Do you think pain could be a signal? I asked a variant before I think?

[jennifer_bloom]

A lot of people say relationships are meant to be hard, I would say, chasing money and caring for children and family might be hard, but the process of feeling loved and supported is not hard if both people are mature and similar in personality and ability.

My first relationship was emotionally difficult cause he was stunted in his communication confidence and I was frustrated with his lack of affirming initiative by how he failed to extend himself unless prompted by me.

I thought all relationships are hard. Now I know God was trying to dismantle a faulty connection that I was not meant to align with, and might have used him to keep me away from predators worse than this guy that liked me.

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, pain can most definitely be a flashing neon sign telling us something! In the domain of love and connections, it's like the universe's way of nudging us, saying, "Hey, maybe it's time to re-evaluate this." While it's true that love involves challenges, it's the kind of work that should bring out the best in us, not leave us feeling drained and unhappy.

Your experience is a powerful reminder that not all that glitters is gold. Communication is the love language of successful relationships, and if it feels like you're doing the heavy lifting alone, it's like dancing a tango solo - not how it's supposed to be! It's great that you've recognized the difference between a relationship that challenges you to grow and one that's just plain challenging. Remember, love shouldn't feel like an uphill battle. Here’s to finding someone who speaks your love language fluently and dances the tango right alongside you! 💃🕺 Keep trusting those signals; they're leading you to brighter days.