Do you love yourself enough to love somebody else?

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Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

I can honestly say no.

I'm still working on loving myself, along with all my flaws, quirks, and trying to improve my self esteem and confidence. I'm too convoluted and jaded to love someone else right now, because I wouldn't trust them or their intentions, or worse, I'd assume they won't stay with me because of my own insecurities due to bad past experiences.
Heck, I barely love most of my friends and family if that says much-

... yes I know that sounds terrible. But at least I'm honest and mature enough to realize that issue; I'll give myself that much. At least I'm not like some people that jump into relationships because they're clingy and needy for affection and love from the wrong people, rather than working on themselves first.

Supposedly, it's said, "To love someone else, you need to love yourself first."
Because if you love yourself, you won't rely on others to bring you happiness and meaning... at least idealistically. I know some people find happiness and love making others happy: that's great! IF that's the type of person you are. That's not the case for everyone.

Some of us have to find our own little slice of happiness and love before we're able to let others in.

DarkCarousel · Accepted Answer

Experiencing the power of loving deeply brings me to love myself more.
I have found that in the darkest times of not loving myself, I have searched deep inside to pull out that thread of giving. Giving love or compassion. This is what pulls me back from the edge of not loving myself enough.

TruthBringer · Accepted Answer

Yes, and this is how I manage to lead a healthy relationship. One can only love someone else if they love themselves first, otherwise you cannot truly accept the love that the other person is giving you. The love I have for myself has allowed me to make big and positive changes to my life, end toxic relationships, engage in healthy habits and not settle for less than I deserve. Thanks to that, I don't turn my significant other into a personal therapist, nor do I not know how to accept her love. Because I have love for myself, I can focus on loving her.

ToastyOats · Accepted Answer

That whole concept is retarded. What a woman means when she tells you that is that she doesn't respect you enough to love you. A lot of what women say you have to run through a translator. They don't speak literally. If you had more confidence, money, or competence they would respect you more and translate that in their head to you loving yourself more. Best bet is avoid women who can't express complex ideas anyway. You want good genes for abstract reasoning in your woman so your kids won't be born ignorant normies.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Well since you ask I tell you honestly which is only way I know how to be since I'm no good at lying, yes I do that's something I learned very early on in my life, and everyone should as well if you going to be going out meeting other people, probably reduce the violent be done dudes do to women sand some women do to guys only dudes don't report it,

menina · Answer

Not yet but I'll get there. I've been struggling with self-esteem issues caused by bullying and my "family" so it hasn't been easier to overcome them. It takes years, but I know I'm getting better. Once I'm at peace with myself I'll be ready to love and to be loved.

Gosceewual · Answer

why do u have to love urself to love someone else?
i thought love was jus a more intense version of the word "like" as in you more than jus like that thing or person... you LOVE them.

and there's definitely a girl who i love in that sense, but i hate myself

Goatmeal · Answer

I'm not sure the two are connected, although people keep saying that online with no real references to back it up.

You can love yourself and treat others like shit.

You can hate yourself and treat others really well.

I just don't buy that this is comparable to putting on your own oxygen mask before you help others, as the comparison goes.

Coulis · Answer

I need to love myself enough because I am still giving off a vibe that attacks emotionally predatory types. I am still being attracted to vampires. I have things to resolve within myself clearly.

Miah02 · Answer

Yes i have a lot of self love, and love several people in my life

NathanDavis · Answer

It took me a while to find myself but I made it there... and this was long long time ago, age 15~16. I really had to work hard, to connect with anything, anyone.. at a deeper and truly meaningful level. I was growing up disconnected with myself, therefore everything and everyone around me and I was sort of normalizing it in a way. It took a tragedy for me to realize it and to start working on it, was a difficult process, but we made it here, and here we are, still.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I have to love myself to love another? What kind of psychology is that?

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I am neutral about myself lol I don't think it's important to love yourself though I understand what people mean when they say that.

natured · Answer

If I wouldn't love myself I wouldn't have a happy relationship.

Kha0tiic_xo · Answer

Now I do and that's taken a lot of time but I made it!

electromagnetic · Answer

Borderline narcissistic. But I have a soft spot of people and love in general.

Dontaaa · Answer

If you're talking about love in a non romantic way then yes, I love myself enough to love others.

loveslongnails · Answer

Coach - turn off Oprah and watch the hockey game. Hurry !!!

Silas_153 · Answer

No, because 'self-love' is narcissism, and there is already far too much of that around these days.

moejoeloli · Answer

Do you love yourself enough to PROPERLY love somebody else.

TallAnon · Answer

Most definitely not, so dating can wait. If someone comes along, sure. Otherwise, I'll save up 50k, get an apartment and get in shape first.

BUNroaster · Answer

I don't need to honestly. Main goal is just one really good spot on date I put on and then see how it goes from there but I'm not interested really

collie22 · Answer

Jesus loves me thats how i know its okay to love my self

Bean2thousand · Answer

I was dating myself for a while, but we weren't really compatible.

LivingExample · Answer

You must Love yourself first before you can really love someone else!

Anonymous · Answer

It's the opposite. I don't love myself enough but can love my partner more than myself because my partner's needs are first.
People who love themselves are incapable to love others because they only care about themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

Well I'm about one bad day away from popping my skull open, so I'd say no.

Ellie-V · Answer

Yes... children, friends/family, strangers.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

You can’t love yourself unless someone else loves you.

Дерйа · Answer

No, I'm working on it

fonduegirl · Answer

I love me so much there's no room for anyone else.

karaspara · Answer

Ummmm option C I feel

Anonymous · Answer

Not yet, that's why I'm working on myself

ks19200 · Answer

Yes. I do love myself..

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yes, I do. And I'm ready to love someone again

Wiredone · Answer

Yes I love who I am. I love a lot of people.

Unbeatable · Answer

Read my take "Self love is hate"

InferiorElegy · Answer

I don't know what love is to apply it to myself.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Absolutely Yes :)

Anonymous · Answer

They always find their love after me 🤷🏻‍♂️

Phoenix98 · Answer

I do.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes coach Timothy

The_Outlaw · Answer

Can't say I do.

WowwGirl · Answer

I think I'm good

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