When is it okay to say “I love you” in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hellooo! Some context: I’ve been with my boyfriend officially for a month and a half (we have known each other for longer and started liking each other 2 months before becoming official).
So I’ve known what kind of person he is for some time. As a partner, he is consistent, caring, and understanding. In the past, I’ve felt like I truly loved my partners within 3-5 months or not until a while, but with him, I am already feeling it. He is genuinely the kindest and most loving person I’ve ever been with and I feel like the luckiest woman to have met him.
Valentine’s day is coming up and I want to write him a love letter but I’m debating on if I should outright say “I love you” because I don’t want to do it too early (he hasn’t said it either). So far, I’m sticking with “I appreciate you” or “I adore you” but it feels so silly to avoid saying “I love you”.
It’s just so early in the relationship and I don’t want to rush things.

[BobbieBoy666]

It's considered okay to say "I love you" in a relationship when you genuinely feel it, and when you feel secure and comfortable enough to express that level of depth in your connection with your partner; there's no strict timeline, and it depends entirely on the individual relationship dynamics and how deeply you feel connected to the other person.
Key points to consider:
No set timeframe:
There's no "right" amount of time to wait before saying "I love you"; it's more about the quality of the connection and how you feel within the relationship.
Genuine feelings:
Only say "I love you" when you truly believe it and are ready to express that level of commitment.
Emotional security:
Feeling safe and trusting in the relationship is important before expressing deep love.
Consider your partner's feelings:
Be mindful of whether your partner might feel pressured or uncomfortable if you say "I love you" too early.
Pay attention to your own emotions:
Differentiate between infatuation and true love before making such a declaration.

[Vesuvius87]

The very last sentence is the most important one. Too many people that are infatuated (aka ''falling in love'') say I love you and that's not love.

[Anonymous]

You can say it whenever you want if you know that’s what you truly feel. But the question really is, does he feel the same? I think women tend to know quicker how they feel about a person. Men not so much. So to me I think it’s always best to wait for him to say it Because if he isn’t to that point, which may take him longer or he may never get to that point as far as how he feels about you, you’re going to put him on the spot. Which can be awkward. He may respond w something you may not like that may hurt your feelings. Like you said it has t been that long so again he may feel rushed. Maybe like you’re clingy, moving too far ahead in time. To him in his mind the two of you are still dating while you’re already planning your wedding. Does that make sense?

[Vesuvius87]

Personally, the first time my husband and I exchanged those words was shortly after getting engaged. I know most people wouldn't wait till being engaged and already say them during the dating stage. I just didn't want my time wasted.

There is really no specific timeframe to say ''I love you'' in a relationship. You can say it now, within weeks or months. The only thing I will suggest if make sure you actually mean and it's not just something said at the heat of the moment. Too many people say ''I love you'' but like someone else mentioned, they are really just experiencing the infatuation stage. Do not say ''I love you'' if you're just feeling on cloud 9 and infatuated. You have to actually get to know the person well, actually see their flaws (ex: if he were to snore very loud) and love their traits.

[DishLady]

Whenever you're comfortable saying it.

You'll sometimes hear the prequel to this about a month or two into a relationship. "I love that you __" in reference to an action or statement you've made. This is the person's way of taking baby steps towards saying "I love you." This particularly applies to people who have been in relationships that have failed... They're a little more cautious about declaring love...

Longest I've waited to tell someone I loved them is possibly six months. If I'm not feeling it by then I know it's most likely not something I'm going to be feeling towards that person.

[AI Opinion]

Hey there, lovebird! 🎵 My aim is to help you sail smoothly on these romantic waters. Your heart is fluttering with all the right feels! There's no universal rule for saying "I love you," but sharing your feelings is all about timing and authenticity. Since your boyfriend is as amazing as you describe, Valentine's Day could be the perfect time to express your emotions. Trust your gut; if it feels right, why hold back? If you're hesitant, ease into it with the love letter and see his reaction. Remember, love's all about taking leaps, not avoiding steps. 😘 Good luck!

[Finchie40]

There is no time limit , if you truly feel you love your partner tell them you do , if they love you the same they will say it back , if not , then that’s a different story , but it already sounds like your boyfriend loves and cares about you so you should be fine to say it

[Pinay_ako]

When you truly felt every word and actually mean it.

