How is that someone can go from being a total stranger to being the most important person in your life back to being a stranger all over again?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I know it doesn't seem possible but I actually had that happen to me.

We started out kinda slow, and before long we were both totally in love. We never wanted to be without each other and made promises to never leave.

But out of the clear blue, he started acting standoffish from me. I think it was because he found someone else but didn't quite know how to leave me, so by yelling at me and being an ass he thought I would break up with him. It backfired on him.
He said we liik at the world differently. I'll say! He has done so many bad things to people in his life and I am just the opposite.

We broke up even though he told me he loved me and said he would stay until the end.
I told him he wasn't the same man I fell in love with and didn't want him to stay and yell at me all the time and cheat on me.

So that was that. Strangers again.
Same old merry-go-round just a different 🐎 horse.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some people are soul mates for a season. They serve a certain purpose in your life and once that mission has been realized, they are out of your life. They usually teach you something you were missing about yourself or life in general. I really believe some people are only meant to be with you for a few chapters and then it doesn't make sense for them to stay longer.

You both start going in different directions in your evolution and then it's just the end. It's sad to think this way, but it's also just realistic and so you can appreciate the time you have with all the special people in your life. At one point, they were your everything and that's a very beautiful thing and doesn't take away from how real it felt at the time. There was no deception but it is what it is ❤️

electromagnetic · Answer

It happens honestly. My ex was exactly that. We literally grew up together, lost contract, met again at 19 and he became the most important person. Then he started faqqing around like a moron and I dropped him faster than fly on shit. Pretty much dead. Someone you just end up not waiting to deal with certain people again and the mind just shut that person out from your mind.

Anonymous · Answer

I'll never understand this. I think it stems from people who only look at other people for what role they play in thier life. I had this "lady" on this site tell me that when she meets a guy she puts a clock on him. That is he has 2 weeks to ask her out. Then after that she never likes him again.🤣 And I was like I get not wanting to be a fool for someone. But how can you be so cold and callous towards someone you CLAIM to care about? I may break up with someone I may even reach a point where I have to end a friendship altogether. But I'll ALWAYS care about that person. I'll ALWAYS wish the best for them. I don't know how some people just turn off feelings Luke switch like that. I couldn't do it. It makes me question whether these people ever had any genuine feelings towards that person to begin with.

CheeseMonster · Answer

It just happens sometimes. If you meet an amazing person you want to spend time with them and be close to them, share your lives. But that doesn't often work out for the long term. Sometimes one of you has to move away for work or some other reason, or you have a falling out and one of you decides to move on to a new (or old) relationship.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Because when love is found, nobody wants to be around when it’s gone. To love and then not love is to live and to not live. Hence, to not love results in becoming empty vessels. Literally some “body” that we used to know.

NYlatefun · Answer

Of course, isn’t that how many relationships start? And if you break up, you won’t se the person again.

NathanDavis · Answer

never been in that situation ain't that amnesia though?  heard of that happening after some really bas crashes

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

This question's true answer is found in women!
The majority of cases that i'm seeing and dealing with are done with women who acts like this!
We always pose this question because sometimes we can't believe how they can let of go of everything just in a blink of an eye without even thinking again!

If we were built like this than we would of knew the answer but we aren't!

Peridot25 · Answer

It was never meant to be. Maybe at that time it was but times change. A lot. Believe me, I’ve been down this road before.

Yannae · Answer

Betrayal is the best way! Because you think you know them but after betrayal it doesn't seem like you did. So they become a stranger again.

sawno · Answer

You either grow towards each other or you grow apart, the moment you can't make the growing towards each other work anymore you inevitably grow apart.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

They were complete strangers, but they never returned to this stage again. We already know each other, and this will never change.

NewgodOmega · Answer

Life is a cycle you start at a point you have to return to that point

thegreenyogi · Answer

I like to call it chemistry or karma.

jmsinaz · Answer

Currently in the "who is this person" phase and we're coming up on 16 years of marriage.

msc545 · Answer

You're fantasies take over and you mistake them for things The real person has said or represented. Until you realize you've been kidding yourself.

Wiredone · Answer

Because you realize they are not the person that you thought they were

Nikki1989 · Answer

Never heard of that happening.

Slim57 · Answer

Lies of how someone really feels

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Cause they are toxic

RossyBoi · Answer

Yes, it's happened to me several times.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

Time... 😔

riverrat3 · Answer

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