Why people who want serious relationships don't meet decent people?

Question

I have a very cold view on marriage now. I was ready for marriage last year, but not now. The feelings are not the same as before.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because good people with good intentions always get screwed over and not in that way, the bad person always gets their way and I dont know why blesses people who are cheater, liars, manipulators... shout out to Arooj Jafri from Mississauga who enjoyed playing games and hurting guys on purpose, what a pathetic human being she is.

MicahRaine · Accepted Answer

I don't have the answer to that. Maybe it's because indecent people like taking advantage of good people.

I've been burned twice when getting close to engagement/marriage. The first girl left me because "I loved her too much," and the second girl cheated on me and then left me for saying that it was hard for me to trust her.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Hey there! My aim here on Girls Ask Guys is to sprinkle a bit of relationship wisdom with a dash of charisma. It's a jungle out there with love, my friend! Often, serious seekers meet folks who aren't on the same page, which leads to ghosting and mixed signals. Love can sometimes feel like an elusive unicorn! 🦄 Maybe it’s about timing or that haunting red flag what-ifs. Don’t lose hope; the right vibe attracts the right tribe. Good things take time! 🌟

Avicenna · Answer

It’s hard to find someone compatible who wants the same type of relationship and there are also a lot of messed up people out there who happen to be single.

NachoAverageUser · Answer

I don't believe in the words of decent person, more I believe you have to meet people who have the same values as you, if you don't have the same values, its not going to work.

Your still young, 20 years old. I would suggest focusing on your career or passion in life, and meet someone through those fields. My female cousin never had boyfriends until she became a doctor herself, and she has boyfriend who is also a doctor.

I would also suggest building strong friendships with guys, and get to know them is the best to form a relationship. This friendzoning crap, is rubbish it just meeans you only friend zone someone means in my eyes, you are not sexually attracted to them.

However I I don't believe in marriage either, because it doesn't prove your love to someone. Signing a contract just means a transaction and you are making the church rich.

I was going to say don't let bad relationships stop from trusting other guys, haha but I will say anyway. I say this because I no longer interested in dating women, after bad experiences, So i feel my words would be cheap to you.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It comes down to where you look

Nothing is new under the sun

You want a husband you hang around a church

You want a lover for the night you go to the bar

Problem is that people meet today and immediately begin planning how they’re gonna change one another

My last girlfriend fell very much in love with me
And I loved her too
But we had been dating for a few months only and haven’t even met parents or anything
She starts talking about marriage

At first I was humoring the concept
But made it clear I have no marriage plans for another 7 or 8 years at least

She would nod and say yes

But then little by little introduce different concepts and plans that can only be achieved with marriage

At some point she started pushing very hard

So i broke up with her.

The bottom line was: she wanted a husband and decided to mold me into one, that wasn’t happening because it’s disregarding what I want which is slow burning fire and long lasting romance way before marriage is even introduced

Anonymous · Answer

That's the irony of it all
The people who don't deserve is
Won't know what hit em
Once they give up and
say no to us
Because they miss out
On realizing what amazing unique special individuals
we are
All because of their ignorance and judgement
Sometimes the ones
we want the most
Are the ones who deserve us the least
Otherwise they would've seen our worth
Not overlook it

RageBabe · Answer

I've found that occasionally, when you're not purposely looking for a relationship, someone comes along and sweeps you off your feet, and one of the most wonderfully fulfilling relationships is formed.

Anonymous · Answer

Because most people who claim to want "serious" relationships really are not good people. They think they are, but they're not. Generally these people say they want a serious relationship. But they have a 100 qualifiers to it and don't want to concede much if anything. And that's what relationships are when you come right down to it, compromise.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I wasn't looking for a serious relationship, but then I met my husband. It can happen if you keep an open mind and keep your options open.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I think a lot of it is because when you want something, you tend to lower your boundaries a bit because you're hoping you've found what you're looking for.

SunnyRS · Answer

Well it's not necessarily about decent people luv, sometimes the person you are with is a good person but they are not compatible with you or want different things in life, that's why serious relationship don't work between both.
So, don't give up on it yet and try to find someone who is compatible with your relationship needs, if you are looking for someone that is. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Shamalien · Answer

Sometimes it is god’s will that you will endure some trials…

Anonymous · Answer

Plenty of decent people tolerate shitty people in the name of decency, so they keep attracting more shitty people.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Decent people attract other decent people.  💩 attracts flies.

dudegreat91 · Answer

When you push too much for a serious relationship it drives guys like me away. So its better to start something casual and then let things flow naturally

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

I am the same way. It is very hard to trust someone

msc545 · Answer

You are fortunate. Marriage is a nightmare in the US.

Ironic_Method · Answer

They do, but most people are not compatible so it feels like things don't work out. It only has to work once.

kaucky1 · Answer

Try not to take them all seriously when they not be truthful tend to tell on themselves re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Cheerfull009 · Answer

All men are not same, there are some good people also, try to find good man

jahaims · Answer

If you can't find/attract a decent man that says more about you. Sounds like decent men avoid you.

NathanDavis · Answer

it might be just some bad timing...

Slim57 · Answer

Because most people aren't decent re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Kayleigh2005 · Answer

I sure don’t trust anyone

slatyb · Answer

Maybe they are, but they are rejecting them.

coxoabean · Answer

I feel you. Some people stink these days:(

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

It sounds like a you problem

samet7777 · Answer

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