Why do we choose to be in long distance relationships when it's filled with melancholy?

[Simslover92]

I feel sad a lot when I don't get to see him. It's been over a year now since we made things official and still the distance is not closing. It won't close until one of us gets enough money to move closer to the other and looks like that will be me whenever that money comes in.

Until then I'm deep in my thoughts about a love that seems so far away. I know he's the one I meant to be with but when I get sad it completely makes me wonder why the hell I chose a relationship like this one. Maybe I like the torture. Maybe I find being miserable until I see him fun. Who knows?

[mono_gram]

Whether or not you knew this relationship was going to be a long distance from the start, you stay with them and endure all the hardships of a LDR because of love. If you truly love them then you will be able to go through all of that and wait until the distance closes. LDRs don't always have to be filled with melancholy or negativity.

[Simslover92]

That's so true. Thanks!

[DizzyDesii]

I preferred my LdRs over my same city relationships because the ones nearby wouldn't give me the space I needed. Shit my new dude only an hour away and he wanna see eachother weekly. Even thats a lot for me lol. I’m good with like 2-3 times a month (maybe 2 weeks a month) 😩

[DizzyDesii]

Long distance to me is like 5+ hours away

[Simslover92]

Oh ok. That is indeed a lot. But I thought long distance was more than 2 hours away. Plus we don't get to see each other that often due to his busy schedule. He works 2 jobs.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i remember your situation. I dont consider it LdR but i do think its hectic because of his schedule. He just need better time management and y'all will succeed. But I don't know 1/2/3/4 hour drives can be done easily while 5+ would be a bit much to do daily

[Simslover92]

I agree. It's more so his schedule than it being long distance. But I'm hoping to close the distance soon so it won't be too much more of us only seeing each other once a month. We should be seeing each other a lot more than what we do but his schedule prevents that. So me being closer will change that a bit.

[DizzyDesii]

How often would you wanna see eachother ideally? Like for me, I’m fine with every other weekend bt i dont care to see eachother every week, no matter how into the guy i am. My first boyfriend lived next door and i had to see him like 5-6 days a week every week at all times of day and that drove me nuts

[Simslover92]

That would definitely drive me nuts too. Maybe every weekend. I like my space as well.

[DizzyDesii]

Some weekends i want fam time or alone time so i can't do every weekend

[Simslover92]

That's true. I didn't think about that but I would want some family time or alone time. So I guess every other weekend would be ideal. But I know my boyfriend. He's going to want to see me a lot once we're close.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea this dude wants to see me a lot more than i prefer and wants us spending the night together and stuff. I like to sleep alone lol. Like im over my ex but im still tryna get over the way we did things for 8 months so its hard to consider doin that with someone else rn

[Simslover92]

Oh I definitely understand. That's rough girl. I'm sorry.

[Sevenpointfive]

you definitely do choose it.

why? for me i need distance. not a year or 4 but i understand feeling claustrophobic. the idea of being with someone can be just as strong as a picture on a bedside. when two people with the same mindset meet that's kismet.

i don't know where the melancholy is coming from

[Simslover92]

It's coming from not being able to see each other often

[Sevenpointfive]

i wasn't even thinking that way. that makes sense though. i sort of wish i had that need for a relationship

[TonyMetal___86]

Miss sims why don't you both get married and live together so this pain vanishes completely and will be replaced with happiness and joy 🙂

Since you both love each other and trust that you're meant together than why wait? You can both work and do everything together instead of being apart!

[Simslover92]

Aww I wish it was that simple but both of us are not in the place to do so financially right now. I am coming into money soon though and then I will make the move and we can be together and get married by next year.

[TonyMetal___86]

That's good miss sims, than stop being sad beautiful lady and cheer up because soon you will receive your prize and i hope that you'll both feel happy at this point 🙂

[Simslover92]

Aww thank you! You're so sweet!

[TonyMetal___86]

Thanks for the mho miss sims 🙂

[Simslover92]

You're welcome! 😊

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the bittersweet symphony of long-distance love! Choosing to dive into a relationship where your primary mode of cuddling is through video calls, and your kisses are sent through instant messages is no small feat. It's like you're signing up for the ultimate patience and trust bootcamp, without the fancy gear but loads of emotional strength.

