Why do my boyfriend and I fight about every little thing?

[Anonymous]

Hey everyone, my boyfriend and i have been together for 8 years. we fight about every little thing. if he says something wrong we argue, if i say something wrong, we argue and it’s sooooooo exhausting and i hate it. on Wednesday was out last fight. we were having a good time right. we were laughing, talking, making food and he asked me to take off my shorts and walk around my underwear. i felt weird doing it bc his sister and parents were upstairs. he was walking towards me and taking off my shorts and complimenting me on my underwear then i said “in my dreams you ask me to put up my sorts” omg what a disaster. he blew up. he stared to say why would you say that. this is how negative your thoughts are if the only wet dreams you have of me are me asking you to put on your shorts like fck we can never have a good day together bc you always mess it up by your negative energy and thoughts.” i wanted to leave his house right, he wouldn’t let me. he locked the door and had my car keys. i asked him to give me my keys, he said no. the only way i was able to leave is if i pretended to call the police. i called my mom and told her to call the police and he panicked and gave me my keys so i can leave. something like this happens every week or at least once a month. this whole ass relationship is toxic and i’m too old/ too young to deal with this. i grew up in a house hold that was very toxic so that’s all i knew and that’s what i thought, at one point, was normal. nope, healthy relationships are supposed to feel easy and peaceful. i was dying for my relationship with him to be healthy and happy but it’s not. I don't know, i’m going out of town, by myself for a whole week on Sunday and i’m excited to be away and relax. he doesn’t know and i’m not going to tell him. honestly, I don't know what to do with him or us. mind you, this kid barely works, he sleeps all day, smokes and drinks so we barely do anything. i deserve better. i just know he can be better.

[kylee2437]

What made you stay in a 8 year relationship with a bum? Jesus I’m starting to think long term relationships only work because the people in them just put up with whatever and don’t care

[boggboss]

Long term relationship do work me and my fiancée have been with eachother for 6 years and nether of us have ever come close to anything resembling this

[kylee2437]

@boggboss let me tell you that’s rare because I see more of this scenario where the couples just put up with whatever. Truly insane

[boggboss]

Its bevause so many ate scared to be alone so they accept toxic behaviour and I'm sure that happens much more then stable relationships but thats because many like asker see unstable relationships from parents and end up having that with there partner thinking it's normal

[Asker]

yes exactly what he said!

[kylee2437]

My best advice is leave this. You are going to be stuck with a bum ass man forever.

[026antares_aquariiX]

jesus, fights once in a while are totes normal, but if it's been like this for 8 years and your last resort to one of the fights was to threaten to call the police instead of coming to any type of resolution then what's the point. you're better than this, say goodbye to a toxic relationship.

[boggboss]

Meh you both seem bad for eachother and the longer u 2 pretend that things are working the more u will have situations like this seems u need to end it

[boggboss]

So stop wasting your life and end this relationship your showing that u are self aware enough to know this situation is toxic so end it

[sunflower00]

I think you should leave him

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because you both picked the wrong person.

[historectomy]

just leave him

[BarryLiverstone]

Reported

[Stevefiveo]

Get a new boyfriend.