Do you love yourself enough to love somebody else?

[coachTanthony]

Yes

Absolutely not

Other ( I am getting there )

[Cynicaldreamer]

I can honestly say no.

I'm still working on loving myself, along with all my flaws, quirks, and trying to improve my self esteem and confidence. I'm too convoluted and jaded to love someone else right now, because I wouldn't trust them or their intentions, or worse, I'd assume they won't stay with me because of my own insecurities due to bad past experiences.
Heck, I barely love most of my friends and family if that says much-

... yes I know that sounds terrible. But at least I'm honest and mature enough to realize that issue; I'll give myself that much. At least I'm not like some people that jump into relationships because they're clingy and needy for affection and love from the wrong people, rather than working on themselves first.

Supposedly, it's said, "To love someone else, you need to love yourself first."
Because if you love yourself, you won't rely on others to bring you happiness and meaning... at least idealistically. I know some people find happiness and love making others happy: that's great! IF that's the type of person you are. That's not the case for everyone.

Some of us have to find our own little slice of happiness and love before we're able to let others in.

[coachTanthony]

It's sad to me to find out you don't love me hehehehe
I thought for sure I was special. :+)

[Cynicaldreamer]

You're special alright...

A special pain

[coachTanthony]

Key word "special" I'll take it.

[DarkCarousel]

Experiencing the power of loving deeply brings me to love myself more.
I have found that in the darkest times of not loving myself, I have searched deep inside to pull out that thread of giving. Giving love or compassion. This is what pulls me back from the edge of not loving myself enough.

[TruthBringer]

Yes, and this is how I manage to lead a healthy relationship. One can only love someone else if they love themselves first, otherwise you cannot truly accept the love that the other person is giving you. The love I have for myself has allowed me to make big and positive changes to my life, end toxic relationships, engage in healthy habits and not settle for less than I deserve. Thanks to that, I don't turn my significant other into a personal therapist, nor do I not know how to accept her love. Because I have love for myself, I can focus on loving her.

[ToastyOats]

That whole concept is retarded. What a woman means when she tells you that is that she doesn't respect you enough to love you. A lot of what women say you have to run through a translator. They don't speak literally. If you had more confidence, money, or competence they would respect you more and translate that in their head to you loving yourself more. Best bet is avoid women who can't express complex ideas anyway. You want good genes for abstract reasoning in your woman so your kids won't be born ignorant normies.

[Pasiton5]

Well since you ask I tell you honestly which is only way I know how to be since I'm no good at lying, yes I do that's something I learned very early on in my life, and everyone should as well if you going to be going out meeting other people, probably reduce the violent be done dudes do to women sand some women do to guys only dudes don't report it,

[menina]

Not yet but I'll get there. I've been struggling with self-esteem issues caused by bullying and my "family" so it hasn't been easier to overcome them. It takes years, but I know I'm getting better. Once I'm at peace with myself I'll be ready to love and to be loved.

[Gosceewual]

why do u have to love urself to love someone else?
i thought love was jus a more intense version of the word "like" as in you more than jus like that thing or person... you LOVE them.

and there's definitely a girl who i love in that sense, but i hate myself

[TruthBringer]

In general, those who do not love themselves and still engage into a relationship are often doomed to not know how to embrace the love coming their way. Because they don't love themselves, they do not know how to deal with the unfamiliar feeling of being loved. They would think "how come that person loves me, I don't even love me? Something is not right!". This results in them shutting themselves off from that love, which will make their significant other feel unappreciated and taken for granted.
You cannot love someone else if you don't have that love for yourself, first.

[Gosceewual]

@TruthBringer intresting, there's this girl i know who seems that way, but i dont really give a fuck about myself to be honest, i dont feel any particular way towards me, i jus am, i mean im an ugly idiot and sometimes put myself down, but if a girl is showing me love, i dont think hey that can't be possible, im a ugly retard, she can't love me... i jus let it be and understand some other people have different opinions about me as i do... il jus accept and believe that she loves me... weird how some people think their opinion of theirself is the only 1

[Gosceewual]

should i stop showing love to this girl who doesn't love herself? cos she never shows me any love so maybe its time to give up on her

[TruthBringer]

@gosceewual If a girl doesn't show you any love, then there is no point in bothering yourself with her, to begin with, regardless of you loving yourself or not. True self-love and self-respect will make sure you ditch her if she doesn't show you any interest. When it comes down to not caring about yourself, that is actually quite dangerous in the long run. Perhaps now you aren't aware of the dangers, but give a relationship enough time and the side-effects of someone who doesn't love themselves will start to show. Your priority is to improve yourself in that which you're not proud of yourself about. Self love is FAR MORE important than loving someone else.

[Goatmeal]

I'm not sure the two are connected, although people keep saying that online with no real references to back it up.

You can love yourself and treat others like shit.

You can hate yourself and treat others really well.

I just don't buy that this is comparable to putting on your own oxygen mask before you help others, as the comparison goes.

[Coulis]

I need to love myself enough because I am still giving off a vibe that attacks emotionally predatory types.

I am still being attracted to vampires. I have things to resolve within myself clearly.

[Coulis]

*attracts

[Miah02]

Yes i have a lot of self love, and love several people in my life

[coachTanthony]

Bravo!

[Miah02]

Thank you😊

[NathanDavis]

It took me a while to find myself but I made it there... and this was long long time ago, age 15~16. I really had to work hard, to connect with anything, anyone.. at a deeper and truly meaningful level. I was growing up disconnected with myself, therefore everything and everyone around me and I was sort of normalizing it in a way. It took a tragedy for me to realize it and to start working on it, was a difficult process, but we made it here, and here we are, still.

[ChiTown33]

I have to love myself to love another? What kind of psychology is that?

[coachTanthony]

Usually people have a hard time loving someone else when they don't give a shit about themselves.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I am neutral about myself lol
I don't think it's important to love yourself though I understand what people mean when they say that.

[natured]

If I wouldn't love myself I wouldn't have a happy relationship.

[Kha0tiic_xo]

Now I do and that's taken a lot of time but I made it!

[electromagnetic]

Borderline narcissistic. But I have a soft spot of people and love in general.

[Dontaaa]

If you're talking about love in a non romantic way then yes, I love myself enough to love others.

[Silas_153]

No, because 'self-love' is narcissism, and there is already far too much of that around these days.

[moejoeloli]

Do you love yourself enough to PROPERLY love somebody else.

[TallAnon]

Most definitely not, so dating can wait. If someone comes along, sure. Otherwise, I'll save up 50k, get an apartment and get in shape first.

[BUNroaster]

I don't need to honestly. Main goal is just one really good spot on date I put on and then see how it goes from there but I'm not interested really

[loveslongnails]

Coach - turn off Oprah and watch the hockey game. Hurry !!!

[collie22]

Jesus loves me thats how i know its okay to love my self

[GhostMochi]

https://youtu.be/9rNy0TxwhAI

[Bean2thousand]

I was dating myself for a while, but we weren't really compatible.