Are you someone who wants marriage? Why/why not?

[HappyWoman34]

I’m open to marriage if I meet the right person. I’m also open to remaining single if I don’t.

[Anonymous]

While not against marriage, I am not someone who wants to get married. In fact, my girlfriend and I don't want to be married.

My girlfriend and I met over 12 years ago when I was at a really low point in my life. It was almost like a movie and while I will spare you the whole story, she means more to me and makes me happier than I ever thought I would be ever again or ever thought I could be.

We are actually both pretty traditional but we decided - much to the dismay of our families, particularly her dad - to move in together, but it was under the assumption that we would get married. Yet we kept putting it off and putting it off.

Then my girlfriend got pregnant. The first of the three most beautiful gifts a woman has ever given a man. I love my little munckins and would do anything to protect them and care for them and for my girlfriend.

During this whole time we kept talking about marriage and it took on more urgency once my girlfriend was pregnant. Then finally - again to our mutual surprise - we realized that we did not want to be married.

We think that what we have and share is natural and beautiful and the idea of an expensive ring, a big ceremony and a permission slip from the state was artificial and contrived and somehow diminished what we have. (The religious question - we are both Catholic - to be sure is something that we have not fully reconciled in our own minds.)

Yet were you to see us, we are a happy and loving family, with all the ups and downs that come with it. (This got even more crazy when a gal with whom I had had a one night stand tracked me down and told me that I had a son with her but she had decided to raise the boy on her own. Only later did she decide, as the boy reached his teen years, that he should know his dad. Sure enough, we tested and I have a son. It has been awkward at times, but my girlfriend has supported me and we have made it work.)

To be sure, in our early days we were a bit crazy, but that was mostly because of what I was wrestling with and I was blessed enough to find a woman who cared so much for me that she was willing to push the envelope. I quickly learned - and she always knew - that the best sex you have, and our sex is still quite "wild," is the sex you have with the person who means something to you.

Heck, would I even suggest our approach to the world? Nope. From a sociological and historical perspective marriage is good for society and good for man. (One indicator - married men and women have longer lifespans then their non-married counterparts.)

Still, no, I don't want to get married. However, that is not because I want to be a "player." At this moment, when I wake up and feel the most beautiful woman in the world at my side, and when three little munchkins run up to me when I get home shouting "DADDY!!!", that is what I want. (Also, a son who visits on weekends and holidays and for a few weeks in the summer. He is a great kid.)

Bottom line, I have never been happier and I don't see what a pricey ring would do to make that better. Not least because you can't improve upon perfection.

[HaveNoName]

As I did not want to live my life alone, especially in old age, and as I did not want to be left alone as one of the very few single amongst the peers, and as I do not believe in relationships outside marriage, the best option for me was to get married, which I did 27 years back.

[Secret6620]

💒Absolutely! I've dreamed of being a bride since I was four years old! I planned it out in my diary and everything. Then when I came of age I FINALLY got married.🌹

🥰Felt like such a long wait honestly but it was worth it. 💍

[Secret6620]

Yay! Thank you for most helpful girl! You rock ✨

[Princess2552]

no i am perfectly happy being single plus i got a lot of mental problems ADHD, bipolar depression, and schizophrenia on top of that i still have periods so... um no

[HappyWoman34]

That’s a heavy load for you to bear.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Absolutely, I'm all in for marriage, especially when you find that perfect someone who just gets you. It's like finding your favorite book that never ends. The joy, the ups and downs, and everything in between make life so much richer. Of course, staying single has its perks too, freedom, and self-exploration galore! It's all about what makes your heart sing. Whether you're flying solo or duo, it's the quality of life that counts, not just your relationship status. So, if you stumble upon someone who makes your heart do a happy dance, go for it! If not, the single life can be just as fabulous. Remember, it's your story to write. Let's make it a bestseller, shall we? 😉

[HighValue]

All marriage is, is a way to let women and the court system steal from and abuse men.

[HappyWoman34]

Spoken like a true cynic

[HighValue]

More like a logical realist that looks at statistics instead of delusional wishful thinking.

[HappyWoman34]

I think people just get married for the wrong reasons and marry those who make them burn with lust. When they get older; and neither party looks as good, everyone just gives up because it’s easier. Onto the next bright, new shiny toy. Everyone’s too busy chasing the pot of gold to realise they’ve always had it.

[HappyWoman34]

Those who marry for sensible reasons, logical ones, stay married.

[slatyb]

Meh. It's a legal thing with advantages and disadvantages. In the US for some couples it increases their total income tax.

[CriticalCatDad123]

No, because I hear too many stories where men are screwed over because of no fault divorce and he loses half of his money and resources even the house and kids if any. Besides I don’t like weddings… I’m too introverted.

[Simslover92]

I wasn't always but now that I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, I definitely see marriage in the works.

[mono_gram]

It’d be nice to get married someday if I find the right person.

[Pennywise_6]

No. I can't imagine someone invading my personal space. And what is my guarantee that the guy i married does not snore?
I don't want to take chances, so no marriage for me.

[93_n_on]

Yeah I'd like to one day if i can find a wife thats loyal and attractive. I can't get on that vs they be in nowadays with all that cheating nonsense and disloyalty. I genuinely and passionately love dil what they on out here

[TheUniqueOne96]

No.

I'm open to a relationship without marriage, however.

If I were religious, then maybe.

[RavVid]

No. It is simply not viable. In the past divorce was an extreme option but it is now normal. The investment is not worth it.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I'd like to get married. But if being committed & faithful works fine then that's ok.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Yep, not for the pretty dress and flowers but sharing a life with someone else

[exitseven]

I never did until I met my wife. After about a month I knew we would end up together

[RossyBoi]

I'm definitely against marriage. Both men and women get trapped and abused. Every couple I know are miserable and depressed. We're all much better off being single.

[Twalli]

I always wanted to get married eventually. While I can't officially, it will be as close as we can get to one.

[Anilkumar3277]

well I am open for marriage you can marry me if you want to

[Anonymous]

I want to get married one day but I don't make enough money at all to buy the land I want to buy.

[Agape93]

Nope. It holds no benefit for me.

[MsBrie]

Im married and I want it! lol

[Anilkumar3277]

Do you want to marry again

[Booklover_90]

Yes, I want to be married. 😊

[strateguy632]

i do