Do people appreciate you more when you show them zero interest and take you for granted when you show them love?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

If so, Why’s that?
I don’t believe in playing games, so I will show what I feel.

[Finchie40]

I would say yes for the most part because most females’ I have dated were more into me , when I didn’t constantly love and respect her the way I wanted her to love and respect me , it’s like she was more drawn to me not giving a fuck , compared to me actually giving a fuck , which blew my mind , that I had to play these games with her, just to get her to come into my arms or to stay by my side. Why most females’ are drawn to the bad boy type that pretty much keep her on her toes. So finding a girl that actually wants a straight out nice guy , is hard to come by, she sometimes will want that in the beginning but eventually changes her mind when she realizes he is too nice From my experiences with girls’ and things I have witnessed with girls’ is most of you want opposite of what you already have. I have witnessed girls’ turn down a really nice guy , for a guy that was a complete asshole that treated women like shit , but there she goes spreading her legs to him , instead of choosing a guy that actually would of treated her the way she should be treated. I also witnessed girls’ already having a nice guy that treated her like gold , but instead she goes behind his back and cheats on him with some asshole that just wants to fuck her behind her partners’ back because he was too nice And I know this, because I was that other asshole a handful of times , with these selfish girls’ telling me things I wanted to hear just to get me in bed , to find out after we fucked , she has a partner at home So when I hear you girls’ bitch and complain about how you are treated in your relationship, I just shake my head and think it’s because you are probably the reason you relationship is failing in the first place , because you are the selfish person , that doesn’t take accountability for your own selfish actions , unless she proves to me that her partner is a complete asshole to her , then I might believe her but until then , I won’t believe a word she says. I am not saying us guys’ are perfect , I just don’t date guys’ but I know guys’ can be selfish POS’s as well , but one thing about most of us guy’s we don’t change like you Girls’’ tend to , Most guys’ I know are very content with their lives they work they come home and get their hands into something around the house , they eat dinner and just want to relax and spend time with their wife and kids’ You girls’ on the other hand always want something more than what you already have , never content whatsoever. But with us guys’ we are the same guys’ from the very beginning , so what you choose is what you get , stop thinking you can change your man , if you want your man to change? Start treating him with love and respect , make him feel valued and wanted , instead of constantly nagging at him over the dumbest things , because when we don’t feel respected or loved by our partner , we will change into complete assholes that pretty much want nothing to do with you anymore because all you do is nag and bitch and complain about every little thing , crying the blues to your friends’ he doesn’t care about me anymore , he doesn’t love me anymore , he rather play video games instead of spending time with me blah blah blah , I wonder why? , So I hate to break it to you girls’ you are the ones that change your minds , because you want your cake and want to eat it to , because most of you can’t take accountability for your own selfish actions , so you dug your own grave with the stupid games you play. Us guys’ don’t change for the worst , we change for the better , and sorry you girls’ are complete opposite. So my advice to everyone , if you want a happy long term relationship with someone , learn to remove selfishness and stop playing games with each other , respect and love each other the same way you did when you first met each other , we can only choose someone that chooses us the same , not the other way around because if a girl is no longer choosing me? My ass is no longer choosing her period. I will choose the girl standing behind her

[BullShark]

I will say that yes, I do indeed attract way more people when I'm playing aloof and show no interest in the other person, as opposed to if I'm actively showing them genuine interest. Maybe it's just the sort of people I end up feeling attracted to/attract or maybe the girls around me are like that, I'm not so sure, but sources tell me otherwise.

Like a female (strictly platonic) friend of mine even said so herself that this is actually true for most girls, herself included, and said that when a guy is playing hard to get, it's like a technical game of cat and mouse for them which keeps them engaged and chasing after the guy. If he folds way too quickly, they see no reason to pursue him any further because he ended "the game" too quickly so they just move onto the next hopeless guy chasing them.

Do I think that's messed up? Absolutely. I don't think people should be treated like a game and if you find someone attractive/unattractive, you need to be upfront about it instead of beating around the bush and making them feel worthless and like a joke. It's not worth breaking someone's heart for your own sick and twisted pleasures and just shows how low you really are if you do these sorta things.

[FreyaRed]

Human nature has many flaws, one of them is when something doesn't cost much efforts it's not much worth. Make your affection worthy and exchange it for something you want, in best case affection of your partner, then it's a balanced transaction. If you give for free, you will always lose because gratefulness, moral, responsibility... are not more than ideals. Attempt of building up an emotional, physical or economical transaction with you partner on base of ideals will never work in long run.

[Account]

I won't get into much details, but yes. People appreciate you less if you show them too much interest and yes they indeed take you for granted.
Keep in mind most people are not mentally healthy, therefore they feel weird when there is healthy and upfront communication and it turns them off, because they are not wired that way.

That is how it is.

[AI Opinion]

Aiming to spread love, sweetness, and a dash of fun to every relationship conundrum! 😎 People tend to value what they see as scarce, so when you show zero interest, it can sometimes trigger a chase response. But beyond games, genuine connections thrive on mutual appreciation and understanding. Don't worry about playing it cool; being your authentic, loving self will attract those who truly value you. Remember, love shouldn't be a pursuit of validation but a shared journey! 🌟

[Zack-Bann]

Here’s what I've learned over the years


People gravitate over simplicity like a magnet


When you’re someone who shows interest you give off the vibe of someone who takes life too seriously and would be a pain to deal with on a constant basis


But a disinterested person is “free-er” somehow. They give off the vibe that they’re up for a good time without sweating the details and that comes off as strength.


So it’s not about playing games.
It’s about: accepting that life is simple if you let it be simple

[MikeTheBartender]

Women definitely don't like guys to be clingy so that's a fine line to show love. Whereas if a girl doesn't know if you like her she may be more interested

[DryGermanGuy]

That's teenage behavior for high-schoolers. No thanks, my time is too valuable.

[Anonymous]

Generally, yes. But here is the secrets. The problem with givers isn't their giving.

It's their pace and expectations.

They give too much too soon.

If it's a trauma response they expect that what they didn't get in the past will now be reciprocated to them because of this giving.

So give but be selective, steady and with your best interests in mind withiut being opportunistic.

[avery58]

Yeah they do because they take you for granted but once they realize you're gone for good they realize what they lost!

[Nikki1989]

Nah, When you invest time, effort, and care into a relationship, it typically fosters a deeper connection.

[NathanDavis]

nope... I've never had that issue myself

people usually reciprocate in a good way

[A_Wild_Redhead]

I don't think it's because they appreciate you more if you go cold, they just want to know what's wrong. They don't 'appreciate' that behavior at all, yet fall for it.

[WhitneySnow]

Some do. But a lot of people aren’t like that.

[Ladsin2]

Women maybe, not men. Men just want to be appreciated. Women are a bit more... esoteric. My sister left her husband because he was "too nice".

[Confusedinca2021]

It has been my experience you shouldn't be too nice. Be nice but do too much, for whatever reason it seems people take you for granted when you take care of them.

[Ariesman81]

Low interest... people are stupid and equate it with higher value

[elaphe]

Healthy people? No, they like love reciprocated.

[dudegreat91]

Something to do with human psych. We want what we can't have. Don't value what we have

[Billlewis]

I think guys often do. Women, not so much.

[RavVid]

Yeah weird to play games.

[Jamie05rhs]

Pretty much, unfortunately.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not experience that.

[Twalli]

If she shows no interest, I move on.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Honestly I don't know

[Gengi87]

Not always