Could you be in love without getting physical?

[Anonymous]

I've never been in love. I've learned that I'm actually in love and I'm starting to have strong sexual desires. I'm a virgin and very inexperienced but I keep thinking of someone in a sexual way. He's the first person to make me think about sex. I'm not ready to have a baby but sex has been on my mind a lot. I know that there's a 50/50 chance of getting pregnant and I don't believe in contraception. I'm not ready to have a baby but I'm starting to desire kids as well. Is there a way to be in love and spend time with each other without getting physical? Kissing just seems to be too much as well.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Let's simplify here :D

Your thoughts and feelings are not a threat for you, they are you, they are expected to happen, you are expected to feel sexual desire when you feel emotionally close to someone. This is how things are, embrace them !

If you really fear contraception that much, I suppose you won't be able to look reasonably at the statistics, yet the stats are telling you this: using both condoms and pill protect you from pregnancy. This information is common knowledge, no debates possible :)

Lastly, sexuality doesn't need to come to the point of penetration, penetration is just one aspect, you can enjoy foreplay as much as you want, in many manners and ways you fancy, your partner will understand, and if he doesn't, it means that you have selected the wrong one, reconsider and find the guys who received a sane sexual education, and a sane approach to life, that would be a bonus lol

Good luck with all this 🙏🏼

[Makeushiver]

Not sure. I'm even not sure what love means since it seems to act as an umbrella term for many different emotions including, lust, infatuation, deep respect, affection, altruism and much more. If you remove any of those, I'm not sure if it's still love in the conventional sense of the word. The situations often described as love have so many different facets. Parental love, which includes a greater degree of altruism than most others and none of lust; Spiritual love, a tricky one and I'm only referring to the mystic type of relationship where one has a personal and overwhelming unity with the creative spirit animating universe, no lust again and little altruism but the only type that I believe can actually be considered "unconditional". This has little to do with the church going dogmatic religious traditions. etc., etc.

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Why don't you believe in contraception, out of curiosity? Like, you don't agree with using it or don't think it's effective? Just clarifying, that's all.

And yes, that's part of what drives us to get physical. But I don't think you are actually in love, from your description; I think you have strong sexual desires for this guy and that's fine.

Are you dating him, or just thinking about him? Does he seem interested in you? Has he asked you out?

[Asker]

In order for me to have sex we’ll need to get married. I don't believe in preventing pregnancy with my husband.

We saw each other for a while. He just hasn't improved but he's not a bad person. Initially I did not have sexual desires but was strongly attracted to him

[Asker]

Now I understand every word in a love song 😭
I yearn for him in every way
I even want kids right now but I know to be smart financially first
The thoughts of sex is just shocking for me because no one does it for me or ever has
I've always wanted a man who can turn me on without touching me

[TheRealPepperPotts]

What do you mean by, "He just hasn't improved, but he's not a bad person"? Did you break up?

You said you know to be smart financially before getting pregnant, which is good. But your sexual attraction is not really a good indication of whether or not you should marry this guy. Just sayin'. You're young, so your hormones are probably to blame. But marriage is a big deal. You really don't want to marry someone just because of lust.

It sounds like you are religious, based on your view of contraception. Is that the case? If you are Christian, I'll just say this: There isn't much of a case for avoiding contraceptives in scripture. There is a lot of doctrine of man surrounding the idea, though.

These are just things to think about. Again, from what you've said, I highly doubt you are in love. You feel sexually attracted, you want babies, you can't do that without marriage. Ergo, you want to marry this guy to have sex with him because he attracts you physically.

However, it's your life. You can handle this however you like. But it doesn't hurt to get some space and think it through first. :)

[Asker]

Yea there's been space. Thats how I've come to this conclusion. I've compared it to another relationship to really get an idea of what I’m going through. I didn't mean to fall in love…. Just kind of happened. It’s funny to have sexual desires for someone,! is what I was initially saying. I'm the type of person to truly want marriage before doing anything. For me if you'd like to kiss me then you must want marriage lol 🤷‍♀️ I hold strong morals and values

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Well, I wish you luck. :)

[luvstoned4him]

If we both decided to wait till marriage I believe I could control myself. Whose to say you won't share a kiss a here or a rub there but generally I would ensure it is kept pg13

[AI Opinion]

Absolutely, falling in love without getting physical is entirely possible and, dare I say, quite magical. It sounds like you're experiencing all the thrilling firsts of love, which can kick your imagination and desires into overdrive. This whirlwind of feelings is entirely natural. Love, in its purest form, transcends just the physical and can thrive on emotional, intellectual, and spiritual connections.

