My girlfriend go swimming with her friend guy, who told her that he likes her before?

[CreepyHunter]

my girlfriend ( F28 ) and her friend guy (M18)

well, I live in another place now, my girlfriend has a friend guy who told her that, she told me that she said no to him, they go to hangout at least once a week, she told me that he'll teach her how to swim, they go once a week, I asked her if i can talk to him and meet him, i called him once when they were together, After that i texted him nicely to know him, but he Keep me away from talking to him. that's not a problem for me, the problem is when i told my girlfriend that i feel uncomfortable about that, she defend this person instead of listening to me or my feelings. should i be mad? and what should i do?

[zeitgeist057]

I think it's fine to have boundaries in a relationship and it sounds like you are in a monogamous relationship which means the two of you (girlfriend and you) have agreed not to be romantic with other people. But it sounds like this guy is trying to get romantic with your girl and she said no already, so now he is playing a long game and let's be friends I'll teach you to swim but in the long run his goal is the same as it was before, made even more clear by his actions with you acting shady.

Now it seems you may lose your girlfriend to this guy, who has developed some intimacy with her and now she is defending him against you, meaning she is on the side of the other guy, not on your side with her boyfriend.

I don't think being mad helps at all, but sitting down and talking with your girlfriend calmly about this. Ask her what her expectations are for your relationship, if it's okay you go and teach a girl who likes you how to wrestle for example, because she just wants to learn but she doesn't want to talk to your girlfriend at all. Also ask her if she likes this guy, maybe she wants to trade out and stop being your girlfriend and begin to be his girlfriend, let her know you just want clarity and truth, not to be lied to if this is what is happening. Because it is obvious the guy is being lying/manupulative/sneaky with you, so if she wants to be on his team instead of yours, then she is going to need to start to lie to you and if that's the case you don't need her for a girlfriend.

[tHISpLACEiSbONKERZ]

I'd let her go, a youtube video is more than enough to learn how to swim, the rest is just practice for which no one else is needed. I know how to swim and it really isn't that hard. Something fishy is going on here, she clearly doesn't give a single care how this makes you feel, I bet there will be more worse things in the future.

[Hangry22]

Of course you should be mad. Who knows if they have swim lessons or sex lessons

[Wise4myage]

He wants to teach her how to swim so he can place his hands on her body. The age difference seems weird to me to for some reason, so you should not let this happen. I assume you meant she keeps him away from talking to him? That is not good.

[Avicenna]

Is it completely clear to her how much you're uncomfortable with this?

[CreepyHunter]

Ya!. I have mentioned that many times

[Avicenna]

Then she doesn't respect you

[Drumlin2001]

Do you trust your girlfriend? If not then you dont have much of a relationship

[Anonymous]

She sounds like an asshole. You should do something about this

[MountAverage]

What's the issue? Why are you uncomfortable?

[Iron_Man]

That’s a red flag don’t put up with it

[In_Trance]

Huge red flag. Not acceptable

[Anonymous]

Find out the truth. Try not to get cheated on.