Why does my boyfriend defend his female friend who insulted me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a female friend from high school I cannot stand with all my might! I tried to be cool but she once in a drunken state told me that I wasn't good enough to keep my boyfriend. He's 28 and has been friends with her since they were in high school. You can rule him being in love with her out since apparently she dated one of his buddies who he would not break bro code for PLUS another friend of his has been in love with her since school as well. She's a queen bee type who thinks all the guys in the group want to bang her even if she isn't interested in them. Perhaps I was a threat. What I don't get is why every time my boyfriend and I have fought bad it was because I told him how much I can't stand her! Why is he so faithful to a friend who insults his own girl? Should I move on? We've been together for 3 years. I really am looking for guys to please explain this to me

[Alessus]

While he might have his own reasons, I'd think that it's because love is fleeting, but friendship is something that usually lasts very long, if it is true friendship that is. I know a few guys who have relinquished their ties with good friends for their girlfriends and once they broke up what did they have left? Nothing. Same has happened with women also with their boyfriends. Love is a powerful emotion and it can make you think it'll last forever. But in truth most relationships end in a break up. And it takes a heavy toll on the person and a lot of people turn to their friends for support. But when you don't have friends to turn to after a break up what do you? After you've chased them away because your partner didn't like them, if that partner happens to leave, you'll be left empty handed. The longer the friendship, the deeper the bond is, so it's perfectly understandable that he would stand up for his friend. If I was him, I would continue to stand up for my friend, but of course I would tell her that her actions towards my partner are inexcusable.

[Racez]

You need to be more lenient of your boyfriend. She's a high school friend, and people tend to treasure old friends forever. Just trust your boyfriend, and simply ignore that girl.

[Anonymous]

Why do you always have to bring it up, if that's the only thing you argue about?

Simply never mention her again, and have an argument free relationship.