I (38m) and my wife (29f) have been married for 6 years been in a relationship for 8. We both enjoy going to live music and sometimes will go with friends while the other needs to work.
My wife was invited to go to a show on a Saturday night with a male friend, we will call him Larry. They have gone to shows before with other people involved and come back late at night. This has always been fine.
This time the other person going with them canceled so it would just be the two of them.
My wife approached me the morning of the show saying that Larry "was not comfortable driving home after the show that night" so they would be getting a hotel room together. She asked if I was alright with that. I responded "No I'm not" and gave her the reasoning why.
I have known Larry for a few months. Larry, likes to brag about visiting the area that the show is going to be. When he goes there he reserves hotel rooms and specifically takes married women there to sleep with. Larry has also been reprimanded at his job for using his management position to aquire employees phone numbers so he can "firt" with them.
My wife looked at me told me "Okay" and did not return home until 1:00pm Sunday.
I have not spoken to her other than professionally for almost 2 days.
this did not happen yesterday. I have talked with my wife about this. She adamantly claims that he did not come to the hotel with her until early morning and was "Fucked up" when he arrived forcing her to drive back. Yes the 3rd person did exist I have spoken with that person too. They work a catering position that someone bailed on so could not attend. Larry has proceeded to not speak to myself or my wife and has moved out of state, no one would employ him anymore.
I'm considering divorce.
My wife was invited to go to a show on a Saturday night with a male friend, we will call him Larry. They have gone to shows before with other people involved and come back late at night. This has always been fine.
This time the other person going with them canceled so it would just be the two of them.
My wife approached me the morning of the show saying that Larry "was not comfortable driving home after the show that night" so they would be getting a hotel room together. She asked if I was alright with that. I responded "No I'm not" and gave her the reasoning why.
I have known Larry for a few months. Larry, likes to brag about visiting the area that the show is going to be. When he goes there he reserves hotel rooms and specifically takes married women there to sleep with. Larry has also been reprimanded at his job for using his management position to aquire employees phone numbers so he can "firt" with them.
My wife looked at me told me "Okay" and did not return home until 1:00pm Sunday.
I have not spoken to her other than professionally for almost 2 days.
this did not happen yesterday. I have talked with my wife about this. She adamantly claims that he did not come to the hotel with her until early morning and was "Fucked up" when he arrived forcing her to drive back. Yes the 3rd person did exist I have spoken with that person too. They work a catering position that someone bailed on so could not attend. Larry has proceeded to not speak to myself or my wife and has moved out of state, no one would employ him anymore.
I'm considering divorce.
Updates
1 mo
She has been removed from my home, and divorce papers are given. Let it be a lesson to her not to violate boundaries in a marriage. I am disappointed in some of the female responses. People like you are why marriage is in such a shit state here in the US.
