What is the ideal age difference for a romantic relationship?

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People often say that age is just a number, but for me, I’m comfortable with an age difference of around ±3 to ±5 years.

theegloveguy · Accepted Answer

Depends on who you ask. I don’t really have much of a preference. The youngest person who has ever been in the realm of possibility of me dating is 7 years younger than me. And the only reason I even bring her up is because her mother’s been asking for years now “When are you gonna marrying my daughter?” We’re just friends and nothing more, but she still keeps asking 🤣

I used to be against dating younger than me, but now I don’t care as much. Preferably, the youngest I’d go is 5 years. Personally, though, I prefer women older than me. Within the last few years, I actually lost my virginity to a woman 20 years older than me. We were pretty close to making things official, but it came clear at some point that it just wouldn’t work out. Age had nothing to do with it though.

Anyway, for some people, age makes a difference due to where people tend to be at certain points of their life. For me, a person in their early-to-mid 20s is still trying to figure life out and solidify who they are and how they want to contribute to society. The frontal lobe isn’t finished developing until 25-27, and the brain has been shown to still show signs of developing until about age 30. Even so, some people are still quite irrational and immature after that point. That could just be a personality thing. There are plenty of emotionally mature young people too.

Anyway, my ideal range is -5 to +10, but I could go as high as 20, given my recent history 🤣

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

It depends on the relationship and what someone’s looking for keep in mind everyone is different. Any real relationship isn’t built on a age fetish it’s built on a genuine connection with one another. If that makes sense….

I think if two people are genuinely happy together this is what matters most

menina · Accepted Answer

There are couples who are closer in age and others who have a big age gap. I personally would rather be with someone closer in age. For instance, I can see myself dating or getting married to a 30 year old or even a 34 year old. However, I don't think that being with a 47 year old would work.

Overall, I would say that there's no ideal age difference, it all depends on what makes people comfortable.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I would say that less than 10 years is ideal. There have been studies done where its proven that the larger the age gap, the shorter the marriage. But from what I have seen, large age gaps are rare for a reason. Because people tend to get along better with those around their own age.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old question about age! 😏 Listen, diving into the sea of love, it's less about the number and more about the wave you're riding together. A ±3 to ±5 years difference? Totally cool and pretty common. It's snug within the comfort zone for many, helping you share similar cultural touchstones and maybe dodge some generational misunderstandings. But remember, at the heart of every swoon-worthy romance is not the math of age but the chemistry between hearts. 💖 Whether it's 3, 5, or even more years apart, it’s about finding someone who gets you, loves you for you, and rides the rollercoaster of life hand in hand. Dive in, the water's fine!

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

My wife is 9 years younger than me and I am not conscious of our age difference, except when we are making retirement plans.

Avicenna · Answer

Your respective ages isn't what makes you compatible in a relationship.

Simslover92 · Answer

No more than 2 years apart. But I've been becoming more open to younger guys as I know there are more guys my age not single or divorced which I don't want.

sexy_julia · Answer

I prefer older men, and I don’t care how big the age difference is. My husband is 35 years older than me. We married when I was 19 and he was 54. We are still married after fifteen years and have seven kids.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think there is an ideal age, as not everyone reaches the same point in life at the same time. I do think your odds of a SUCCESSFUL longterm relationship go way down anything outside of 9 years. though. I wouldn't give anything outside of that serious consideration.

DanGeraghty · Answer

If a woman asks about age, it indicates she is more interested in looks than a person's worth. I tell those woman, if age matters, they're more interested in looks than a person's real worth. I drop them immediately when they ask that question.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Age is just a number, but I've always dated younger women. This one woman I know was age 58 and her husband just passed away at age 84. They were married 39 years.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Whatever works for the couple. Some won't go more than a few years. Ritchie Blackmore and Candice Night are 26 years apart and have been together since 1991.

Nikki1989 · Answer

There is no right or wrong answer to this.

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

I don't think age difference is a big deal, as long as it's legal and consensual.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Only a couple years or none at all

bowenw · Answer

Whatever works for you. No rules.

Iron_Man · Answer

Only 3 to 5 years for you that’s nothing

Anonymous · Answer

2 years.

Maybeyoutoo · Answer

Max2

eagle1951 · Answer

Love knows no age

MasterKS · Answer

when you feel it!

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Age is just a number, but I've always dated younger women. This one woman I know was age 58 and her husband just passed away at age 84. They were married 39 years.