My boyfriend breaks up with me everytime we argue. How to fix this thing?

[birds]

I don't know what is his problem but this is so annoying. He is the one who turns things into arguments and when I respond, he wants to leave the house and go away. I told him to stay many times and begged.. But after our last argument, he wanted to go away again and I said fine.. He seemed shocked. We are together for 2 months only. This is very immature.

[blunty]

If your boyfriend is breaking up with you every time you have an argument, that's a major red flag. Relationships should be about communication and working through problems together, not one person threatening to leave every time things get tough.

Here’s a few things you might consider:

Set Boundaries: Make it clear that the breakup threats are not acceptable.
Communicate Calmly: When things are calm, have a serious talk about how his actions affect you. Explain that arguments are normal, but the way he handles them is not productive or mature.
Look for Patterns: Pay attention to what triggers these arguments.
Stay Firm: If he threatens to leave again, stand your ground like you did last time.
Evaluate the Relationship: Consider if this is the kind of relationship you want to be in. Two months in, and already dealing with this kind of behavior, might be a sign of deeper compatibility issues.
Seek Support: Sometimes talking to a friend or a counselor can provide new perspectives and help you navigate these tough situations.
If he’s not willing to change, it might be worth reevaluating if this relationship is right for you.

[sheikalana]

Respect his wishes and let him be. This is not how you resolve conflict. If that's how he deals with it then he shouldn't be in a relationship at all. He's too childish and immature to be in a relationship. The first six to twelve months of your relationship should be close to perfect if he already acts like that that's a huge red flag. You should also never beg for someone to stay with you. I think you need to make that decision yourself before is too late. And when you do it make sure you cut all forms of contact and block him everywhere so he can't contact you and ask to go back to you.

[sage2021]

Does he drink alcohol and or do drugs. That would be my guess.

I doubt if he's drug free and alcohol free with that kind of personality.

Who needs that? You were right to tell him to keep on going.

That kind of relationship wouldn't have lasted. That's not love either.

Wait for a better guy to come along - and one will, you'll see.

Be patient and wait for someone better.

[Finchie40]

Dump him , he is a selfish immature person , when a partner can easily leave the house after an argument , it’s just an excuse for their selfish behavior. He is clearly trying to play a victim , when really he is the piece of shit. If he was mature , he would just walk into another room after an argument with you, to calm down and then talk to you without yelling , like a mature person would do. But instead he only thinks about himself , You are best to end it with him and find yourself someone more mature

[molonski2]

Either don't argue with him , or break up , forget all the nonsense threats , constant arguing is no way to live.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic "breakup-to-make-up" routine. It sounds like your beau might be using breakups as a way to gain control during arguments, which, let's be honest, is about as stable as a house of cards in a windstorm. Two months in and you're already playing emotional ping-pong? That’s a red flag dressed in neon lights. Communication is key in any relationship, but it's not just about staying to argue or begging him to stay. It’s about understanding why these arguments escalate to breakups. Next time things are calm, try having a heart-to-heart about how these breakups make you feel and suggest healthier ways to navigate disagreements. Remember, love should feel like a safe harbor, not a boxing ring. If he's not willing to work on this with you, it might be time to ask yourself if this relationship is worth the emotional rollercoaster.

[TomBuchanan]

I dated an Asian girl for three years that was like that. She loved fighting. Not the fight part. She liked the make up sex. And I have to admit, it was the hottest sex we had. I swear she would pick fights every few days just to fuck me like a slut afterwards. The sex was awesome. The fight was a pain in the ass. It was great for awhile but the roller coaster ride and frustration wasn't worth it and I finally left her. Seems like the madder she made me, the hotter she fucked me for make-up and I realized it was a turn on for her. I think it was a control thing, sort of like her enjoying the power over me that she could piss me off and make me want to quit the relationship, but then she enjoyed the power of knowing she could bring me back to her bed whenever she wanted.

