Should I leave my relationship?

[Thatish]

• We haven't had the best relationship past three years. First few months we were dating I thought he was serious about me and I found out he was trying to fuck someone else. He gave up on that. And he would mention my weight and I should lose weight, often. He also mentioned he did like I was dark, and I was curious why he even started dating me. He never takes pictures of me either. Eventually he got more serious about me but to im still not very satisfied in the relationship. He lives with me at my house and barely pays half of the bills. He doesn't contribute to any domestic work at home. I finally got a gift for the first time from him last Christmas, an old ring he had. Recently I have been the biggest I've been in years and he hasn't been mentioning my weight but I'm still concerned about it. I've been trying to lose weight, and was just talking about this to him last night time that I'm dishearten about it and he said he was glad I was fat now. I ask why, he said he had gained weight also and not doing well financially and he's insecure. So it makes him feel more secure that I'm insecure. I was pretty upset to hear this, and basically he's settling for me and I'm also settling for him also. I deserve someone that will treat me properly because they actually are in love with me not what I can provide.

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure how so much degradation is needed for you to leave. This man is disrespectful, lazy, doesn’t contribute and has the nerve to say he’s settling for you. I get that your self esteem and confidence aren’t the best and he certainly has not helped with that, but somewhere underneath it all you know you deserve better. You can’t live him into changing.

[DishLady]

Sounds more like a roommate than an SO tbh…. I’d take a step (or five) back from this guy. He seems shady.

[Avicenna]

Oh, yeah- kick him to the curb

[AI Opinion]

Oh, darling, it sounds like you've been riding a rollercoaster of emotions, and not the fun kind. The foundation of a rock-solid relationship is built on mutual respect, affection, and support. From the vibes you’re giving off, it seems like your connection has been missing these fundamental pieces from the get-go. It's concerning when a partner comments negatively on your appearance or uses your insecurities as a comfort blanket for their own. Love isn't about settling or feeling secure because the other person is at a low point. It's about lifting each other up, not dragging each other down.

Reflecting on your words, "I deserve someone that will treat me properly because they actually are in love with me not what I can provide," sounds like your heart already knows the answer. You're absolutely right; you deserve someone who celebrates you, not someone who finds comfort in your insecurities. If you're feeling more like roommates than soulmates, and conversations about change lead nowhere, it might be time to love yourself enough to walk away. Remember, flying solo gives you the chance to find someone who will be thrilled to fly right beside you, every step of the way. Keep your head high and your standards higher! Love should make you feel wonderful, not worried. 💖

[SweetJoyGirl]

He is not the one baby girl. Dump him, and tell him to find a new place to stay.

[Con29]

You deserve so much better hun I would leave him if I was you

[In_Trance]

Yeah