He is ignoring me after our 5 hour long phone conversation last night. What to do?

[Anonymous]

Last night we talked for hours till midnight. It was good except he made some stupid jokes about punishing me... if I irritate him too much

Anyway...

I feel like I have to share everything with him all the time, but I try not to be so clingy, although it's not happening obviously.

The problem is I sent him a meme today, it was a harmless one in my opinion, but he left me on seen (saw it 10 minutes after I sent it).

I got anxious and send him "are you alive/woke" sort of message...2hixh he saw again 10 minutes later and didn't respond at all.

I'm very anxious already but I try my best not to act on it.

What should I do?

[Anonymous]

The anxious attachment style will only make you look like a desperate fool. A man should always be more interested in the woman, otherwise this is what happens, where now you’re so attached and clingy to a person who isn’t feeling you as much as you are him. Don’t put yourself in that position.

[Asker]

Do you think I should just wait or what?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, definitely wait and find some distractions. That sort of attachment should be reserved for at least a boyfriend, and even in that case you shouldn’t do too much. Match his energy and pay close attention, because if this is him showing that he wasn’t genuine about his effort and he’s actually inconsistent/doesn’t communicate as much as he pretended, then you need to be able to leave. You never wanna be so into the guy that you degrade yourself and accommodate bullshit.

[Asker]

Thanks for your advice! I have one final question... if he doesn't reach till Tuesday (during our phone call he said he is going to call me on Monday if he ain't usy at work) , do you think it is appropriate for me to ask him what's going on?

[Opinion Owner]

No problem!☺️ I can’t stop you from reaching out but if I were you I wouldn’t. Because you have such an anxious attachment style, you need a man who is better and maintaining communication, reassuring you and really just being there. You want a man who wants to talk to you just as much as you want to talk to him as well. Right now, this man is showing that he is totally fine not responding or speaking to you. For large quantities of time. For a man like that, you would have to chase him, initiate the conversations, you’ll eventually be carrying the relationship on your back which isn’t what you want as a woman. He won’t appreciate or respect you, especially if you aren’t valuing yourself and being so accessible.

[Opinion Owner]

*better at maintaining