What if you don’t have the qualifications to be anyone’s partner?

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What do you do?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m sure you have the “qualifications.” But do those men meet your qualifications? A lot of women say they can’t find a man, but a lot of times it’s because they’re aiming for a certain demographic of men they think they deserve when they really don’t. Too many women these days all think they’re 10s. That can partially be blamed on men for inflating their ego by hitting on them all the time even though it was simply for sex. But the reality of it was he was never interested in an actual relationship w her, just sex. Like Lizzo’s song when it refers to something about your baby’s daddy in my DMs. Doesn’t mean they want commitment. They just want to smash. I’m sure a lot of men would date a lot of these women, but the women don’t want them cause maybe he’s not that handsome, he’s overweight, doesn’t have a lot of money or one of a million other reasons women disqualify men. Trust me there’s a man out there that would date pretty much every girl on the face of this earth. The women just don’t want them.

imtiaz45 · Accepted Answer

Feeling unqualified to be someone's partner often stems from self-doubt and insecurity. However, qualifications for a healthy relationship aren't about perfection or meeting specific criteria; they involve qualities like kindness, empathy, communication, and respect. Focus on personal growth, self-acceptance, and improving emotional intelligence. Building a healthy relationship requires effort from both partners, including understanding and supporting each other’s journey. Everyone has the potential to be a loving, supportive partner. Trust in your worth, and seek relationships where both partners are committed to growth and mutual respect.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

That's actually impossible. Even if you're not good enough for someone, that doesn't mean someone else will think the same.

If you believe in your own value and someone doesn't give you what you want, leave and find someone else. My 1st and 2nd bfs kept me as a girlfriend and I left eventually. I had luck the 3rd time and I'm currently engaged.

You don't need to change for anyone. If you have to change in order to be qualified, that's not being true to yourself. Who are they to even tell you the qualifications in a partner?

Jessikaah91 · Accepted Answer

I think it may be because of how you respond to people.. if I was a guy and seen that I think I'd be a little worried with how you may speak to me. I think it's the attitude that may need to be toned down abit. (At least wait till you're with a person for 6 months to a year then let the attitude come out) Lmao joking.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle a bit of my relationship pixie dust here! Look, feeling unqualified to be someone's partner is like saying you don't have the ingredients to make a love potion. But here's the secret - we're all a bit of an unprepared chef in the kitchen of love at times. The real magic? It’s about becoming the best version of yourself, not just for a partner, but for YOU. Dive into some self-love, explore your passions, and strengthen those communication muscles. Relationships aren't about having all the qualifications from the get-go. They're about growing together, learning, and facing challenges hand in hand. You've got this! Just start with one ingredient at a time, and soon enough, you'll have that potion brewing. 😉

DishLady · Answer

“The qualifications”? It’s not a job, it’s an act of love to commit to a life partner….

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What qualification do you think you are lacking?

Apple1996 · Answer

Qualifications 😂 as If a relationship is a job

kylee2437 · Answer

Who’s “anyone”? And why aren’t you holding bare minimum qualities?

bobalife · Answer

I think we tend to put relationships in a pedestal for our happiness. We can still be happy on our own. However, if you do want a relationship- be yourself, but take time to grow into areas that will make you a good partner and/or individual because it takes two to tangle after all.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Ask yourself why you think that is for one. Then if there is evidence of truth in it, look at yourself in the mirror and say it's time to change.

Next schedule a therapy session to have someone ensure you're not just beating yourself up and also to help point you in the right direction with actionable items you can take part in to give yourself what you need to feel good about yourself and good enough to know others will see you the same way.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

I mean I think everyone has qualifications to be with someone. Everyone has different standards and I believe there is someone out there for everyone.

but if not, you could always work on yourself to become a better partner

Account · Answer

I dont mind it in the slightest. I wouldn't restrict myself into fitting certain criteria. That is not me. Moreover, it is very peaceful not being in a relationship.

just_a_potato · Answer

That's literally impossible. In this very very populated earth, there will always be someone who'll want to be your partner. Even if you'll never meet them.

worldscolide · Answer

Thats the thing, Everyone's qualifications are different. There is no one set list of qualifications, so there is, with over 8 billion of us on the planet, guaranteed someone you will match with.

exitseven · Answer

being somebodies partner is not rocket science. All you have to do is be nice to people and the rest will work itself out.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

What qualifications do you need to be someone's partner?

DarkLegacy · Answer

And here is our resident female incel. You currently hold the title. There is nothing you can do to change this.

avery58 · Answer

The person would have to improve themselves if they do want a partner.

EmmaMary · Answer

Either join a Monastery and become a Monk. Or join a Convent and become a Nun.

JonCobretti · Answer

That's quite impossible unless someone is actively trying to not be a good partner

nawtee_me · Answer

Everyone is qualified for a relationship they just need to know how to treat people and how they want to be treated.

totalism666 · Answer

Enjoy being single or see therapist and get over some problems

Jason2469 · Answer

I've read your posts. You don't. That's a you problem

Anonymous · Answer

Be lonely cause these refuse to work on themselves.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Start collecting cats.

NathanDavis · Answer

join the Partner University... graduate

LaurenM1997 · Answer

You do you just need to find the right one

SotiCoto · Answer

Then I don't be.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

I'm sure you do. Why do you think you don't

Anonymous · Answer

Try and convince someone else that you do.

mayurr · Answer

Nothing.

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