I just watched this video and it made me feel so bad for that guy. đ
I believe in splitting bills. Or maybe he pays today and I pay tomorrow. What's the point of having a relationship if your partner is nothing more than your ATM card?
It's mostly the older folk that are dead set on guys paying the bills for everything and obviously them being the parents of the younger generation... that view has rubbed off on a lot of the younger generation as well.
But to me, it makes no sense that a man has to pay for everything nowadays when equality is here already. Women have equal or more opportunity to make money as men now. There are more females graduating from university and college than men these days.
It's not the old days where women got only a fraction of what men made or were not even allowed to work for many jobs. So why would a man have to pay for them anymore? Is their time worth more? Are they not interested in the person they're dating too? Are they just there for a free meal? A free ride? Free living expenses? A sugar daddy?
To me, going dutch is the only way to go. I pay for my stuff and she pays for hers. If she's not willing to do that, then she's not the girl for me. I would not ever let a girl pay for me, and I don't mind paying the bill once in a while for her birthday or some kind of occasion, but for the most part, relationships are supposed to be partnerships. If a date doesn't go well and you go Dutch, the girl won't feel like she owes the guy anything (if she's a decent girl) and the guy won't feel used. It works out for both parties.
I don't care that most women say they wouldn't date a guy that doesn't pay the bill. To me those aren't the kind of girls I'd want to be in a relationship with anywyas.
Don't get me wrong... there is a case where I'd be okay paying for everything. First... I'd have to be making enough money for that. Secondly, the girl has to say she wants a traditional relationship, where she does all the housework and I pay all the bills. If we go into it like that, then I'm okay with that.
Both people in any relationship have to demonstrate that they are invested in the outcome. Traditionally that meant men payed for everything and women were receptive to men who did. Women donât have to be receptive anymore. But that means that they have to find other ways to demonstrate that they are in. Otherwise men will leave them for women who will.
It really is that simple.
Except these women don't demonstrate other ways, destroying romance cause feminism and modernity is just so unnatural to humans.
Can't help but think people would go back to sense and responsibility if the pill and condoms were banned.
No, I don't think a guy should always pay, especially if you're together long-term. Share a little. Some guys LOVE to pay for everything and get offended if you try to split... so read the room and know your man, will you? Offer to cover the gratuity... a reasonable guy will appreciate that you're "letting him be a man".
I agree with Apple that men are supposed to be the providers. If a date asked for desperate checks, he'd never see me again.
Likewise, if I'm hosting the date and cook him dinner I'm not going to ask him to pay for half of the grocery bill. It's my treat and it will be better than any restaurant meal.
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Navigating the choppy waters of finance in relationships is like trying to paddle a boat with a spoon - doable, but tricky! I'm with you on this. A relationship should be more about mutual admiration and less about the bank balance, right? Think of it as a dance, sometimes you lead, sometimes your partner does, and together, you find the rhythm that works best.
So, playing the modern-day Robin Hood by splitting bills or taking turns to treat each other doesn't just lighten the financial load, it also adds layers of respect and partnership. You're building a bridge, not a toll booth. Remember, the strongest connections are built on equality and understanding, not transactions. Keep it fun, keep it fair, and you'll be banking on much more than just love!
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Both people in a relationship need to contribute to something. You arenât in a relationship to takes another persons sanity and happiness away, you are there to enhance each other.
Men are suppose to be the providers so personally I'd only be with a man who pays for everything. There is no reason to settle for less
I voted for whoever earns more. But I believe only women should pay.
I gotta live my best life... Drizzle Drizzle baby.
Here is the issue, it is traditional that the guy pays the bill so this tradition keeps going on since we donât change the standard.
Here is a common sense solution, before initiating asking the woman or man on the date you ask politely how the bill arrangements should be, voice specifically what you would like to do. At that point, say upfront that you pay for your meal and they pay for theirs. They should understand your wishes since if this is the tenth date out of the month, it can get expensive real quick. Doesnât matter who makes more, pay for yourself and they pay for themselves. Win win!
For the women on here who are just so conveniently saying âoh men must providersâ I just got one thing to say to you: If you any of you vote democrat and/or plan to vote democrat you are the biggest disgusting pieces of human debris hypocrites in the world.
