When you feel in love, how do you control not to overflow your partner with all the love you feel?

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VIVANT · Accepted Answer

It is verrrrry difficult for me to express my feelings id have to force myself and I always feel a bit ill so im very interested to know what you think example of overflow?

I think expressing feelings that you have for someone who respects you and has feelings for you shouldn’t be a difficult thing to measure. I mean you should be able to do it pretty freely obviously if somebody is busy or they need some quiet time or whatever and that’s not the appropriate time but time is different than expression and I don’t think you should have to control expression if you’re in a mutual relationship.

I think the right person should be OK if you find that expressing your feelings, for somebody is irritating to them, I would reconsider if you’re with the right person.

sounds like a nightmare being with someone where you have to tiptoe on your own feelings that you wouldn’t be in the relationship with them if you didn’t have, I would not wanna be in a relationship like that.

Some people in general have difficulty controlling themselves that’s separate. That’s not really about a relationship. That’s just a general thing and if you have that kind of a problem, that’s something you could see a therapist about but again that would be general and not specific to relationships.

How we act around people that were with based on what we learn about ourselves and them together and by the time you’re in a relationship, you both just have some understanding of how to harmonize your feelings for each other in a way that is palatable for you both.

I don’t think you can really sort that out in the abstract. It would depend on each relationship and how you both sort of sort of things out between each other overtime. But you should be able to treat each other with respect and dignity, so discovered compassionately, in my opinion.

There are definitely a lot of people who are “feeling phobic,” but those are people that are ready to be in relationships…so I wouldn’t worry about it.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

I pay attention to my husband's facial expression. When he would prefer I control myself, I get a half smile, but eyebrows down and a slight shake of the head. Otherwise, it's full steam ahead! He laughs a lot.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Why would you want to control it. . When Love is out of control is when you are truly controlling it because you're being yourself you're being real you're allowing yourself to be vulnerable you're allowing yourself to be you you're expressing who you are and what you feel so out of control love is really controlled love because it's you it's real it's in that moment

There's nothing wrong with being yourself there's nothing wrong with expressing how you feel there's something beautiful about that to be real in every moment of a moment

If the person could not understand that and do the same thing then maybe you shouldn't be together because then you're controlling something and not showing them who you truly are and what you really are made of and what you really want

When you truly love somebody and you become one with that person there's no reason to hold back anything because they're going to feel what you feel they're going to be one with you and they're going to love that because it's real it's happening right then and there and that's what they like about you that's what they love about you

You can't feel something towards somebody and only give them a half a kiss because you want to control your desires your passion your Love towards them you want to give them that full kiss you want them to kiss you back you want to melt in that moment and melt them you want them to feel you and you want to feel them that's what love is all about that is what's so beautiful about it

That is what makes love so beautiful is not controlling that moment is just letting it happen

Those are the things that the person you love will always remember and will always desire because it's you it's really you and you're not holding back you're not controlling anything you're just being you

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Don’t control it , love the way you want to love them , if they love you back the same? they will accept it with no hesitations whatsoever. When a partner starts hesitating and doesn’t want to love you back the same way you love them? Then you are more
Than likely not with the right person , because that person only likes the convenience of you , and that’s up to you , on whether you want to continue a relationship with that person or not. No relationship is perfect , but if a partner isn’t giving back the same or equivalent to you? Then you are best to make plans to walk away from that person because they don’t truly value you and appreciate you the way you value and appreciate them. Both of you should be making each other feel loved and wanted as much as possible , not the other way around. I only stay in relationships with girls’ that bring happiness into my life , not constant misery. If she doesn’t wear my shoes the same way she expects me to wear hers , she isn’t the girl for me , I will gladly hand her over to someone else to put up with her constant negativity and selfish attitude. Life is too short to stay with someone that doesn’t want to give back the same that you are giving them.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Aiming to sprinkle a little wisdom on managing those oh-so-intense emotions—trust me, it’s like trying to keep a lid on a volcano of love! 😍 The trick is to find that sweet spot between showering them in affection and giving them space to breathe. Imagine you're watering a plant; too much and you'll drown it, too little and it might wither. Start with understanding their love language—words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. Match your expressions of love to what resonates most with them. Also, channel some of that overflowing affection into activities you can do both together and individually. Keep a journal, dive into hobbies, or spend time with friends. This not only prevents you from overloading your partner but also keeps you balanced and happy. Remember, love is a dance, not a race. Let it simmer, not boil over. 😉

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AviatorTom · Answer

Love has no limits. It's very hard to "love too much". If your love turns into smothering your partner, they'll let you know.

Lliam · Answer

Don't talk and gush too much. Show with actions more than words. Have some dignity. You can show adoration without blathering and making a spectacle.

At the same time, overflowing with love is wonderful. If it's reciprocated, let it flow. :D
There's no greater feeling than deep infatuation.

DJB72 · Answer

Personally I remember that I'm 220lbs and I need to exercise control!

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I tend to  control up to the point  I am reasonably sure she has feelings as well. Past this point I will be upfront but... It's still risky.  Not everyone is ready for being loved .

Agape93 · Answer

Because I can't, emotionally speaking. I feel it but don't know how to express it properly so i keel it quiet and show it in other ways

Coden7 · Answer

I’m pretty soft spoken so I’ve never really had an issue overhearing. I have been told I care too much which is odd

LiamJHayden · Answer

I never base my romantic actions solely on "feelings." I approach it logically so it would be automatically controlled.

Makeushiver · Answer

I try to keep in mind that a bit of reticence is often more attractive than going overboard

Nikki1989 · Answer

It doesn't need to be controlled. Let it flow!

exitseven · Answer

I think about all the times I got screwed over by some girl.

Dongie · Answer

I usually fail and fuck it up and end up alone again.

avery58 · Answer

I don't, I'll stay true to my feelings

ManInChains · Answer

I’m incapable of feeling love

RubyFrench · Answer

best way is to not control it. Let it go.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

You can't control it so don't even try

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