How to deal with distance in friendships?

[Anonymous]

I have Bpd and my best friend is my Favorite person I can’t imagine my life without her and I really really care about her but I don’t like to share this with her because I don’t want come off as obsessive or gay. She’s currently ghosting me and posted a story abou fake friendships and it’s giving me so much anxiety I get nightmares and I can’t focus on anything I’ve spammed her begging her to reply and nothings working she’s a good person my last text was I’m sorry and she can take her time. I want to know how to get her off my mind I’m getting sick to my stomach thinking about her ending our friendship I have a really important exam in 4 days and I can’t do anything

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Please focus on yourself and your exam. ❤️ Don't waste your time on this. People will come and go, it sucks but almost everybody experience it. You will surely find someone better who will value the friendship you are offering. But this time, focus on yourself.

[Anonymous]

I’d you don’t see a specialist about your BPD then get one, and ask for recommendations on therapists and other methods of coexisting with your disorder.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the waters of friendship, especially with miles and silence stretching between, is like trying to dance to a song you can't quite hear—challenging but not impossible. First off, dealing with a rollercoaster of emotions is tough, but it's essential to remember your worth isn't tied to someone else’s actions or feelings. Lovebomb yourself with some self-care and remember, focusing on what you can control, like your reactions and your studies, is key.

Ghosting hurts like stepping on a Lego barefoot, but spamming her phone is like stepping on the same Lego again and again. Give her the space she seems to need. I know it's like holding your breath underwater, but sometimes, stepping back is the bravest step forward.

Now, to ease your mind and soften the blow of her ghosting phase, dive into your favorite distractions. Whether it's binge-watching that series you've been putting off or picking up a hobby that makes time fly, investing in your joy can be your anchor.

And about that exam, imagine it as your mission impossible (should you choose to accept it). Your future self will thank you for focusing on acing it despite the emotional turmoil. Remember, this test is the villain you can defeat with some heroic studying.

Lastly, communication is the bridge in every relationship. When the time feels right, express your feelings and concerns. Use "I" statements to avoid sounding accusatory, like: "I feel hurt when I don't hear from you" instead of "You never reply to me."

Hang in there! Remember, you're the protagonist of your life story, navigating through plot twists with grace. 🌟

[Asker]

That’s why I told her she can have her time I did bring up communication once and she kind of made me feel bad about it, she said it in anger “go communicate to other so called friends” when we were having a fight it hasn’t left my mind since

[laly520]

let go

it isn't meant to be, try to focus on next task, the exam

[Madlc]

Is she that pretty?

[Asker]

This has nothing to do with her looks I’m not into her it’s platonic

[Madlc]

Hmm didn’t you think that by saying sorry, you made her feel suspicious of you being the fake friend she claims?
And don’t let her, disrespect you again.

[Asker]

I said sorry for spamming and putting pressure on her

[Madlc]

Still that’s not a good thing to do, spamming and saying sorry would put pressure on her.
Just ignore her and If she wants to be your friend then she would come back.

[Asker]

That’s what I’m trying to do I can’t stop being worried and anxious

[DonFredoCorleone]

All friendships end one day sister