When should you say "I Love You?"?

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GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

It's actually not customary here to say "I love you" much at all between Japanese couples, if ever. This might sound cold and distant to people outside of Japan but many Japanese couples often go above and beyond in showing love to each other, just not with words.

https://friedchickenandsushi.com/blog/2022/1/5/why-japanese-couples-never-say-i-love-you

>> Saying “I love you” every day if you’re Japanese dilutes the feeling behind the words. I was surprised to learn couples there feel like you should show and not tell.

>> Or, you could look like a liar—someone who’s hiding something.

>> The fact that your delicious dinner was prepared with care and noticing the perfect way your clothes were folded neatly says it all. Picking up something your wife dropped right away and holding the door for her as you walk into a store are impressive gestures of love.

>> In Japan, I’m not sure it works the same. Showing your love is all about actions, and what you do and how you show your love to your partner is what matters—part of showing that love means avoiding conflict as much as possible.

I've been influenced by other cultures growing up and my wife and I are much more physically affectionate than most Japanese couples, but I think we could probably count on our fingers how many times we've said, "I love you", to each other. We show it instead on a daily basis without the words.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

all the time, but with the right energy and time.  and you should think in advance what those words mean. practice on your dog... and plants... I bet they grow better. Love is energy...

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

when you feel it and you know the other person would respond... I'm not a fan of confessing if I'm unsure of the other person's emotions.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

When you feel it, it usually slips out the first time and catches you off guard yourself.

Bricealan · Answer

When you have tried everything else to get her pants off?🤔🤔🤷‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It's nice of you to ask, but I don't think we know each other well enough :P

strateguy632 · Answer

after 6 dates and every week. or else she will complain.

exitseven · Answer

Not until you really mean it but don't wait too long.

Night_Descends · Answer

When you truly feel it. Keep it simple. Keep it real.

LiamS95 · Answer

When you know without a doubt that it is true.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I saw and heard these words too often in a schmaltzy and dishonest context. That's why I avoid them if I can. But for Christmas and birthday it's ok, I think. If I mean it, that is.

sawno · Answer

I do it when I mean it.

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

When you really feel it. Not just to get them in bed

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Hmmm, i personally show love through actions rather than words haha but I would say personally when I know for sure she loves me back

SoJust · Answer

After gaining a certain level of sincerity and being sure of your feelings, you should say "I love you".

NathanDavis · Answer

when you really feel it

Jennz6 · Answer

Only if you mean it

lilBigPotato · Answer

When you feel it

laly520 · Answer

once sure of feelings

Kelly6 · Answer

@elena_stewart when you truly love him/her

SolitarySolace · Answer

When they do something worth saying those words

Yannae · Answer

When you feel those words.

MrDaveAPSI · Answer

when you think you can

Nikki1989 · Answer

When you feel it is 100% genuine.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Whenever you truly feel it!

jahaims · Answer

When you feel it obviously

jack1924 · Answer

When you feel it

AngryCarl · Answer

Every day

justabuddy · Answer

To yourself? Always

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