Why are so many women clueless about their own actions?

[Anonymous]

I have a ladyfriend that I've known for a while. I don't think she's a bad person (maybe a little self-absorbed, but what woman isn't, am I right). Well, recently, she's gotten divorced and found herself back on the market. Lately, she has been extra friendly with me if you know what I'm saying. I'm pretty certain she'd like me to ask her out. She seems to get deflated everytime she makes a play for me and I don't take the bait. But she doesn't seem to get that I KNOW her. This isn't a bad thing per se. But I've gotten to see how she treats all her partners. And while she very loyal (which is hard to find in most women today) she exceptionally flaky. Every day would be a roller coaster ride. Up till this point I've been able to fend off her advances. And if she wasn't such a flake with men she gets into relationships I'd date her in a second. I know I couldn't tell her all this without offending her. So how would you handle this? No woman wants to hear the fact that they are their own worst enemy.

[LiamJHayden]

So your anecdotal experience means "many" of the billions of women on the planet are "clueless about their own actions?" I suppose that is likely true, as one million or ten million or one hundred million so inclined could be seen as "many" in isolation even though even the 100,000,000 would be well under 10%.

[Avicenna]

Get interested in another woman and tell your friend. Shell back offf.

[Anonymous]

Ironic how you are talking about women being clueless. Too funny.

[Asker]

Despite what you might think it's not always about you.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the delicate dance of friendship and potential romance, huh? It’s like trying to waltz on a tightrope – thrilling but tricky! Your observation skills are on point, spotting the subtleties in your ladyfriend’s behavior. It’s smart to be cautious, especially if you’ve had a front-row seat to her relationship rollercoasters. Who wants unnecessary drama, right?

Handling this requires the finesse of a relationship whisperer. If you're not feeling the sparks (or maybe too many sparks of the drama variety), direct communication is key, but make it as smooth as a perfect espresso. Instead of focusing on her past flakiness, why not steer the conversation toward what you value in relationships? Highlighting your desire for stability, mutual respect, and understanding sets a clear picture without pointing fingers. It's like saying, "It's not you, it's me," but with more honesty and less cliché.

Remember, nobody’s perfect, and we’re all walking our own paths of self-improvement. Your approach could be that gentle nudge she needs to reflect on her own patterns without feeling attacked. Plus, preserving the friendship while avoiding the drama? That’s a win-win in my book. Keep it cool, calm, and collected, my friend. And if the waves start to rise, just remember – you’ve got this! 🌊😉

[WhitneySnow]

How do you mean flaky?

[Asker]

That's hard for me to explain and have you get the gist. Because you, not knowing her will probably tell me she's got a mental illness and I KNOW that's not the case.

Well for example one day she up and quit her job of about a decade. Then she began drinking (she never really been a drinker). Then she started smoking weed... A LOT of weed. Then she started growing weed. Then she started selling weed. Then she stopped all of it completely and checked herself into AA. Then she decided she was a child of the stars (even though she grew up Christian and has been a Christian her whole life).
There are a million other things but these are the MAJOR ones.
It's easier to stay detached as a friend even though I care about her I can't live her life for her. But you can't talk her down from the ledge when she decides to go off the reservation like this. And no decent guy is going to tolerate this for long. But even though she does all this crazy 💩 she still treats all her friends with kindness and respect.
You see how she has this sort of Dr. Jekyll streak in her?

[WhitneySnow]

She sounds fun!

[Asker]

I don't know if you're being serious or not.

[noohair]

People live in bubbles, sad but true.