Feeling very unwanted/undesired in my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I really feel unwanted and under-appreciated in my relationship and it's starting to really hurt.

I feel like I do all the giving but never really get anything back.

I pay for most things most of the time in our relationship despite us both working. I don't know what happens to most of his money. I never get treated to anything like a dinner or other form of simple night out. I don't even get a random text during the day to let me know I'm being thought of. I get brief phone calls during the day and they feel rushed. I get being at work and stuff but they literally last like a minute and that's it.

Sex is horrible anymore. We have a baby, so I totally understand having to kind of schedule sex now. But when it's mentioned and planned, it ends up not happening because he goes to sleep or does something else. It's like he gets my hopes up then just says screw it and doesn't follow through.

I get told I love you and stuff, but I don't know. I just feel really unwanted and feel like I'm only being kept around for money.

I know sex isn't the most important thing but it's like damn. You lose interest in a promise of sex THAT easy? Wow. It makes me feel even more like my feelings don't matter, my desires aren't important and it's all about him and what he wants.

I am very supportive of him and whatever he likes. If he likes it, I support him. I even go to events I'm not particularly into just to show my support. But it just feels like I don't get the same respect in return. If it's something he wants to do, he's all for it. But it feels like he doesn't really care much about what I think or things I might want to do. And again with sex. He brings it up, I show my eager interest, he says we will, I get my hopes up, then boom - I don't get sex.

I get being tired. I do a lot more for our child so I don't get much sleep, but I don't act like this. I just feel super unwanted and under-appreciated.

Any advice?

[PeachyPie93]

Sounds like most guys.. not sure what to do about it.. the thing with money tho, what made you want to have a kid with him when you don't know what he does with his money and he expects you to pay most things? That sounds like a major red flag..

[ProbablyClueless]

I wonder if taking a vacation together would help rekindle things. When there are communication problems in a relationship, sex is always the first thing to go.

[moneymagnet24]

Girl you deserve to be loved
You deserve better 😌

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly relationship coach, I'm here to tell you that you deserve to feel loved and cherished, not overlooked! First, communication is key. Open a dialogue with your partner about your feelings. Share what's eating at you like a leftover pizza calling your name at 2 AM! Ghosting emotionally is a red flag. You need to express your love map clearly—no one's a mind-reader!

Invest time in creating shared experiences that aren't about obligations—more like spontaneous coffee dates that'll make you feel like you're in a rom-com! A relationship thrives on mutual affection and appreciation, not just split bills or half-hearted "love you's." Make sure your relationship is a two-way street and not a detour to Loneliness City.✨💖

[dudewithnoname]

I know where you're coming from as its sorta happening to me

[Asker]

I'm now on night 2 of not even being told I love you before bed, so yeah. Feeling pretty crappy.

[Asker]

I really hope you get something resolved. You sint deserve to be treated like that and I really hope you find a solution. I'm sorry you're going through something similar.