Do you really need to love yourself before you can love someone else?

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[Ms_Facesitter]

I'd say there are exceptions but I've seen insecure partners push the other away through sheer insecurity. "You're probably gonna leave me", "I'm not attractive", "you deserve better", "You probably saw someone else". That constant beating yourself down is going to push your partner away, because it's such a headache. And once that day finally comes, you're gonna go "See? I told you this would happen!" The self fulfilling prophecy. Not because she's a bad person or a cheater or whatever, but because of the constant negativity that you put her in.

And also during the dating stage, it's hard to show the person how attractive you are if you haven't even managed to convince yourself.

[verified]

Great answer

[purplepoppy]

No. The phrase "he/she loves himself" has long been used in a derogatory manner to describe someone self centred who thinks they're wonderful.

I think it's better to say that you have to accept who you are rather than worrying about things you can't change.

[ChiTown33]

Yes and no. I wouldn't word it that way. You need to have self worth, self respect. It's OK to have areas about yourself that's your less than proud about, areas that you want to improve. But it's a problem if you think so little of yourself that you cannot look the other person in the eye.

God has made all of us. No one is above another. Always remind yourself that everybody puts their pants on one leg at a time same as you. Belief that one person has more value than another is a manmade sickness.

[morganherrel]

Good answer! Incidentally, I put on my pants via both legs at the same time. But I'm also ambidextrous, so maybe that's why.

[ChiTown33]

@morganherrel 🤣🤣🤣

[melnc]

Sure, loving yourself can guide you to increased security, confidence, and the ability to give and receive healthy love. It allows you to establish boundaries, communicate effectively, and make decisions that resonate with your values. While it is possible to love someone else without completely loving yourself, it may bring up difficulties in relationships.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of the matter, loving yourself isn't just a recommendation, it's like the secret sauce in your relationship recipe! It's about knowing your worth, embracing your quirks, and rocking your confidence. When you've got that self-love glowing, it's like you're beaming out a vibe that says, "I'm fabulous and ready to share my fabulousness with someone just as fabulous!" It's not about perfection, but about being your own cheerleader. When you're full of love for yourself, you're more likely to attract and nurture a healthy, balanced relationship because, let's face it, you understand your value and won't settle for less. So, in the dance of love, make sure you're your own favorite dance partner first! 💖💃

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Didn't ask

[Smashingdoozy]

Yes or at least be on the path to accepting yourself.

Bringing self hate into a relationship just makes the relationship hard for the other person.

Relying on someone else to bring you happiness is also very unhealthy.

[ManInChains]

If you don't love yourself it makes it difficult for someone else to love you too. You'll assume they're lying all of the time and will end up self conscious which is a relationship killer.

[ProbablyClueless]

From what I've seen and experienced in life, it seems like loving yourself makes a really big difference.

[Anonymous]

I loved myself for the longest time. I started to stop when i realized no one else liked me. I hate myself.

[morganherrel]

a fulfilling journey awaits you

[Staximus]

No but it helps so you don't make them miserable

[CB-Raido-Time]

It's not about loving yourself it's about loving others.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I don't love myself, but I love some other people.

[paledreams]

100 💯 percent

[Titus_of_Ultramar]

yes.

[Walksbehindtherows]

Yes that's true