What do you think is the best solution to the declining number of people that desire relationships?

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MisterWack · Accepted Answer

Lower the temperature of gender lines.

Sexist men think all women are ultra feminists that force them into submission while sexist women think the growing pressures from society & radical controversial hot takes make them grow further towards isolation / away from men…

On both sides, dating sites make money either way you get a successful match or not and the overwhelming feeds from online presence from social media jamming marriage & happy dates & perfect couples living in a luxury house…. That really makes men and women feel more isolated as ever.

We need to lower the temperature with education, reassurance, love, appreciation, and respect from women to men & men to women. Period. We need to come together, not push apart. And if your loved one or family member is stuck in a loop of social media anxiety talk them to put down the phone & live their true life without comparing to others. Make them feel delighted to be in the moment, not stress about the future…. It is never too late to change the path you are one and self improve. You can make a difference and must. Thank you.

TDDMS · Accepted Answer

I don't have a solution, but I do have a good understanding as to how this problem is going to traject. The reality is that we have too many women who are undesirable. Normal men don't want women covered in ink and have an obscene number piercings and hair color. Or women who have children from prior relationships. What we as a society need to prepare ourselves for is that there will be a growing demographic of women that will be single and undesirable. For those women, trying to reform them is a waste of time. Instead we as a society should use those women as examples to teenagers and young women as how not to be. When women become more describable, men will want to form relationships with them.

lin123_ · Accepted Answer

I seriously doubt that people prefer being single to being in a relationship today. I think it only seems like that because dating is very exhausting and often leads to disappointments. First of all, it's hard to meet people; online dating sucks, yet it's the easiest way to meet anyone if you don't have any friends who can accompany you to events or introduce you to someone. Then when you eventually go on a date with someone, you might realize you two don't click, they aren't what they seemed like, and then you have to start all over. If you do get along and start dating, then something might still go wrong along the way.

Valdemort · Accepted Answer

Direct communication.
So many people waste relationships because they don't directly express their wants and needs.
Just be to the point, without taking advantage of the other.

No beating around the bush.
No setting expectations neither can meet.
No saying A doing B.
Be straightforward, be clear, be honest about it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Not a problem for me. I don't need half the planet. I only need one woman and I found her.

I think the social ineptitude of the younger generation is a direct result of living too much of your lives in the digital world and not enough IRL.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

People have to wake up from the following which is either either stupidity, inflated ego, of following certain ideologies

- cutting off bad friends who are a bad influence
- not following social norms (ie: independent life is the most meaningful life)
- avoiding falling under the trap of politicians both right and left giving false promises where people assume this individualistic world we live in where it eliminates the idea of a family unit
- women and girls who are moderate at best have to stop thinking they are the shit
- women and girls have to stop listening to feminist extremists
- the pain you go through in life by others should shape you to be a good person, be clear with your intentions, don’t waste time on others who won’t give you that reassurance
- the toxicity of dating apps where females either use it for an ego boost or finding a 10/10 man that will pursue you— enough with the fairy tale Disney BS, if that’s the case I may as well pretend Pamela Anderson will run towards me in her 1996 form.
- listen to God’s principles on the importance of the role of the man and the the role of a woman, the importance of marriage, and sins behind dating and having sex for fun and games.

SixFootSexy · Answer

Countries have to make housing affordable - not an investment but a utility - so that young couple can start a family. They have to make having a family incentivized and adultery harshly punished.

Lack of values make a society degenerate and not desire supporting the other sex and in some places, enmity because young men see women as nagging feminists or OF p*rn stars and women see men as lazy deadbeats or cheaters. The solution could be implemented today and it would still take 2 generations to turn the ship around.

blueonblack22 · Answer

The thing is a lot of people need to find out the hard way on this. Lots of “modern” young women (and some men) want to reject relationships, marriage and child bearing to purse “themselves.” Then later in life they regret their decisions.

I had a good conversion with a middle aged career woman two weeks ago about this. She said she had a bad relationship with a man, once had an abortion, then started dating women and fully embraced the leftist ideology.

Now later in life she completely regrets her past decisions especially the abortion. It’s women like her who need to speak up more. Because these “modern” young women definitely don’t want to listen to men. In fact they usually embrace the “defiance of patriarchy” by doing the opposite of what men suggest. But they later come to regret it.

BetaBucks · Answer

Magically convincing the selfish population to stop being selfish and the plow horse population to stop enabling them.

Honestly, this sounds extremely basic, but it all comes down to hormones. Which is a direct result of poor lifestyle which is absolutely not basic. If we can solve our physical health crisis, we'll solve a lot of the mental health crisis. Proper diet, exercise, and avoiding addictive substances would fix 90% of our society's relationship problems.

hahahmm · Answer

People thought it was a good idea to tinker with eons of tradition and make individual freedom and making as much money as possible was more important than building a family. They also believed that getting rid of shaming would improve society but it hasn't at all. So the solution is easy: un-tinker.

WhitneySnow · Answer

If girls would stop hooking up with guys, guys would want relationships more. But a lot of women feel like hooking up is either celebrating their sexual freedom (maybe) or it’s the best way to catch a guy (it’s not).

alice55 · Answer

Men stopping to spread lie about women, on YouTube / tiktok there's so many video where women are considered as slut and cheater who have tons of option and have multiple sexual partner while the reality is the total reverse. Yesterday they showed the percentage of average age and average sex partner in a life of a man and woman and men had 18 partner in their life while women only had 6, men also cheat 70 % of them cheat in relationship for only 30 % of women, first age of sex for woman 18 / 19 and for men 17 but weirdly on youtube all video make women out to be cheating money hungry slut for some reasons... If those video didn't exist and spread lie a lot more men would be more into relationship. Also the ONS culture and the saying that "girlfriend don't matter you can cheat, slap them or disrespect her it doesn't matter since you aren't gonna marry her anyway..."

