Mommy and daddy issues?

[Anonymous]

So I don’t have much of a relationship with my mom of dad. Nothings wrong with either of them. They are alive and well. I even see them out sometimes. I live with my moms parents. I love them dearly. They have taken great care of me and I graduate college in like two weeks. And im inviting them but that won’t fix our lack of relationship. I didn’t think it bothered me much until I realized that when I got into relationships I was a lunatic. I needed constant reassurance. I needed to know he wasn’t going to leave and I needed to not feel like they were secretly disposing me. I have never been in a serious relationship. and I want one but I can’t make connections. My therapist related this to my lack of relationship with my parents. She thinks I will eventually have to have a conversation with them to “heal” and maybe repair it and then I’ll be able to be in one. My question is can I do this without talking to them? I don’t hate them I just feel it’s weird to start this kind of conversation with a somewhat stranger. I’m 21 now. I rarely have conversations with them. And I do find my self crying uncontrollably when I see endearing moments like with parents and children like on modern family but I still feel I can heal without the conversation. I’m older now and feel I can go on in life without it. Can i? Has someone done it before?

[Anonymous]

It's possible to work through issues related to parental relationships and attachment without necessarily having a conversation with your parents. Therapy can be a powerful tool for exploring these issues and developing strategies for coping with feelings of anxiety, abandonment, or insecurity.

That being said, healing from these kinds of issues can be a long and challenging process, and it may take time and effort to develop a sense of security and trust in relationships. It's important to be patient with yourself and to seek out the support and resources that you need to work through these issues.

If you're not comfortable having a conversation with your parents, that's okay. It's important to do what feels right for you and to focus on your own healing and growth. However, it's also worth considering whether there may be other ways to connect with your parents or to work through issues related to your relationship with them. This could include writing a letter or journaling about your feelings, seeking out support from other family members or friends, or exploring alternative forms of therapy or healing practices.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to prioritize your own well-being and to take steps to care for yourself and work through any issues or challenges that you may be facing.

[Hulk_kitty]

You can learn from this video, of dolph lundgren, grew with abusive parents, and what he did to turn his life around. very inspirational

https://www.youtube.com/embed/iNOE0dZpHcY

[Hulk_kitty]

Saying that, I think your therapist is right.