To people who have forgiven an infidelity, has your sexual desire for your partner decreased? How do you cope with that?

[Anonymous]

If you've made the decision to forgive an infidelity, how did you manage to save your sexual relationship/desire with your partner who cheated? Did it ever go back to being the same as it was before?

[Anonymous]

I was in a relationship for 2 years before he cheated, and I tried working through it with him for a little over a year after that before I just couldn’t. Part of choosing to stay with a cheater means making a commitment to move past what they did and that was truly too hard for me.

[Billlewis]

Oh my God, yes! When my first serious girlfriend cheated on me repeatedly for an entire summer, my whole life changed dramatically, and much for the better, when she finally told me about it. I'm so grateful to her for doing that.

[Asker]

Did you know you were a cuck before then? Were you jealous/depressed when you first found out?

[Billlewis]

I'd read numerous stories about guys whose wives and girlfriends refused to let them have intercourse with them, while they openly dated and bedded other men with impunity, but at 18-19, I wasn't confident enough in myself to take that kind of risk in a relationship. But when she told me, I was only upset for an hour or so, before I realized that this was the most exciting thing any woman had ever done to/for me, and I literally *begged* her to keep seeing him.

[Billlewis]

We worked out an agreement that she could see him whenever she wanted, but I wanted her to make it possible for me to hear their lovemaking sessions, which meant that she'd have to let him know that she'd told me he was having sex with her. I was afraid he'd be turned off when he found out that I knew about it, but instead, he started acting very cocky and arrogantly, which of course only made me that much more excited... lol. She started calling me right before she got into bed with him, so I could hear every moment of their passionate coitus.

[Firestar01]

I would never forgive such a thing. What you describe is one of the many after-effects of such a faulty decision.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the swirling waters of forgiveness after an infidelity is quite the journey, isn't it? Deciding to forgive is a massive step, emotionally. It's like attempting to glue a mirror back together; even if you manage to put all the pieces in place, the reflection will inevitably show the cracks. This doesn't necessarily mean the spark cannot be reignited, though.

Sexual desire post-infidelity can be a complex mix of emotions. For some, the desire diminishes due to trust issues and emotional hurt, while for others, the process of rebuilding the relationship might lead to a deeper, more profound connection. The key here is open, honest communication about your feelings, desires, and fears. Remember, it's not just about getting back to how things were but creating a new, stronger foundation.

Couples therapy can be a game-changer in such situations. It provides a safe space to express vulnerabilities and understand each other better. Healing is not linear, and there's no one-size-fits-all in love and relationships. It's about the effort you both are willing to put in to turn those scars into marks of beauty. Keep the flame of love and desire alive by exploring new dimensions of your relationship, being patient, and remembering why you chose each other in the first place.

[KrakenAttackin]

Any man who forgives his woman cheating on him will be seen with contempt by that same woman.

Once a woman cheats the relationship is over, one way or another.

[jahaims]

Better off ending it instead of dragging out the inevitable