She picked a fight on the freeway one morning while we were driving to the store we owned. I got pissed off and threw my rolex out the car window as I was driving. After I opened the store she left and went back and found it in the median and took it to the jeweler and had it repaired. I didn't know she had gone back and found it. She gave it to me a couple weeks later when she got it back restored and fucked my brains out.

Maybe your guy has a fetish for make up sex.

[DrPepper12]

He needs help. Probs learned it from parents. I do this now:

These are what I used to say but I've gotten rid of all of them:

“You always …” and “You never...

"Yes, but …”

“You should be more like _____.”

“This was never an issue in my other relationships.”

“You’re overreacting.”

“Calm down.”

“It’s not that big of a deal.”

-These are my phrases when we need a break. I ask myself each one to make sure ithe issue is important enough to bear / disagree over:

This is false

This is unproductive

This is ignorable

This is temporary

This is universal

This is survivable

His current ways are juvenile and hurtful. Maybe couples therapy? My very high inclination is to tell you to walk away. Too many 🚩🚩🚩

[onedarkcloud]

You know already that you can't fix him You are only going to get hurt.

[Fireguy17]

Dump him and move on.

No one should treat you that way.

It's very childish and very disrespectful.

What would happen if you were married with kids and he still did the same thing.

That is what behavior your kids would learn as being ok how to treat others.

Not a great roll model, or fun to be with.

[IslaTheWitch]

make it final. Tell him one more time he breaks up and you are history.

His behavior is very toxic and you shouldn't let him act like that toward you.

[HelpfulWoman]

"fix" by ending it.
no mature person does this and no mature and intelligent person will stick with a person who does so.

[Nifrayu]

I had a girlfriend like this... I think she knew how attached I was to her and she weaponized that. Just break up with him for real. You don't want to stay in that cycle. Trust me. That road leads to madness.

[onedarkcloud]

You already know that this situation is not going to get any better as time goes on, don't you? Time to limit your time with him better yet get rid of him before he hurts you really bad with his bullshit

[missmels]

That’s manipulative and narcissistic. Leave him once and for all. You deserve better

[EmmaMary]

Tell him to Grow Up and start acting his age, or else just go and don't come back.

[slatyb]

Is he the last man on your planet? Fixing this is easy. Stop seeing him and date an adult.

[JacobJordan]

First you shouldn't be arguing or participating in one. Second he needs to grow up a bit more

[red324]

Sounds like all the girls I met on the dating apps. Couldn't disagree with anything or it was adios from them.

[bobby_bush_eater]

You're way too old for this middle school behavior. Confront it and tell him it's unacceptable or just cut ties

[serious_miss419]

Good on u for seeing this.
Let him go. Let him walk off. You’re right it’s very immature. No one needs that.
Bye bye boyfriend.

[Bklynbadboy12]

First off. How often do you guys argue? You fix it by not taking them back right away. Then next time he wants to break up. He'll think twice about it.

[gorydetails]

You're a fool for putting up with it after the first time.

[DextroShade]

And yet you are still with this guy. What does that say about you and women in general?

[Lokiion]

This mad funny mo point in trying to keep a “relationship” that pretty much over anyways

[CocacolaGirl1993]

Break up with him. End it cause he’s being a child.

[noohair]

If this is what you have at 2 months, I don't see it getting better for you.

[Romasona]

He does not like your presence and weaponise the argument to stay away from you

[Drumlin2001]

Don't waste your time. Move on

[Nerdvana]

Are you both in middle grade school?

[MrNoCap]

Stop taking him back, play him at his own game.

[Pennywise_6]

Leave him. He clearly is not afraid to lose you.

[jahaims]

Dump him and get a mature guy

[nawtee_me]

Don’t go back to him….

[RedInnocent69]

End arguments quicker, or break up with him.

[JayBones2469]

Stay broken up and leave.

[Anonymous]

You need a man, not a boy

[laly520]

u move on.