We often find ourselves in these situations because, deep down, we connect with someone on a level that transcends geographical boundaries. It's not about loving the torture or finding misery fun, though it might feel like that on your gloomier days. It's about that electric shock of love that jolts through your heart when you find someone who understands you, cherishes you, and sees the world somewhat like you do—even if they're a thousand miles away.

You're a warrior of love, fighting through the melancholy because you believe in the power of what you have. And remember, every love story has its unique challenges. Yours just happens to include a bit more Skype and a little less physical time together for now. But imagine the romance, the intensity, and the depths of appreciation you'll have once you two finally close that distance. Hold on to that, and let it fuel your hope. Your situation isn’t about choosing misery; it’s about choosing love, in one of its most challenging forms. Keep the faith, and keep the love alive. You’ve got this! 💕

[OlderAndWiser]

Brad. . . NOBODY wants to hear what you have to say!

[OlderAndWiser]

Many times, i think people choose LDRs because they feel some pressure to be in a relationship, but the idea of a relationship also causes them some discomfort. An LDR allows you to tell yourself and others that you are in a relationship while avoiding many of the obligations and responsibilities that come with a relationship.

[Simslover92]

Some do but that's not the case for me and my boyfriend. We knew each other since college. It's my fault we weren't together then but fate made a way for us to be together now and we took the opportunity despite the distance because I always liked him and he always liked me. But we plan on closing the distance soon. I get what you mean though. Some do choose to be in ldr just because it's easier than being close but that's not the case for us. We hate the distance. It's not easier for us. It's harder and it sucks and it's something we would rather not be in.

[OlderAndWiser]

I was dating a girl who lived 80 miles away and I didn't like that even though I would visit her almost every weekend. Seven months after we started dating, she moved to my hometown to live with me. We got married two weeks ago.

Sometimes, you just know!

[Simslover92]

Oh congrats! And indeed you do!

[Anonymous]

The Internet has widely broaden the dating market by allowing us to meet more and all kinds of people. This obviously comes with its con, but since it's so easy it has become somewhat common for people to find someone that lives far away from them more interesting than those around them.

Of course it would never be the same as getting to know and spending time with them in person though.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Or just maybe you want to believe in fantasy SO much, you are willing to put yourself through hell to prove it?

[Simslover92]

Oh he's definitely no fantasy. We've met up many times.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Oh well that's different. <<< Has fingers on both hands crossed for you.

[Simslover92]

Thank you!

[TommyMountainFigure]

You're welcome. You'll move to where he is.. What country is he in?

[Simslover92]

We're in the same country and I'll move to where he is soon enough. Probably sometime this year.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Nice :D

[DextroShade]

Long-distance relationships are a waste of time unless you are a passport bro who can afford to go over there and get her in a short amount of time.

[Simslover92]

Which is why we're closing the distance

[DrPepper12]

I learned from snr yr HS through freshman yr college they just don't work.

[Simslover92]

Unless you close the distance which we plan on doing soon.

[DrPepper12]

Yes. That will help A LOT but we just couldn't make it work. The world was WAY too tempting. The intoxication of youth is a helluva drug!

[CriticalCatDad]

Probably because it's easier to cheat

[Simslover92]

That's true for a lot of couples but not us. He would never cheat on me and I would never cheat on him. But you're not wrong. One usually does end up cheating on the other.

[CriticalCatDad]

How far apart are you and your boyfriend?

[Simslover92]

2 hours away

[CriticalCatDad]

That's not too bad but that's too far for me lol I hate driving so I wouldn't be able to see anyone further than 20 miles

[Simslover92]

Oh that's understandable. Not a lot of people can do that far. Hell we barely can do that far which is why we are closing the distance soon.

[CriticalCatDad]

I hope everything works out

[Simslover92]

Thanks! I hope so too!

[NathanDavis]

I haven't tried one yet

[sage2021]

🤷🏼‍♀️ but so many people try them anyway.

[Razp_Sorbet]

Love makes you do stupid shit, basically?