NathanOlipop · Answer

I could write a giant message about every major gate that keeps people incompatible at different ages, but instead I'm going to write a short message about the source of the gates themselves. The modern entertainment industry and the US department of justice. Modern entertainment has shown both genders how to have unrealistic expectations while the US department of justice has caused irreparable damage in all forms of health to both genders while also evading any change of mending the total damage done, trying instead of benefit from it in a gain of power. If both of those things disappeared, there's a chance our children would at least be happy, but even the happiness of our children, let alone other people's children, isn't what people care about when they themselves are sitting there taking all society down with them.

sage2021 · Answer

I think they need to stay off of these social media sites that are reprogramming people's brains.
This is totally against Mother nature and again what God designed us to do. The Bible says to be fruitful and multiply. Well, how can you do that when you can't even get close to a woman anymore?

nastyb · Answer

I don't think people have stopped desiring relationships. Its just that people no longer need each other financially which has lead to decline in marriage and also people don't want to learn how to get over obstacles in a relationship. They think grass is always greener on the other side,

Lynx122 · Answer

I think it's a personal thing, relationships are more difficult right now but we have to overcome that. Of course it would be nice if our environment changed in a way that was more beneficial to relationships but even if that happens we'll be 60 or even older by the time there's meaningful change. So we just have to do the best with the cards we were dealt for those who want a relationship and for those who have given up and don't want one they just have to live with that too.

laurieluvsit · Answer

There is someone out there for everybody :)

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

People need the time and energy to pursue relationships instead of being so stressed & tired & working all the time. They also need a decent option of partner to pursue relationship with, since marriage is no longer necessary in many cases. How to make that happen, well who's to say? ...

Gopnik · Answer

i don't really know but my personal experiences have just proven to me that just wanting a wife & kids ain't it. i'm pretty done with girls at the moment, the mind games and all the other crap like casual sex is too much for me so i give up.

if someday i come across a girl who's worth my attention i'll try but untill then i'm just gonna enjoy nature and get away from all the crap social media forces upon us.

slayxme · Answer

Battle of the Gender to stop and overcome being hurt by both sides. So both genders can be open hearted and try believing in love again…

Dongie · Answer

It sounds like it's due to feministic beliefs. True conservative ladies for the most part don't seem to fall for that crap. Although there are the exception to the rule.

dragoblack · Answer

Start teaching people relationships are not about being pampered or getting laid. It's best friends with romantic benefits, which means it's a matter of taking the effort to get to know the person you are interested in, pushing passed the inconveniences & bumps, and emotionally maturing passed your insecurities.

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Answer

The solution would be to stop being self-centered assholes. Man or woman, that's the root cause of most of our issues, including this. People suck and seem to get worse as time goes on.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

People want to go up the class by marriage. In old days, people who look like the person who seducing rich men and rich women were popular like Madonna. These days rich people marry to rich people thanks to the internet. So people are frustrated. So they don’t want to get married?

JesseP1nk · Answer

Society goes more on the left politically. i think that is a pretty good indicator why relationships does not work out.

Crimsyjo · Answer

I wish I knew. I see lots of people throwing blame around but not solutions.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Nothing. Seems like a lot of upsides to me! Singles get to be selfish and really enjoy life Consistently having less kids will help everybody once that demographic bubble works it's way out

Justneedtokno · Answer

What are their goals and what are their ideas of aftercare look like like elderly care. Also, what is their thoughts on partnerships?

236color · Answer

Increased financial security. I don't mean people should work harder, I mean rich people should stop hogging so much.

Belgie · Answer

Be less entitled. Stop thinking you deserve a certain kind of partner. Be someone that other people want to be with.

Miristheiss · Answer

This generation is ruined. New generations have to come along with different values and priorities.

slatyb · Answer

Source? The number of people desiring children is declining. I don't know about relationships.

Djaay · Answer

To try and hold on to or save something for long periods of time that's eventually is going to deteriorate and age quickly is as blatantly as stupid as it gets. once it's over , it's over and alone u are with nothing to even glance at.

Unit1 · Answer

Cease the gender war and resilience towards the bad persons and experiences instead of dwelling in a world of hurt.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

There is no hope for this generation. BUT we can raise kids to be better people! re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

tzdc21 · Answer

Recognize tge dating struggles of both women AND MEN, and change the divorce laws

NewWaves · Answer

The phrase "y'all need Jesus" comes to mind

_tallmccartney · Answer

I don’t think that people don’t desire relationships anymore. It’s just that the process of finding someone and dating is exhausting. It’s simply not worth the risk and it’s a waste of time. I’d rather spend that time and energy on other things.

Passerby2 · Answer

it's hard to say. probably more men in a successful economic position and less crazy women thinking men deserve punishment

genericname85 · Answer

less identity politics. that'll bring people closer.

BoobMan · Answer

I think most people still desire relationships. Some just can't get out of their own way.

Dan_5001 · Answer

Remove / terminate OF  Put time limits on social media like 8 am to 4 pm or something like that.  Change the concepts or revamp dating apps.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Get the government out of interpersonal relationships.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Translator  feminism, woke culture, social media

noohair · Answer

Social Media has ruined dating and courtship...

Jeitnf · Answer

Men stop pumping and dumping us like trash. They lie to get laid too

LiamJHayden · Answer

Natural selection

Crankor · Answer

Get rid of social media

shades777 · Answer

America isn't very social probably best to move

Kelley1 · Answer

That is good.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Make Relationships Great Again

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Nothing let them be

Slim57 · Answer

Ban dating apps

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