Navigating your feelings and boundaries, especially regarding physical intimacy, is crucial in preserving your comfort level and respecting your values. You can build a beautiful and deep relationship through shared experiences, heartfelt conversations, and mutual respect for each other's boundaries.

Regarding your thoughts on sex and the worry about pregnancy, it's important to have open and honest conversations about these topics with your partner. Also, exploring different aspects of intimacy that feel right for both of you might help. Remember, love isn't just about physical closeness; it's about creating a bond that's based on understanding, respect, and caring for one another's well-being. So, yes, you can absolutely love and be loved without crossing into the physical before you're ready. Keep cherishing those butterflies and the unique connection you share; it's all part of the beautiful journey of love.

[Summeroflove]

Well yeah I think if people saved sex they would feel a much better bond when it came that time. There is nobody else to compare one another to as well since it’s just them and it’s only between them since they only see themselves being with one another anyways.

People just refuse to have self control and fuck around. Making sex everything and wonder why they never can find a halfway fulfilling relationship.

[RingOfFire]

Whatever you do, don't let things get out of control. You're not ready to be pregnant and you should not even take the chance of that happening.

The best thing to do if you are both willing is to hug, it's okay to kiss when you are ready to do that, and cuddle. But I would not go beyond that at this point. If the relationship is real and not just your hormones starting to awaken, you will know in time. But don't make a mistake that you will regret for the rest of your life. When the time is right, after you have known each other for a long time and you are both comfortable, the story changes. Hopefully it involves marriage first because it sounds like you are that kind of girl.

[hahahmm]

Yes but... when you're really young your idea of "love" is very different from when you get older and have more experience.

Getting physical always starts with a little bit of contact and progresses. It is unlikely that you have the self control to stop it once you head down that road. Just remember.. it's easy to start something. Very difficult to stop & impossible to undo.

The time to make decisions based on thinking is BEFORE you get into a situation.

[rgii55447]

If you really want to share your life with someone, that means all aspects of your life, that includes your differences. If you bottle up all those things that you feel, you aren't really sharing all of yourself with them.

Of course, it shouldn't be automatic, but over time, you have to embrace all of who the other is.

[StyngRay]

No, physicality is an extension of love. To stifle it is unnatural. If you believe that love emanates from an altruistic source, then that physicality must emanate from the same source. Naturally, getting married is also a good pre religious structure enshrined by evolution. It is called an evolutionary stable strategy.

[Nikki1989]

Of course, you can love many people and many things with anything physical happening.

[Nikki1989]

*without

[Joshydavid25]

Of course there is. You don't have enough to do anything until you're ready.. Just spending time with each other and some light flirting would do the trick..

[LiamJHayden]

I've loved but never been "in love." I already have friends whom I adore and share most things with. Not sure how a romantic relationship without physicality would differ from my friendships.

[Berethor]

Theoretically yes but a guy would likely not want to be with you without anything physical.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. But would be the point? That be like buying a new toy and never playing with it.

Add to that we're talking about a woman here. So if you're not f***ing her, congratulations! Someone else is.

[MicahRaine]

Yeah I've been in love without getting physical.

[bowenw]

It is possible. I suggest you talk with him to see if he is agreeable.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

You could get physical with this guy without having all-the-way intercourse.

Could you find a middle ground? Find some physical stuff that you're comfortable with, but isn't going to get you pregnant?

[Staximus]

You need to educate yourself on contraception. Don't be stupid.

[clampfan101]

I’ve never had the chance to get physical, but I’ve certainly fallen in love.

[Anonymous]

For women, yes. For men, kind of yes. Men need the physical to for a bond.

[slatyb]

Yes, but not in a relationship.

[jackieistired]

Are you Amish? Or Mormon?

[jackieistired]

Wait nvm LOL if you were Amish you wouldn’t be using the internet

[Crazzyyworld]

Someday you will turn out to be a succubus

[rachel776]

no never

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes but eventually it will get physical

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you want an asexual partner

[MikeTheBartender]

No. Hell no.

[Iron_Man]

Yes …

[Stef12]

Yes.

[Twalli]

Condoms work.