Is giving your partner the silent treatment ever really effective or is it just totally petty?

[Anonymous]

[Sameone]

It's depends on the condition


In my experience. When there is a quarrel between us or a disagreement. I will remain silent for between one and five hours,

and then I will try to talk to her about the problem. When things calm down. But if she (raises her nose) remains (angry), I will know that this relationship is over.

And my feelings for her will freezen
(I gave you quiet time and I will not play the game of running after you)


In my point of view (pov) aim fighting for you but u don't

[WindAtMyBack]

If I'm not talking it's not because I am giving the silent treatment. It's because I just don't want to talk, I don't want to argue, and don't know what to say. And if I did say anything in that moment, I might regret it.

It has nothing to do with the other person. It's internal and I probably don't want to talk to anyone else either. I just don't feel like talking.

[IslaTheWitch]

it's petty AF...

we can agree to pause our discussion to cool off, to rethink but it doesn't mean we should treat each other that way

especially that deep inside everyone feels it differently, so it's also asking for trouble

[Pinay_ako]

A moment of silence or a few hours of peace and silence is acceptable to cool off after an argument. But silent treatment to attempt manipulation is immature and one way to make me lose interest if it’s even worth staying…

[dolemite58]

Ok ms Tampo 😛😂

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It depends on the goal of silent treatment. If the goal is to use it to force your partner into action to confront a problem you have, then no. Not the way to go. If the goal is to give yourself time to process your feelings and not speak or allow yourself to be distracted then that’s fine, but it would also probably help to communicate that first.

[camerum]

Effective at knowing something is wrong sure.. But not constructive towards making amends..

All arguments about better communication styles aside.. Would you want to be on the receiving end? Do you feel that would provide a path to a amicable solution?

[Valdemort]

It's an profound sign of psychological manipulation. Immature to say the least, emotional abuse at its best. If you want something, speak your mind.

[Mikeysoda]

100% petty, childlike, and immature.

The planned time to cool down and come back together to discuss is a more mature and effective tactic.

[BadApple69]

Total waste of time. Take a couple of minutes, calm down and then calmly discuss the issue. But stay calm. Screaming never solved anything.

[Simslover92]

It's never good to give your partner the silent treatment imho. It just makes things worse. It's better to talk things out and come to a solution.

[didichi]

Giving your partner the silent treatment is immature and leads to a breakup.

[Lliam]

It's very immature and demonstrates terrible communication skills.

[Nikki1989]

It is very childish and achieves nothing.

[Yannae]

Petty. A glimpse of the not so bright future of that relationship.

[sakurayuki0629]

Haha last time my ex gave me silent treatment I ended up visiting my therapist for a year 😆😂 leaveeeee

[jahaims]

Having alone time to clear your head is okay. Acting like a child is not.

[Jay-_-]

Immature, it doesn't solve anything just causes more issues, honestly.

[Anonymous]

It depends lol if he kept repeating the same thing over n over again then a silent treatment would be great

[Xclusive_Kai]

I don't think it's petty, I think it's narcissistic!

[WhitneySnow]

It might drive them crazy

[OtterMan68]

never works

petty

[Sam12348]

I don't like playing mind games

[Anonymous]

Its toxic asf in my opinion

[JayBones2469]

It's super effective