Have you ever forgiven your partner for cheating? Did u get back together? Did it work out?

[Jaudu]

Hi everyone! I really need some help. I separated from my husband around 7 months ago and I am still suffering. I miss him a lot and love him, I know it’s normal and only time will heal, but he is also asking for a second chance. Here is the thing: He went on a strip club abroad (Spain) with his friends and one night they were very drunk and went to a strip club, my husband paid for a private lap dance and got a love bite. He claims they didn’t have sex. On top of that, few months earlier I found out he went to a strip club in our city with a friend and paid for a lap dance. In between he had a work trip and on this trip he googled for an escort website. I know it sounds terrible and I am very hurt. But seems like he regret what he did and he seems very sad too. He is asking for us to try again and do therapy together. Do you guys think it’s worth trying? I love him very much, maybe it wouldn’t hurt to give a second chance? We have been together for 3 years. No kids. Thank you!

[Flatmanlewis]

I suppose by my definition I don’t consider strip clubs cheating. I’ve been to them Las Vegas both without her, for bachelor parties, or with her on our own weekends there. Her and I both view them as an adult themed exhibition and nothing more. Having said that if I did find myself in a situation where I would go again she’d know well in advance and have a chance to veto that activity. It’s about honesty and respect.
Now, an escort service? Well - was he just window shopping or did a transaction occur? I think that is a entirely different situation than a strip club and for sure one you need to have a serious discussion about. Personally, an omission is still a lie, and if someone lies to me - be it a friend, partner, teammate, girlfriend, or spouse - were done.

[Billlewis]

My first serious girlfriend was cheating on me every weekend when she went home to her parents house, and when she finally told me about it, I couldn't believe how much it turned me on, and within a couple of days, I was literally begging her to keep seeing him. However, I think cheating is much more likely to help a relationship when the woman cheats than when the guy does.

[Jaudu]

Oh, really? Why do you think that?

[Billlewis]

In female/male relationships, as it is in the animal kingdom, generally speaking, the pattern is that the female has multiple lovers much more often than the male, but I think there are other reasons, as well.

[Billlewis]

I just started following you and I'd like to invite you to follow me as well if it's alright.

[AmeerX]

But why did he do it? Did he ever tell you why?

[Jaudu]

Well, about the strip clubs he said it was like pressure from his fiends and also a bad choice of him. The escort website he said it’s bc he likes to read the services they offer😳

[AmeerX]

Get rid of him. This man is just a womanizer

[Jaudu]

Thank you, you are right…

[AmeerX]

I doubt it. If he cheated saying he didn't find you attractive or your behavior was hostile or something related to the relationship then he deserved a second chance. But his excuse is ridiculous

[Jaudu]

We actually spent 6 months without having sex. The 3 times we tried he failed (if u know what I mean). I used to talk to him about it and he said I was pressuring him too much. He kind of lost the feeling for sex inside home. Sometimes I think he has a sexual addiction. Bc there was no need to go to strip clubs and pay private lap dances… he put himself in that situation and had the guts to come home with a love bite on his neck. All his friends are married and have kids… I just don’t understand… I feel so stupid for loving him still…

[AmeerX]

@Jaudu you are not the problem. If he didn't find you attractive or had less sex drive then he wouldn't chest on you.

Did he get forced to marry you? NO
Did he tell you to do something you didn't do? No
Did he get forced to marry you? No
Did you nag him? No I don't see that here
If he had urge to see other woman he would have told you how he was feeling and try to find a solution.
You love him because you want to give him another chance. It's up to you to forgive him. But got caught 1 time, don't know how many times he did it before from what it looks like.

And the pathetic thing is he went for a stripper to cheat on you his wife. If he had someone a friend that would have been different from this. He is just after fulfilling his lust. It was not some emotional feelings that he wanted fulfilled. I would be disgusted by this and you should too.

You are young and he is doing this to you imagine when you have children and develop some physical changes will he throw you away then when you have no energy but sorrow that you gave all your affection to this man and his children and you are one day without him?

You need to think of all these things carefully

[AmeerX]

Cheat* sorry autocorrect

[jahaims]

I would never. I have self respect

[Iron_Man]

I’ve never been in that situation

[riverrat3]

What does your instincts say

[Jaudu]

I think I am open to give it a second chance…

[riverrat3]

Then do it

[In_Trance]

never. move on