Why did my father randomly call my partner my husband to be?

[Anonymous]

It was a while ago and out of the blue. Even people at work are starting to call him that towards me and his parents my in-laws too, for some reason. It’s at random times. Can somebody please explain? Thank you!

[mattthefatbat]

I honestly had a experience like this with my mom in law, but overall it's only a good sign and possibly teasing you but he more than likely likes that you chose to be with him and likely would like to see you two marry.
If I was the father in that scenario and seen that my daughter genuinely enjoys being with him and I seen him as a good man or husband for my daughter as well I'd probably jokingly call him son in law as well lol

[Asker]

Didn’t seem like a joke to me.

[mattthefatbat]

Oh sorry I didn't mean to make it sound like a joke. I meant nicely let them know that marriage is a very nice option I'd welcome between the two of them

[AMS700CX4u2]

Tradition in this case. Most relations progressed to spousehood. Remember that not so long ago friends with benefits didn't exist. The only reason for males and females to socialize was to seek a mate.

[Asker]

Can you please elaborate more on this? 🙂

[AMS700CX4u2]

For Centuries females have been sought as possessions. Women were taught to seek mates that could support them well. The endpoint to a relationship was marriage. It answered the question "who is going to take care of me." Females are quite capable of taking care of themselves, and others should they have to. Never in the History of Mankind have females been so independent. The ability to have a romantic relationship without marriage in sight was frowned upon by religion and society. My wife and I are in a similar situation with our son. He is living with a woman and has expressed a desire to wed but she wants to wait. I suppose it is natural to want to explain someone's status when you introduce them to others.

[Anonymous]

You’re basically saying “everyone else sees the value in us getting married already so why doesn't he?”

[Abbycado]

Errr, maybe ask him? He is your dad after all. You two talk once in a blue moon, right.

[Asker]

This happened a while ago, but everyone throws hints here and there, including my own partner. He also called his parents my in-laws a quite a few times too, for some reasons and then ends up telling me that marriage isn’t on the table just yet. What’s a girl to do, you know?

[AMS700CX4u2]

Frustrating, Has he been hurt before? He has to be hesitating for some reason. My parent got engaged and my pop couldn't even afford an engagement ring. When they got married my Dad Drilled out a Silver Dime. Mom got her engagement ring on her 25 anniversary. I think following 2009 many men are reluctant to make a commitment because they are uncertain of their ability to provide after industry torpedoed American worker and sent the job s away. the truth of the matter is that the relationship is built on what you do together. Not just him on his own. My wife and I have lived FAT and seen bankruptcy. 52 years for us has been an experience. I have never cheated on her and we are still together.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a little insight on your intriguing situation. Picture this: your father, along with those around you, might be seeing what you haven’t noticed yet—or maybe you have, but are too shy to admit. When people start playing matchmaker with their words, calling your partner your "husband to be" and his folks your "in-laws," it's like they're seeing a love story unfold before their very eyes. It's not just flirty talk; it's affectionately nudging you two lovebirds closer, suggesting they see a future filled with wedding bells and joyous celebrations for you both. Your circle is basically lovebombing you with these future titles because they sense a deeper connection and a lasting partnership. Take it as a compliment, and who knows? Maybe it's the universe’s playful way of hinting at what’s to come. 😉💍

[Asker]

This happened a while ago, but everyone throws hints here and there, including my own partner. He also called his parents my in-laws a quite a few times too, for some reasons and then ends up telling me that marriage isn’t on the table just yet. What’s a girl to do, you know?

[AviatorTom]

Wishful thinking... your father likes him, feels he's good for you, and would like a son-in-law

[Asker]

My dad doesn’t really speak that much about him, but yeah.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is simply a way for people to express the hope or opinion that you SHOULD get married.

[dustybiker2]

Maybe he asked permission to propose and nobody around you can keep a secret.

[Asker]

This happened a while ago, but everyone throws hints here and there, including my own partner. He also called his parents my in-laws a quite a few times too, for some reasons and then ends up telling me that marriage isn’t on the table just yet. What’s a girl to do, you know?

[RavVid]

They possibly see the writing on the wall better than you do.

[Asker]

Interesting! Elaborate! We are both 24.

[RavVid]

Well other people might see the broad strokes of how you are both together with each other whilst you see the day to day miniature... like each date at a time, nothing serious... till it is.

I have seen this before, a guy and a girl getting more embedded till they have to get married.

:) Sincerely wishing you a good life with your husband to be :)

[Asker]

And why are you calling him my husband-to-be, huh? Such a cheeky response, if you ask me! 😂💞

[RavVid]

:) Couldn't resist :). I do think the lady doth protest too much.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Maybe they just like seeing you with the guy? Their hopes are being expressed is all.

[WhitneySnow]

They really like him and they want you to settle down and marry him

[MatureMan40]

Maybe he wants you to marry as soon as possible.

[Asker]

This happened a while ago, but everyone throws hints here and there, including my own partner. He also called his parents my in-laws a quite a few times too, for some reasons and then ends up telling me that marriage isn’t on the table just yet. What’s a girl to do, you know?