Liberals are doing all they can to tear down and disenfranchise men. Make it harder for men to get ahead by promoting under-qualified women ahead of them. Kamala Harris was appointed VP just because (Bidenâs own words) she was a black woman.
You can NOT have your cake and eat it to. Just so disgusting with the western female entitlement of âoh we are equal BUT specialâ.
Back when a house used to be a affordable on a 1 year salary, yes. Now? Hell no.
My dad earns more than my mom (they work they choose the same career but different jobs) and he works longer hours. Guess what? My mother used to be a stay at home mom and then she had to get a job to support the family (especially after the 2008 market crash).
Unless you're upper-middle class (upwards of six figures) which most people are not, she will have to contribute something to the bills. May be not an exact 50/50 split, but definitely something.
I share the same opinion as you do.
Relationships involve 2 people, so in my eyes, 2 people should invest equally their time and effort and money into making it work. Otherwise it's the guy paying to have a girlfriend...
Maybe the first date would be the only main exception and the man should be prepared to pay for the date within reason. But going forward it's an equal commitment!
You don't determine who pays by who has the most money. That's not relevant in a romantic partnership. I would not date a woman who doesn't expect me to pay for the dates. Provide and protect is a man's natural role. She has her natural responsibilities in the relationship and I have mine. That's what makes the relationship fulfilling, attractive, sexy and natural to me. If she doesn't want that, she doesn't want me and I don't want her.
In a relationship absolutly not, i would love just sharing a bank account if both are working.
But on the first date for example, i just expect that guy will pay. If he would want to split a Bill i would, but i dont think i would come to a second date.
to me, thinking that the guy should be the one paying for everything is the same as saying "women belong in the kitchen". if you think the latter is wrong, then you're wrong in saying the former. if you say the latter is right, at least you're morally consistent.
Of course not. I think most guys want to pay for the bulk of it as we feel it as a measure of our masculinity. But no one should be expected to carry this burden alone (especially in today's society where most households require two incomes).
I think most GOOD women want to contribute
I personally think all relationships should be 100/100 not 50/50. And whatever that is has to be worked out between the two of them. No dynamic is ever the same.
I'm paying for everything but I'm also not compromising over who I will date. I am Catholic and I want to date for marriage with the Catholic values (I try to live by that, didn't always).
I want a single income family but I also will not have premarital sex again. I hope with those guidelines i hope I'll avoid ever looking like that guy.
My date always pays for the dates. He doesn't accept my contribution. I do buy him gifts to make it up/ try to cook for the picnics. I would like to contribute.
I wasn't raised that way. A guy sported me 2 bucks five months ago. I just caught him off guard when our paths crossed randomly and had him take it back. You could see as much as he wanted to reject the act meant a lot.
Back in my dating days, all outings/bills etc. were always split straight down the middle 50/50... I guess times must have changed dramatically since those days.
Sure, I believe the guy should pay for everything, and the girl should go out with that guy if she's a gold digger.
As for me, I'll sit on the side let him pay for everything and be her side piece.🤣
BRUHHHHH... That's funny. She should at least offer knowing he's broke.
Adults should pay for their own shit. If you're married you share expenses. If it's you're kid you pay for them. Girl is the video is just a hooker.
My man is a well-mannered, old school romantic, so he always pays. Sadly, these men are becoming rare.
I do not believe that but nobody cares what I think.
Not true man. We're on here to share opinion and see others opinions. Some people will agree and like your opinions. Other will disagree and hate them.
No point in just saying "No one cares what I think" on every post that comes up, right?
If you are traditional woman you deserve traditional man.
But if you are modern woman who always talking about gender equality, just 50:50.
everyone should pay for themselves... problem solved
u if someone is worried about a bill... I just don't want anything to do with them
No, not every time because that means she would get a free ride in life a free lottery ticket and it doesnât stop at dinner. It continues on on everything.
Generally, yes unless the woman is wealthier, then a split is fairer.
Men should always pay 100% if men can't afford to date then they can't provide either
If people are worried about this they should not be together.
No. Girls should pay for some stuff also.
Split it up for starters
Definitely not
Nope
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