My girlfriend defended another guy?

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Well I've been with my girlfriend for 5 years and they been friends for one year )we started arguing cause of this dude saying "I love you" to her and telling her "i can treat you way better then he does" to her to leave me and crap and then I confronted him but then she starts to defend him on every little thing.Then he said he could make her break up with me if he wanted to and to be with him and I showed her the text she had no response then I don't know if I took it to far but I know I had finally had enough of that B.S so I told her it's either me or him. friend or boyfriend and she stood speechless and said " he's my friend and it's f**ked up if she doesn't talk to anymore plus he tells her everything supposedly but I literally don't know what to do. is it me? am I over exaggerating or do I have every reason to and what should I do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This guy is already in the process of stealing your girl.  He's got her convinced that he's the good guy, you don't treat her well enough and anytime she 'needs him' he'll be there for a shoulder to cry on.  Then when she's had enough of you he'll be there to console her and bam, in the bedroom.  Guys like this are a disgrace, as are girls like yours.  I put my fiance first over anyone, as does he, we've got each others' back, you and me vs the world.  I would never put someone else before him ESPECIALLY another man, nor would I run to a man to discuss our relationship problems.  I have plenty of GF's for that kind of venting and discussion.  Completely inappropriate.  My guy knows he has nothing to worry about with me because I'm faithful and I don't put him in sh*tty situations like this that make him feel bad and doubt his place in my life.  Aren't you losing attraction to her acting this way?  I don't usually vote yes for ultimatums but this time I will. Absolutely if my guy did this, I would explain how hurt and betrayed I felt, and that if this 'friendship' was SO important to him, that I can't be with him anymore.  Even after 5 years?  Yes.  It's as bad as cheating, she's getting emotionally attached to him to the point she chooses his feelings over yours, trust gone, relationship dying.  I'd say it's already on it's way out, sorry for that.  Find one who deserves you.

acka72 · Accepted Answer

You have every right to be pissed off and seriously, if she can't choose between her friend or you, she should seriously get the sack.  Women don't treat men they love the way she treated you.  Let this a**hole have your girlfriend and later on he will dump her cause the reason he is into her is because she is unavailable and with you.  As soon as he has her, he will loose his interest for her dump her and you'll have your exgf stalking you.

sexyasianboi26 · Accepted Answer

Man, you already have strong evidence that she is being unfaithful! How many stories have you heard of men's wives going to their workplace and starting a calamity because she doesn't like the female coworker her hubby is working with? The stories are endless. BUT when its a man doing it, the woman will defend her boy toy as if she's fighting for her life! Its ridiculous!

You know why she's defending him? He has somehow manipulated your girlfriend. Your girlfriend is drawn to this guy and he has made himself her life support. That is why she is scared of losing him.

"I can treat you way better than he does"- what a douche-bag, seriously.

Next thing you know it, you might just walk in your girlfriend and her friend banging, hair pulling, and making babies and sh*t.

front2back · Accepted Answer

You're f***ed dude.

These type of guys are called "girlfriend stealers". They purposely try to down play you and make you lose control. All she needs is a little bit of convincing evidence that he is better and you are worse. After that, she will be screwing him. You should be pissed, but sadly you can't express your anger. If she is defending him, that means she already is starting to get an emotional attachment to him. "A shoulder to cry on is a d*** to ride on" is probably the most true statement ever. If you ever do something to make her angry or sad, and he comes in to save the day and help her, kiss your girlfriend goodbye.

Modernhippy · Answer

the less you car the higher your confidence is. I would suggest caring less tell the guy "if you can make your dump me and take u, then do it already, if shed leave me for you id no longer want her  because your a scumbag." the more confident you are the more attracted to you she is gonna be and more scared the other guy is gonna be

TheGoodTheBadTheHOT · Answer

If the roles were reversed she would be screaming battle crys from the rooftops.

Make her realize and appreciate that, then go after this guy and then you can rest. Its no reason to end a 5 year relationship, thatd be exactly what he wanted

qwer1234 · Answer

Make a threesome with him, her and you. This way everyone is happy.

Vandal · Answer

I'd kick her to the curb if I were you.

Anonymous · Answer

just be single, relationships are a head ache..

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