[sheikalana]

They see a future in your relationship.

[Dongie]

Ya must make a fine pair.

[Asker]

We sure do! 👏🏽💞

[Dongie]

✋️🌺

[Asker]

💞💞💞

[Dongie]

Heh, 🥳

[RedInnocent69]

Aspirational. Dads are old fashioned.

[Asker]

Explain

[RedInnocent69]

He’d like your partner to be your husband. I mean, you want your dad to start calling him your fuckboy?

[RedInnocent69]

What @AviatorTom said.

[Asker]

My dad and my partner don’t talk often, but they do get along well, I suppose.

[DreamLife7]

Why are you asking us?

[Asker]

Why not? You guys have great opinions!

[DreamLife7]

Ask him

[impalabill77]

Maybe hopeful thinking on his part.

[Asker]

This happened a while ago, but everyone throws hints here and there, including my own partner. He also called his parents my in-laws a quite a few times too, for some reasons and then ends up telling me that marriage isn’t on the table just yet. What’s a girl to do, you know?

[impalabill77]

I assume your still with the dude?

[Asker]

Correct and he still throws hints here and there.

[Asker]

He threw one on saying, you’re not going to be (Name) (Maiden Name) anymore. You’re going to be (Name) (Surname).

[Asker]

This was a couple of days ago, actually.

[impalabill77]

Then he should ask you to marry him.

[Asker]

Are you saying that you think that he is planning to do it soon?

[impalabill77]

I think so. If not, it's in the back of his mind. He thinks of you as wifee material.

[Asker]

He says that I’m wife material and said that it has been in the back of his mind before. However, he keeps saying that it’s not happening anytime soon and is still throwing hints when I told him not to mention it again. Why is he doing this?

[impalabill77]

That I'm not sure. I am confused with what he's doing.

[Asker]

Me too. I feel stuck as I’m trying to understand.

[impalabill77]

Something tells me he will. Hopefully soon.

[Asker]

We said that he wants to move in with me before he does it, but also tells me that he has been telling his friends about how he is going to propose to me.

[impalabill77]

Then I think he will sooner then later.

[Asker]

He is telling me otherwise, but then keeps changing his tune.

[impalabill77]

I think he will just keeping you on the edge.

[Asker]

Why though? His actions do show that he loves me though.

[impalabill77]

That I could not answer. I wish I could for you. The male mind is a strange thing.

[Anonymous]

That's his dad? Why even caring.

[Opinion Owner]

Looks like you care about the dad too. And that us a rodeo even I can't ride.

[Asker]

It was about my dad, actually.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry. If your dad contacted him, I wouldn't worry. It might be his way to connect with you and affirm your decision. Why would that bother you? Did you want dad to not like him?

[Opinion Owner]

They're going to connect, as guys, if they do. I think it's great they did and you don't have them hating on one another

[Opinion Owner]

Question is, can you get along with mom?

[Asker]

I do get along very well with his mum, actually.

[Opinion Owner]

Then your on your way. Breathe. You have life by the testi

[Asker]

HAHAHAHAHA

[Opinion Owner]

OK so hit up the other side and flip. You seemed concerned how he feels and how he will deal with the choice us low life's can make here in GAG, so why don't you go after his brother or someone close to him

[Opinion Owner]

Just don't say I'm the devil

[Opinion Owner]

I mean, if your real with yourself, if this guy isn't a total reject, you felt something for his brother? Maybe you missed the right one to give seed

[Opinion Owner]

And i think I'm holding a cross a dying, vampire bites and all, actually, this is a fake post.

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes I think trolls should be fed dog food, I'll feed you law.

[Opinion Owner]

Goes down way harder than dogfood and you shit more.

[Opinion Owner]

When we find your pathetic ass in your Kingdom of Boredom, we will reign hell upon you

[Opinion Owner]

Hahahaha, like what a nut says

[Opinion Owner]

Actually. Can't leave that out. Actually.

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever you do don't forget to say, actually.

[Jay-_-]

What brad said 😂

[Asker]

C’mon! Spit it out, sis! I want to hear everything you have to say about this! 😂

[Jay-_-]

Sis? I don't know if you have bad vision but I'm a man brother 😂

[Asker]

Spit it out then, brother from another mother! 😂👏🏽

[Jay-_-]

Okay I will 😂

[Asker]

Now! Say it! 😂👏🏽

[Jay-_-]

As he's your partner you mean he's your boyfriend right?

[Asker]

Yeah, but partner best describes what we are.

[Jay-_-]

That's why your dad said your husband to be, because even tho it might be a tease he's hoping for the best for you and your partner, he hopes you get married since you are with him he hopes that's the one you grow old with.

[Asker]

True. We are both 24, by the way.

[OddBeMe]

Doubt it was random.

[Asker]

What do you think is going on?

[OddBeMe]

He was pushing a “hint”. Parents do that automically. He may not even know he was doing it.

[Asker]

So, you think my father was hinting that my partner asked for his blessing or something?