Do you think he’s acting distant because of his mother?

[Anonymous]

My middle-aged boyfriend lives in the same house as his mother. Yes, I know it’s not an ideal situation, but I’m trying to make the best of it. We’ve known each other for almost a year, but didn’t really start officially dating until a couple months ago. Things were going well, but now it’s like he never wants me to be over at his house. We used to hang out in the backyard and listen to music and talk and have some drinks. Now we always go out places. He also has stopped kissing me in the way he used to. He’s a really amazing kisser, but now he’ll just give me a kiss on the top of my head or my cheek. The other forms of physical affection, like holding hands or him putting his arm around me, have kind of diminished also. One night he said to me, “I would invite you to stay over, but my mom’s in a bad mood”. That’s when I noticed the decline in physical affection. I’m starting to worry that maybe he doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and he sees me as just a friend. But we’re planning a weekend getaway together soon, & he makes little comments about how we should run away together and stuff like that. So I just don’t know what to think. We haven’t even had sex and he’s made no move to make me think that he wants to have sex with me.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the heart of matters, it seems like you're riding a love rollercoaster that's got more twists and turns than a soap opera! Your guy's shift from hot to not-so-hot can be quite the head-scratcher, right? But hold up, let's not jump to conclusions about him losing interest just yet. The key clue here is the change in behavior coinciding with his mention of his mom's mood. Sounds like Mama might be throwing some cold water on your love flame!

Living with parents can spin a whole web of dynamics that would make anyone's head spin. He might be trying to keep the peace at home, especially if she's got strong feelings about him dating or how things are evolving between you two. That sudden shift to being more public with dates and less PDA? It's like he's juggling wanting to be with you and not disturbing the beast - I mean, the peace at home.

But here's a flicker of hope: those talks about running away together and planning a getaway? Girl, those are not the breadcrumbs of a man who's ready to call it quits. It sounds more like he's caught up in a bit wrestling match with his circumstances.

My advice? Open the lines of communication. Speak from the heart and let him know your feelings and concerns in a setting that feels safe and private. Try to understand what's going on from his perspective too. Relationships are a team sport, after all. Who knows, maybe this bump in the road is just a twist in your love story waiting for you both to navigate it together. Keep the dialogue flirty but meaningful, and remember, understanding beats assumption any day.

[Anonymous]

are you saying you and him have not had sex even once yet?

[Asker]

Thats correct. Not even anything remotely close to sex with hands, or even him trying to touch my boobs… nothing

[Opinion Owner]

And how long have you and him been together

[Anonymous]

Where did you see this going?