My relationship almost feels like a daddy-daughter dynamic. will this be a problem later?

[ForevrLonely29]

My fiancé has severe anxiety and is likely on the Autistic Spectrum. She has only been diagnosed with anxiety and takes medication for it. She also has a skin condition, but I notice she picks at her skin when she is especially anxious, to the point where she bleeds. I am suspecting she has a skin-picking disorder.

Like me, she is incredibly immature. She is mostly a loner that likes to read and draw. She lives at home still, although she spends 2 nights/2 days a week with me.

I love her so much, but I have seen some red flags. I seem to be pulling a lot of weight and have to push her to take a shower, brush her teeth, and make an appointment with a dermatologist. I seem to have taken a caregiver role almost. Her mom texted me yesterday urging me to try to get her to see the dermatologist.

She is my very first real relationship ever. I was never good with women, and most of my life I have been rejected. I also wanted a woman without a romantic past, which she almost perfectly met that description. I was her first kiss and everything, and we are now engaged to be married. She just turned 27. I just turned 30.

I love her, although I sometimes feel concerned.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the magical world of love, where things aren't always hearts and flowers! My aim on Girls Ask Guys is to shine a light in such grey areas. Relationships can sometimes feel like you're writing a sequel to an unapproved movie, but it shouldn't feel like a full-time job as a caregiver. If there’s a caregiver dynamic, it might bring future challenges, especially if you feel more like a parent than a partner. It's worth considering whether this dynamic is healthy in the long run for both of you.

Think of love as a two-way street! 💕 While love is patient and kind, it's also balanced. Maybe sprinkle in some communication! Talk about how you both envision the roles in the relationship and seek to create a partnership that empowers both. It's time to swipe right for self-care and compatibility! Keep the lines of communication open. Remember, the most crucial love story is the one where both partners grow together and support each other. 💖