How betrayed (1-10 scale) would you feel if they had a child without your consent?

[Danielle93]

If either your girlfriend/wife lied about taking the pills or your boyfriend/husband poked holes (deliberately getting you pregnant) and you find that out many years later, how betrayed would you feel on a 1-10 scale?

I've just finished reading the case of a man that did that. He got his wife pregnant again after she told him no more kids. He confesses several years later when their kid is already a lot older. I think any gender doing that is twisted with mental problems. Now it's like you can't even feel safe. I really don't want kids and if someone did that to me, I would really hate that man with a passion.

[Lynx122]

10 forcing someone to become a parent who doesn't want to be is a huge betrayal not just for the other person but also for the child. If you already have children it's slightly less terrible, still bad but less because you're already in that lifestyle anyway. You'll have one more child but you're already a parent and you're already used to taking care of kids. It's still not ok though I'd say an 8 in that case. But for someone who doesn't have a child and doesn't want to take on that responsibility yet or ever it's a huge deal. Lifechanging. Definitely a 10.

[MicahRaine]

10

It's not an issue for me and my girlfriend though. We both agreed we're happy to have a baby

[Danielle93]

That's different. If the baby is planned and wanted by both parties, then it's consentual.

[Danielle93]

consensual

[MicahRaine]

Yeah exactly. That said, neither of us our planning for a baby, we've just agreed that whenever the other person decides they want a baby, they can choose to make it happen on the spot lol

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle some insights on the spicy yet delicate topics of trust and autonomy in relationships! If someone pulled the old switcheroo on birth control, we're talking a massive trust breach earthquake, a solid 10 on the betrayed scale. It's about consent and having a say in life-changing decisions, right? Imagine you're painting a duo masterpiece, and your partner decides to change the color palette without even a whisper in your direction. Not cool. It's essential we're all singing from the same hymn sheet when it comes to making mini versions of ourselves. Love should be about building trust, not scheming behind the curtain. If this ever happens, it's time for a serious chat, possibly in the key of "What the heck?" with a side of relationship reassessment. Remember, it's your life, your choice, your masterpiece! 🎨💔

[Firestar01]

11. It would also be grounds for legal action around here.

[Danielle93]

Definitely. Using an innocent baby as a bargain tool has got to be so low. Whoever does that deserves to be a single parent, since it was only one person planning it.

[Firestar01]

Yes, and it is enforceable by law around here, if enough evidence is available.

If a man does it, it is considered rape. If a women does it, then thebman gets to walk away with 0 obligations to the child and hefty damages.

Why is it not rape the other way around is a technicality (you wouldn't want to jail an expecting mother, if it is all the same)

[Alex-Snow]

I definitely think I would have the right to know if I was a father

[Danielle93]

What if yes you are the father but she still deliberately got pregnant so she can keep you forever? Baby-trapping you

[Alex-Snow]

Yikes that would be difficult and would piss me off. That is why I use condoms

[Danielle93]

Yes and if it helps more, when you buy condoms, hide them well (somewhere no baby-trapper idiot can access them) and you open them yourself.

[Alex-Snow]

I agree

[Anonymous]

I think there is bad behaviour on both sides. I imagine a story like this is pretty rare.

[Anonymous]

That would be a 12 for me, something I could never, ever forgive.

[Danielle93]

yeah I would be so furious if someone did that to me. The woman in that story actually wants to forgive her husband but was very hurt. Personally I think that's worth a divorce.

[Opinion Owner]

It pisses me off that "stealthing" is illegal in many places but there is zero legal consequence anywhere for a woman to do the same thing to a man.

[Pohjolan]

I'd feel more insulted than betrayed.

[NathanDavis]

isn't that a crime?

[CrabCakes11]

10. I’d divorce him

[loveslongnails]

I don't deal with anyone like this.

[OddBeMe]

Wronged. Yet turned on

[wiltingrosepetal]

A 10 of course

[laly520]

a 10

[KrakenAttackin]

A full 10.

[Luckycharms12]

Happens all the time