girlfriend. I think you should still have him do all the household chores, however.
I like doing household chores so I would be doing that as well as cooking.
Oh ok. Well there's not too many things I don't enjoy doing so it would be fine for me to do all of them except maybe ironing. I hate ironing. He would have to do that one.
What are you going to do with yourself all day? Do you have some skill that you want to develop? Do you want to write a novel? Or are you going to stream Netflix and eat junk food all day? That would make a difference to me.
I'm a writer. So I would be writing my novel but I also might go back to school and get a degree in accounting. I would also be tending to the household, cooking, cleaning, etc.
That’s something you should be discussing with him. Becoming a stay at home wife, mom, or girlfriend is a 2 person decision. Is the money a guaranteed thing? If yes, it may be a good idea for you and your boyfriend, assuming he intends to marry you, to sit down with a financial planner to see if staying home is a viable decision. Money doesn’t last forever, and that’s especially true if you start having kids.
If he doesn’t mind, that’s his prerogative. Personally, UNLESS we were married with kids (where the woman is spending her time keeping the house tidy and taking care of the children), I would feel taken advantage of.
I would be contributing a lot of my money into the bills and rent though.
@Simslover92 as long as you are still contributing then I don’t see why anyone would have a problem with that
At 32 years old why are you a stay at home girlfriend instead of a wife? Your priorities are backwards and this man doesn't see you as worthwhile the investment. If he did he would've married you. You sound useless.
He asked me my ring size recently so I think he is planning on proposing sometime this year. Being fully out of debt will just speed up the process for us and I won't be a stay at home girlfriend for long. That's not my intention at all and I don't think it's his either.
I dout it
And if he does marry you, it's only for the money. This man does not like u
The only reason he hasn't proposed yet is because we've only been together for 10 months. It's way too early to propose right now, but because he asked for my ring size, I'm assuming that will be soon and this is without the money so obviously he wants to marry me without the money. He doesn't even know how much I'm supposed to be getting. And he asked me for my ring size before knowing I might come into money so he's definitely not in it for the money.
Also we're long distance so that's another reason he probably hasn't proposed yet.
I'd have no problem with it. I work from home anyway so it would be nice!
I wish he worked from home. It would be so nice!
I would think he would be happy that you’re paying a lot of the bills. But I could be wrong.
Yeah I would think so too
@Simslover92 i don’t see anything wrong with it
Thanks Kelly!
even if I was wealthy which Im not I would still want to work; to feel like Im doing something to help society, to fill up my days and to socialize
That's true. I eventually do want to go back to work once I receive the money but I want to figure out what it is I really want to do career wise. A year off of working will give me a chance to figure it out.
Nothing is wrong when it comes to women in india wives can murder their husbands its not legal but it's more like a unspoken law wife gets 2 years prison term then she is free plus she gets her husbands everything so anything a women do these days is not wrong
Not as long as he comes home to a hot meal and a clean house.
He definitely would!
Perhaps you should wait and see if you actually get any money...
Yeah that's what I am doing... waiting and hoping that I do come into it. It's supposed to be a sure thing but ofc nothing is ever really a sure thing.
ask your boyfriend. It´s not a question the internet can answer.
If you pay your share it is fine. However if you are coming into money you should make smart choices with it rather than waste it on paying rent, food, utils etc. Use that money to create a stable future for you both
That's true. I should definitely do that.
Depending on the amount you are getting you should check local banks for certificates of deposit in 5, 10 and 20 year increments. Depending on rates that is a good source of financial growth. Can also invest in stocks that have seen consistent growth year after year. Starting a business is also an option
Yeah that's one of the things I was going to do with the money is put it in a CD. Stocks is another thing I thought of doing. I'm not sure about starting a business though.
I personally wouldn't care as long as it was enough money to sustain her long term. If it is just enough money to not work for a while then I would see it as a waste.
This is a conversation you need to have with him but I don't think he'll resent you.
No, not at all.. As long as you cook, clean and appreciate your man for providing for you.
Of course I would.
Its not bad long as you got your share of the bills
Yeah depending on how much money I get, I could be paying the majority of the bills for a while.
Guys seem to hate that part. They want equal or to be the main provider. Anytime i made more or paid more than my guys, they had an issue
Yeah I could see that possibly being a problem. I will talk to him about it.
he's not gonna admit it. You’ll see how bothered they get after the first few months of you being the breadwinner
Damn then I don't know what to do if I come into the money. I will have enough to survive several years off of if I get it. He would just have to get over it.
Yea he’ll either get over it or make up an excuse to leave until he's making more than you. I notice my exes would leave and then come back once they were the breadwinner. I can't stand seeng someone so buttheart when im trying to work as a team. I can sense my current boyfriend getting around to this bad habit. there's things he wants but can't afford and he hates when i offer to buy it
Damn. That sucks. I definitely don't want him to be like that. I'm hoping he will be okay with me being the breadwinner but if not then I don't know what to do.
If he decides to let his ego overpower your love, then you give him his space
Ok I will.
If you're paying bills, no. If not, that's just code for being a bum.
I will be paying bills
Then as long as you aren't sitting on your ass all day smoking pot, I wouldn't have a problem with it.
Nothing wrong with being a housewife. A good housewife can save more than she can make by staying at home.
I support my stay at home wife and she looks after the kids.
As long as he can afford it and is 100% ok with it.
Sure you can do that. It’s up to you and the boyfriend sounds good
yes, if you're not married and taking care of all the chores, he's your sugar daddy
talk to him about it and work out finances wise how everyone will be paid for etc
Ok I can definitely do that! Thanks!
no problem! also having that figured out may make talking to/with him about it easier rather than just "guessing" about what you'll afford and such. good luck :D
Thanks. You're so right. I will talk to him about it!
talk to him first n ask for his opinion
not all guys r ok with that
Ok I will! Thanks!
It's fine to be stay at home girlfriend. But you can work from home and make money too.
Stay at home girlfriend isn't a job. You don't have any kids to take care of; you're just lazy AF.
No I would be taking care of the house and going back to school to get a degree in something that will make me a lot more money and be more successful.
So you're not a stay at home girlfriend. You're just jobless.
With money. It's a big difference. It's not like I wouldn't be contributing to my fair share of the bills and rent. I will be doing my part as well financially.
How will you get money if you don't have a job?
I'm supposed to be getting over 2 million dollars soon.
And I'm Miss Universe.
Then you're Miss Universe then.
We don't know your boyfriend, so how could we know how he would feel regarding anything?
Ignore AI, they're a POS
Anyway, yes, you would be
It varies really
not if you both agree
Talk to him about it
Nope I'd prefer it!
Who cares
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