[AviatorTom]

Whenever that is how you feel. There is no hard and fast rule.

[StarWarGirl]

When your heart naturally feels to say it, only then you should say. Not because it's Valentine's day not because he confessed to you his love, not because he said it so you should also say it, not because it's special day so you should be making his day special by saying it.

But you should only say it when you feel to say it. No matter it's ordinary day or no matter it's most ordinary moment when you are saying it. It doesn't matter. But your heart should feel like it's wanting to say those words. It could not be in peace without speaking out those words. Only that time you should say that.

As you mentioned, now you are feeling like it's silly. So you need to wait more. Now your heart isn't truly wanting to say that. And as long as there are true feelings sometimes we need not to say those words, but our behaviour, our actions already confess it out about how we feel about that person to them. So it's not necessary.

[Valdemort]

When you feel its sincere and both of you are in that place emotionally. Don't think you wanna say it too early, even if you mean it, just cause it can scare people away if it's too soon. But still, the right person likely won't mind whether you say it in a week or in 6 months.

[beenherebefore]

It took us a whole year to say I Love You to each other. I’m someone who doesn’t like to rush things or feel the pressure to say ‘I love you’ without meaning it. People often think that verbalizing those words is mandatory but showing it through your actions has a deeper meaning. No one should ever be pressured to say it. Truth is you’ll probably have strong feelings for someone you’re dating and that doesn’t necessarily mean you truly Love them.

[Deepinthought345]

I don't think there should be any specific timeframe to tell a person that you love them. It is okay to love someone and tell them that you do at any point. But do you want to be in a committed relationship because of that love? That requires more than just saying "I love you"... That requires a deeper conversation between you two.

[Danielle93]

Say it when you actually mean it and don't confuse it for infatuation. Real love isn't feeling butterflies in your stomach nor thinking he's perfect.

Too many think they really love their partners when they don't.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I like to say it right after I fill her mouth up with nutt and as I'm wiping the leftovers off in her hair.

Then slap a tiddie and go use the bathroom.

[KITEinStorm]

You can definitely tell from his attitude that he loves you too but If you are not sure, saying "I love you" too soon will push him away from you.

[Drarya]

Saying "I love you" in a relationship is like cooking pasta—you have to wait until it's ready. If You Say it too early, and you might scare them off. Wait too long, and they might think you're emotionally unavailable. You should know when you should drop your I Love you Atom Bomb. Say "I love you" when it feels right, not when it feels like a strategy. 😆

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I told my now husband 3 months into our relationship I just made it clear he wasn't obligated to say it back right then and that I was just expressing my feelings

[ProbablyClueless]

I mean... there's no real time line with that kind of thing. Just be authentic about it when you say it. if you genuinely feel it, then you should feel comfortable saying it.

[PeachyPie93]

If you feel it just say it.. I had guys say it in the first week.. it might not be reciprocated yet but it really doesn't matter when lol.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In a relationship the best time to say “I love you” is when you are ready to say it & when you really mean it.

[SolitarySolace]

Never, because no one ever truly means it and it only hurts when they say tell you to your face that they don’t love you anymore like
My mom did to my dad before they got divorced

[IslaTheWitch]

how did you even become official if you didn't love each other?

[Jamie05rhs]

If he is your boyfriend, and you are his girlfriend, then why would you hesitate to say "I love you"? That seems like a normal thing to say to someone that you are in a relationship with.

[Nikki1989]

When the time feels right and is 100% genuine.

[HungTexan]

There’s no prescribed timeframe for this. If you genuinely feel it, it’s ok to say it.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Whenever and however you want to as long as he understands :)

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Id say it when I feel it, everyone is worried that being the first to confess love is weakness

[Iron_Man]

4 to 6 month but you have to truly be in love

[Priya99999]

What's it with you people morbidly obsessed with kindness?

Don't say or do that

[anmari2001]

When you feel safe
Simple as that

[StevenMcGarrett]

Whenever you are comfortable saying it.

[LiamJHayden]

When it's true.

[Crazzyyworld]

When he feel weak and when she feel ugly

[Danny_dan92]

When you’re ready

[Anonymous]

Never.