When you see a man crying, do you feel sympathy or do you think he's a loser or do you not care at all?

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The_Sexpert · Accepted Answer

Sympathy of course

A man never cries unless it's something that's really hurting him inside.. and he's been tolerating and suffering it for too long

Honestly I am often confused whether to comfort a crying person or to leave them alone

strateguy632 · Accepted Answer

it depends if i know him or a stranger. once i heard a "cool guy" crying i felt sympathy, because i knew him and that he was real cool, but most times my response to a stranger crying is same as i tell myself: "walk it off" .

AmyHew1tt · Accepted Answer

I've always felt sympathy in my experiences with that before. But it does usually depend on why he's crying. Though that's not male-specific. There are reasons why I'd cringe if men or women cry.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Sympathy! I don’t think any less of a man when he sheds tears

coachTanthony · Answer

Men shouldn't cry period.

I_Am_Loner0405 · Answer

My dad broke down crying in my room when his dad died and my mom divorced him around the same time. Not sure why he confided in me, his oldest son. Maybe he was trying to show me that it was ok for men to cry? I’ve cried in front of my past exes, and they acted like they cared but they just ended up cheating on me. 🤷🏻‍♂️

SolitarySolace · Answer

Where I’m from men who cry are seen as weak and are laughed at and ridiculed by both men and women. Men are also told that they should cry more. It’s an endless cycle where the man just can’t win. He doesn’t knoW what to do. It’s easy for women. Just cry it out while everyone attacks the man that hurt you. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Men are just disposable afterthoughts anyway. No one really gives a shit.

zagor · Answer

Depends on the reason. If his wife or child or parent or someone else close (or dog) died or was seriously injured or diagnosed with cancer or something like that, then I feel sympathy. If he's crying because his team lost or he couldn't get a date, then no.

And of course if he's crying while watching "Old Yeller" after a few beers, then it is perfectly understandable.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

If a women cries its not always a serious matter, but when a man cries, something very seriously bad has happened (someone died, hard breakup, loss of house). The double standard for portraying such a man as weak is disgusting. Any person who judges a guy for crying should seek psychotherapy

sheikalana · Answer

I have mixed feelings I would want to comfort him because that's what I do when I see people crying but I might also think that it's a bit cringe of him to cry around others.

menina · Answer

I feel sympathy. I wonder why is he crying. I absolutely believe that men should be able to cry whenever they need to. Holding feelings is unhealthy.
This whole thing of "men don't cry" is pretty toxic in my opinion.

patrick994 · Answer

Men are human beings, as such they have emotions and can be hurt. Crying is not a sign of weakness, far from it, those who claim that a man cries are jerks, it is just a stereotype of toxic masculinity.

OddBeMe · Answer

Shame him toxically until he goes crazy and shoots up his old school yard where he was first made fun of.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Usually guys don't cry to often, so if the dude's shed'n some tears then something real likely happened to him.

desidoll · Answer

Of course sympathy. When it comes to feeling, I don’t discriminate genders.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

For me it's mostly sympathy. And then I'll want to ask if they're ok and everything.

laurlaur101 · Answer

I will ask what’s wrong I don’t like to see anyone upset it makes me upset when I see other people upset

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't like to see anyone cry. I always ask what is wrong.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Sympathy. I immediately think someone must have died or something because men usually don't cry in public over small things

handsomelad70 · Answer

I figure he's a dude in distress and needs sympathy and empathy.

KaDooKan · Answer

a fellow man will gain sympathy a woman may gain sympathy but loose respect

pethouse · Answer

Depends on why he’s crying. Men usually don’t cry unless they have a lot going on. We tend to bottle things up unit we can’t anymore.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't see a gender. I see someone who is sad, maybe angry, maybe helpless... maybe all together... Why should we divide our world?

archi2039492 · Answer

I feel sympathy. I know society tries to tell men that showing emotion is weak, but I think it takes great strength to show vulnerability.

When you see a man crying, do you feel sympathy or do you think he's a loser or do you not care at all?

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